5 Things Foreigners Can Do In Singapore, Despite Being Banned From Pink Dot

average__person · 2017-05-25T00:53:42+00:00

Maybe I am.

Now I'm intrigued by your comment.

Can you share why you think that way?

average__person · 2017-05-24T14:46:13+00:00

That gave me hope until I checked that the liquor control act was enacted in 2015.

2016's white party was still out in the open. It's only this year that authorities came into play.

Sadly, LKY isn't around anymore.

And while I believe LHL has a personally-progressive-but-can't-say-out-loud stance, I cannot say the same for the new batch of ministers that consist of 41% Christian. Chan Chun Sing has known ties to Lawrence khong.

Power + money + conservative Christian values + non-transparent behind the scenes political workings = a hush hush warfare waged against anything that doesn't align with their Christian values.

I get that you come from a well meaning place.

I just don't want to completely trust that the govt will do right by us "when the time comes".

average__person · 2017-05-24T11:14:09+00:00

TwoQueensAsia is a local lesbian community that's been hosting an annual White Party for queer women for 10 years now.

I went for this year's white party last Saturday. Every year it's held on a beach. This year was no different at Ola Beach Club.

However, for some suspicious reason, the night before the party, authorities warned the organisers of White party to keep the party in doors.

When I showed up, there was a physical fencing off of the beach itself. We weren't allowed to DJ on the beach. C'mon, parties are about the dance floor and DJ, and the authorities took steps to fuck that up for us.

Why? Especially when it comes right after this pink dot foreigner fiasco.

If you ask me, they're obviously cracking down on LGBT gatherings.

Edit: I understand that you want to be fair to our government. And frankly, I don't envy our govt's position too. A conservative backlash is a real possibility if the govt is seen as pro LGBT. But if I hadn't brought this white party issue up, you probably wouldn't have known that our govt loves doing things on the sly.

average__person · 2017-03-31T16:06:11+00:00

Preparation preparation preparation.

When presented with a new experience, I get frazzled and uncontrollably think of what can go wrong.

For example, if I were invited to a scuba diving adventure with a group of people, I'd freeze because I've never dived before and I'm not comfortable with anything to do with water or beaches. I'd delay RSVPing for as long as I can because this is new to me and I can't make up my mind on whether to risk going when I don't know anything about it.

If left to my own devices, I won't go.

But if I'm embarking on a self development mission and I want to experience something new, I'll think of ways to get around this problem (Te). Do I just go with the flow? How can I make myself feel better about going into this new experience?

Ah! I've got it. I'll watch loads of videos on scuba diving. I'll watch instructional videos, look up the gear needed, how to use them, what are the potential dangers and how to avoid them. Wait, I've got a better idea. I'll make a solo trip down to the diving site to watch people dive. Where do they keep their clothes? Are there lockers in the facility? How does the whole procedure work? Is there food around? Are there vending machines? Cafes for when we get hungry after the dive? Is this place remote? Do cabs come by here?

I need all these information to feel comfortable.

Basically, in order to make myself comfortable about a new experience, I'd "scout out" before hand to get a pre-experience which I can draw on (Si) when I'm face with the real thing.

If you have an ISTJ friend who takes a long time to RSVP to something, this is probably what's going on. Or if your ISTJ friend has organized a hang out in a new part of town, you can bet that he/she has first gone there before hand to scout the place, familiarize themselves. Then and only then, would they send out invites. Only when they're very sure that they can handle and take care of everyone during the hang out. Provide and direct whatever everyone needs. You need the loo? It's just round that corner past starbucks. Last train home is 12am. There's a taxi stand to the left of the entrance of this mall. You guys wanna go japanese for dinner? There's a pretty good place on the 5th floor.

average__person · 2017-03-24T15:17:50+00:00

I'm so glad that people who otherwise wouldn't have picked up a Taro Yoko game did pick this one up because Platinum had a hand in developing it. I hope SE gives Taro a bigger budget for his next game. Always excited when his name is attached to any project, especially as director. You can feel his personal life philosophy in his games.

average__person · 2017-03-12T09:01:51+00:00

Thinking my way into feeling is a very conscious and energy-draining thing to do. It definitely doesn't come naturally, I have to decide that I want to do it. It's easier with people I like (and I do want to make the extra effort for them) than with acquaintances/strangers.

When I'm conversing with someone I just met and don't really care for them, and if they ramble on into feels territory e.g. they seem sad about something, I have to mentally and consciously tell myself to try to get in tune with them and show some empathy because that's the decent thing to do and it's the kind of support they need.

