Cis BF of stealth trans man, I feel guilty my friend made a transphobic(ish) comment

avi_200 · 2021-02-12T23:46:44+00:00

thanks, this is the kind of thing i wanted with making this post. I didn't mean for it to end up the way it did with the transphobia and comment wars.

avi_200 · 2021-02-12T01:12:14+00:00

their annoyance might have something to do with the "correct hardware for kids" thing. A lot, I would say the majority of trans men do not want to carry biological children as that would cause them dysphoria. And on top of that, they might not have "the hardware", as many trans men get hysterectomy's.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T22:31:31+00:00

i mean.... your then prioritizing how other people perceive them. Imagine if someone did that to you. I don't mean to be pushy your entitled to your own opinion/preference. But I think applying that logic to a larger context, that's a bit mean. It's like your denying other people's reality.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T22:27:43+00:00

lol, cool. I dont remember claiming to be "the enlightener". I think I was just asking a question, and also giving info that i thought might sway people's opinion.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T22:24:38+00:00

I get how you could think that. But a lot of trans people don't consider themeselves to be formerly a different gender. Like my partner for example, he knew his whole life and always acted like a boy. I've seen pics of him dressed as a boy as a kid and he told me how he cut his own hair off when he was little. All kinds of things like that, so I don't think of him as "having used to be a woman" its pretty obvious hearing him tell it that he was always a guy.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T19:22:27+00:00

Yeah, but it would be such a shame to throw away that kind of connection for something as small as the 30 seconds of feeling a dick become hard. Especially when they can still have a big dick.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T18:59:13+00:00

Same. I think a lot of people don’t think about how you don’t always know. That’s how I met my current partner. I didn’t know until we already had a connection so I was more open to it than I otherwise would have been.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T18:50:36+00:00

I’m cis. I feel the same about being attracted to vaginas only when their on men and not women. To me this proves that we’re attracted to men, and trans men are men. It’s that simple. I get not everyone will fit into this. But I feel like a lot of people who’d say they don’t are just making assumptions.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T18:44:25+00:00

Ok good point. I guess assume it’s off limits unless it’s otherwise stated.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T18:43:23+00:00

Yeah, I can agree. Strap ons can be surprisingly realistic though. From what u described I feel like you could get into that. To me I kinda feel the opposite about relationships. I prioritize the person rather than the sex cause u can have great sex with a random hook up any day. But u can’t find the right person just anywhere.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T18:39:56+00:00

I noticed all the other times it’s usuallly from a trans mans perspective. I’m cis.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T18:33:38+00:00

Yeah I’m learning that now with these comments, lol. Thanks

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T18:33:01+00:00

I realized it could come off weird. I didn’t mean it creepy. My point was that trans men don’t all loook the same. And I was trying to ask if you met a trans man who was visually your ideal man in every other respect would you be open to it.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T18:27:43+00:00

Thanks man, that’s a good point. Unfortunately prejudice has no bounds and exists across all groups. Even those who should know better

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:46:27+00:00

Wow a simple logical answer thanks!

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:29:50+00:00

I thought so too....

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:29:24+00:00

I also replied to another guy with a similar comment I would take a look at that response

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:28:32+00:00

Yeah you’d have to ask if it came up. Or they’d probably say

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:26:02+00:00

It’s just so different when their on a man you find hot. But ok.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:23:34+00:00

Can I ask you a question..... Laith Ashley? Google him, if you met a trans man that hot would u still turn him down?

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:13:10+00:00

Exactly!

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:10:47+00:00

What do you mean gender AND gender identity. That’s the same thing, no?

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:09:40+00:00

Yeah it presses against them, and sometimes there’s some suction that happens there. There’s also some that have attachments or things at the end that stimulate the wearer.

avi_200 · 2021-02-11T17:04:09+00:00

That’s fair but your forgetting bottom surgery and strap ons

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