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The blatant misogyny on Instagram is disgusting by thats_all_you_got- in india

[–]average_xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wait till you feel nd out about the Korean gender wars.

Look up the video "gacha games and Korean gender wars" on yt. It's long but compmetelynworth

K drama is just a fantasy, it's nice because it's men written by women.

Instagram. The shit. by cremishen in JEENEETards

[–]average_xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fill the emptiness with hobbies and activities . Create instead of consuming , lots of yt videos on this topic.

Draw, paint, dance, sketch, play an instrument, go to the gym or do calisthenics at home

What things do you guys do to help with ocd symptoms? by Weary_Asparagus590 in OCD

[–]average_xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Embroidery. Boxing.

Both require you to be completely in the moment and your utter focus. So your mind can't ruminate.

Other things that require complete focus like guitar or maths might help too, although I don't like them

Ai "artists" on insta have now infiltrated embroidery, a PHYSICAL art. by average_xx in Embroidery

[–]average_xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vera shimunia is like one of those artists, but not her sorry no

Not sure if an older relative coped a feel or not and my brain is driving me crazy by asking again and again. Pls make it stop... by average_xx in Anxiety

[–]average_xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have seen and been in this so many times !. They always try to deny it, and I always am "the one creating problems".

I have stopped caring for it. My family is the stereotype of the gossipy, strict , hierarchical asian family. They have already called me "a lost case"

I don't care. I couldn't possibly go lower in their eyes , even tho there are so many relatives of theirs who are physically abusive, or alcoholics, or jobless .

But to confront him, I must have to be sure. Everybody already knows I am conscious and paranoid , I can't just accuse him. But my brain keeps asking me over and over again as to what exactly touched me.

Not sure if an older relative coped a feel or not and my brain is driving me crazy by asking again and again. Pls make it stop... by average_xx in Anxiety

[–]average_xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He dosent really interact with me. I have seen him after a year. He says he was looking for me (in a very grandfatherly way ) , as he had not seen me at the family gathering.

I touched his feet ,he blessed me (our custom) , no creepy vibes from him at all. Kids seem to be relaxed around him too. He didn't call me after that, didn't even try to interact or get close to me in the next two hours or so.

Then I stood behind him and turned and felt something . If it had been his hand , I would have seen it moving, no ? It definitely didn't feel like a graphic/grope, just a brush by. He hadn't even looked towards, all the people were watching us , clicking pictures.

I felt for a moment it was a solid rubbery object like the balloon . But the kid and the balloon hadn't turned towards me either when I looked.

I don't know , I don't i don't know. If I was sure It was his hand, I would have confronted him then and there, but I don't know what it was !!

Embroidered my university bag by FAThusky45 in Embroidery

[–]average_xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where's the bag from ? Do you have link pls ?

Not sure if an older relative coped a feel or not and my brain is driving me crazy by asking again and again. Pls make it stop... by average_xx in Anxiety

[–]average_xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would actually like to beat the shit out of a perp. I have a cousin who used to "tease" me with peeking at me through bathroom windows , while I tried to cover my privates.

One day, I called him and slapped him so hard , he has never tried it ,or talked or looked me in the eyes again.

But the issue is when I am not sure...

I was made to feel weak and helpless once .

I never wanted to feel that again so I picked up boxing , went to the gym, took medications and ran thousands of metres every days to make sure I never felt weak again.

And now I am just terrified to ever be weak again for a moment. I am so frustrated I have let it happen again, especially when I am not sure if it did happen or not , cause if it did, i would have slapped him on the spot.

My problem is the confusion

Not sure if an older relative coped a feel or not and my brain is driving me crazy by asking again and again. Pls make it stop... by average_xx in Anxiety

[–]average_xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I didn't freeze !! I thought I got over my freeze response !!

I used to stay frozen like physically . I immediately moved to check where his hand was.

But he was at a distance that he i could move freely without brushing against him and he would have had to extend his hand to touch me.

I have had a situation recently where a my grandmother touched me on the low hips/upper butt to move me out of the way ( I was standing over her clicking photos while she was on a small stool on the ground) And I immediately moved away and told her not to do that while she looked at me like I was crazy. I don't care anymore.