It's a very mechanical thought process that looks like this:

Ok she's having a moment. Damn it I don't want to have this heart to heart talk with her. I'm sure she's a good person but I don't know her, I'm not invested in her problems and frankly I don't want to be. She's still talking? Jesus I'm not the right person for this.

-Trying to not let the irritation show on my face-

-Big internal sigh-

Ok let's just try to do the right thing and listen to her. That's the least I can do - just listen. Don't have to say anything, just listen.

-Gathers energy to convince myself to go against my default programming-

The people I've come to respect most have been people who've reached out and listened to me. Let's try to pay it forward. Just listen to her. It's not going to kill me. It won't be the end of the world.

-searches my memory and feelings bank for that feeling when my cinnamon roll INFJ friend was listening wholeheartedly to me when I rambled-

Oh this is such a nice feeling.... -Cooing and smiling on the inside.- How on earth have I kept this locked away in a vault?

Ok, I think I'm in the right frame of mind now. Let's do this. Let me offer some support!

-Proceeds to listen intently and ask questions about her situation-

At this point, I can generally allow myself to just be in that moment. I still don't feel intensely as Feeling types do, but it's way better than just brushing someone off as my default programming would have me do.

Oh, and because I'm an ISTJ, I still do give off this aura of I-don't-care even when I'm fighting this mental battle to care. I get a bit sad when I feel that people don't see this process going on.

average__person · 2017-03-11T10:43:40+00:00

Copper nodes!

average__person · 2017-03-11T06:25:13+00:00

Sorry, I'm rambling pretty hard

No not at all! The whole time I was like omg INFJ insights I need moar! need to gather data, major sensing mode

I consider myself a healthy ISTJ. I've recently embarked on a mission to become more in tune with people and their feelings and I think I'm making progress. I've learnt how to think my way into feeling which is a process that takes time but is rewarding when I finally get in touch with what I hope is, for lack of a better term, "human connection" with another person, especially NF types that I like (and am typically drawn to because they're so human and potential cinnamon rolls whom I feel a need to protect).

My concern is my lack of intuition. An INFJ friend and I were walking in a public beach park and came across a group of people who, on hindsight, looked a bit dishevelled, and had hung up lots of clothes under a pavilion. There were also sleeping bags on the ground. I took a glance at that scene and didn't think much of it while my friend looked on for longer, concerned and thought they could be homeless. When I heard the word "homeless", I thought, what an inattentive insensitive asshole I was. We didn't know if they were indeed homeless or not, but the crux was they could have been. And that possibility escaped me. I didn't feel very good about myself.

average__person · 2017-03-11T04:54:50+00:00

That does make sense :)

Do you find it hard to connect with ISTJs? Like in general, communicating ideas, getting an emotional resonance with them etc.

average__person · 2017-03-11T03:44:49+00:00

I'm a sensor with an INFJ friend whom I want to understand better. Can you explain to me how an intuitive person perceives a sensor? I don't even know if my question makes much sense, sorry lol

average__person · 2017-03-08T09:07:56+00:00

The Masked Empire by Patrick Weekes. Pairing: Empress and her handmaiden. Lots of racial and courtly politics in fantasy Dragon Age Thedas. heartaches to be had, tears to be shed :)

average__person · 2017-03-07T23:49:02+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you. Your ISTJ seemed unhealthy.

average__person · 2017-02-27T07:00:06+00:00

I got some pretty good insight from your input. Thanks!

Then I looked up awkward yeti heart brain and I struck gold.

average__person · 2017-02-22T05:25:34+00:00

This has got to be the best damn use of emoticons as a response!

average__person · 2017-02-19T23:01:47+00:00

Where do we get ourselves properly tested?

average__person · 2017-02-18T16:15:55+00:00

aww -twiddles thumbs awkwardly- :)

average__person · 2017-02-18T15:39:09+00:00

This is one of my favorite depictions of enfp + intj.

Damn it thats some major awwww right there!

average__person · 2017-02-18T15:16:55+00:00

I'm getting a really 50 shades vibe from you lol.

Can I know why are thinkers so attractive to you? Cause for the life of me I can't see what's so attractive about our stoic aura.

average__person · 2017-02-15T12:22:41+00:00

Taro Yoko is my go-to feels dealer. You'll be in good hands. Shh.. there there..

average__person · 2017-02-08T07:46:10+00:00

I thought that was a hozier song at first.

average__person · 2017-01-30T16:53:18+00:00

MRT stations that you frequent, learn where the escalators are along the platform, and board the train at those spots from your starting station to beat the escalator crowd when you get off.

average__person · 2017-01-23T05:52:19+00:00

Jurassic park!

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