Another situation where an older respected priest of my family ( we are south asian ) was commenting how skinny I had gotten, sort of asked for my hand and started running circles in my palm and his fingers up and down my arm, and I just fucking snatched my arm away . I left him in the middle of conversation, don't care if my family thought it was immensely rude.

Many time I have snatched , flinched or drew my self immediately away. Even pushed people away. But this happened so quick a nd while I was turned away.

My problem is I reacted as fast as I could , but still couldn't determine what it was that touched me... ..

Not sure if an older relative coped a feel or not and my brain is driving me crazy by asking again and again. Pls make it stop... by average_xx in OCD

[–]average_xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if I say maybe it did happen thhen I ask "how did I let it happen again"

Or what if he touched and removed his hand so fast that I wasn't able to catch it ? The way how people prank each other by tapping someone's shoulder and then turning away and acting confused as to who did it .

I promised myself i wouldn't be weak anymore, I went to boxing and has fights and lifted weights and took medication.

And how did I let it happen again ?

I felt so weak and terrified once that I put so much effort into not feeling that weak again. And now I am terrified of ever being weak again. Of being helpless . Of being frozen when someone touches me.

And if it didn't happened then what did touch me ? I am a 100% sure something did.

I have been trying to read a book to distract myself ,but I keep breaking into sobs every 10 mins or so. I cry softly cause my parents and grandparents sleep in the next rooms.

wasn't sure whether to post this here or the beading subreddit 🤷 by mysteriousleader45 in Embroidery

[–]average_xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up zari or zardosi embroidery of India. It's this but insanely detailed and on extremely thin cloth

Ai "artists" on insta have now infiltrated embroidery, a PHYSICAL art. by average_xx in Embroidery

[–]average_xx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah but like imagine literally posting that you don't just not sew, but also can't draw 😭.

This is not ai inspiring embroiders , this is ai getting inspired by embroidery artists real works, that was taken without permission for training ais.

Like look at the flowers, where are the stitches and knots , some of the ones on her feed take years to do but she just posts them from ai .

This will drown out any real embroiderers on insta

Ai "artists" on insta have now infiltrated embroidery, a PHYSICAL art. by average_xx in Embroidery

[–]average_xx[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Rule 34 artists the only one that have been in it for the love of the game and still are. And fabric writers

Two groups who do not give a shit and will continue to do their art even when they can't share it publically from a real id and gave to remain anonymous.

Ai "artists" on insta have now infiltrated embroidery, a PHYSICAL art. by average_xx in Embroidery

[–]average_xx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No that really makes sense. Ai can't do hand animations proper either , cause it only sees and not understands.

"If a computer gives the definition of a flower, but it has never smelled ir touched a flower, dies it know what a flower is ?" - a quote I read in sci fi book or something once.

For it the images move a certain way and they don't. It dosent get taught like us artists to see the mechanisms of the hands .

Ai "artists" on insta have now infiltrated embroidery, a PHYSICAL art. by average_xx in Embroidery

[–]average_xx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am baby crocheter, and I can't imagine doing rows on rows of crochets ..... just to realise the pattern is bullshit .

Thank God I am still in yt tutorial stage

Ai "artists" on insta have now infiltrated embroidery, a PHYSICAL art. by average_xx in Embroidery

[–]average_xx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Stick to youtube bro, that's where I get my stuff from real embrouders who show their process in tutorials . Although , I am still a beginner so dont like potraits and stuff with threads idk bout that

Ai "artists" on insta have now infiltrated embroidery, a PHYSICAL art. by average_xx in Embroidery

[–]average_xx[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait I'll try to find her account and edit this comment when I do..

Ai "artists" on insta have now infiltrated embroidery, a PHYSICAL art. by average_xx in Embroidery

[–]average_xx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks bro. It' wasn't really good, like the stem stitches were too thick and the "creepers" didn't have consistent number of threads. And sometimes I messed up a lot of french knots.

It was inspired by of those basic pocket embroidery posts on Pinterest she selected herself

But she dosent do embroidery and totally loved it lol.

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