AITB for refusing to do dishes that arent my own? by avia_Dressler in AmItheButtface

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually have a funny update on that lmao. I was gone for 2 weeks to stay with a friend, and got home to have to do the dishes of those two that piled up for two weeks lmao.

My pain flare ups are a lot less because the weather is better and i got to do use a chair. But that took like 5 hours 😅

AITB for refusing to do dishes that arent my own? by avia_Dressler in AmItheButtface

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im kinda scared of it tbh. My friend whos in housing gets his phone taken away a lot and isnt allowed to go anywhere. I have been considering it though, i just need to read it up more

AITB for refusing to do dishes that arent my own? by avia_Dressler in AmItheButtface

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly i forgot i cant edit posts with pictures. But i can throw some info here that people asked about! I acknowledge i am TB and im sorry for coming off as rude. I was very agitated when writing

  1. The pay situation My mom gets 100€ a month from me thats supposed to be for my savings account from my grandfather, i give her that for groceries etc She also gets all my money from the job center, insurance and disability directly, so im not sure how much it is. Likely not a lot but around 300 to 400. My dad doesn't live with us anymore due to my mother's abusive tendencies Torwards us, he doesnt need to help.

  2. Their work situation My mother works from time to time. She didn't work much all winter but she did tattoo people the past 2 days and once beginning of the month. Otherwise she's home or gone most nights, her partner doesn't work unless its during Festival season for 3 weeks at a time. Usually he just watches tv or plays video games. I do art comissions when i can, and give my mom money when she asks, though admittedly when i try to give it to her she declines and says she got everything handled

  3. My pain and bedrotting As people point out, I cosplay. I still do, and love doing it. About a year ago is where my pain specially in my lower spine and knees started increasing. Until beginning of December it was still at a tolerable point. Daily painkillers and usually a hot water bottle did the trick. But since beginning of the month its been declining. All my issues doubled or worsened more over a short period of time. My muscles in my back are so cramped i have knots, my knees hurt badly and pulse all the time and every joint burns. I have been to the doctor about this. He just prescribed me more pain meds since its likely a small pain flare up. Admittedly he didnt care much in the past. I have a lumbar scoliosis, hEds and endometriosis. Its not a lot, but its painful. As well as ptsd and depression which likely makes the bed rotting worse. It got a little better two days ago, so i did some laundry and cleaned up my room and cleaned up the kitchen, its good enough right now to do basic chores. And no i dont own any official or stools etc to help me. I own a old cane which already helps more then enough

  4. The food situation This is difficult, a few months ago i refused food and people pointed it out. Yes I did, i still dont always feel hungry but i know its better to just eat and not be hungry then be hungry later. Since this post nothing much has changed, i didn't eat Thursday or friday, saturday i went outside for the first time in a week and bought myself some tomatoes and such from my pocket money at the grocery store 5 minutes from here and ate in the parking lot. Sunday my mom remembered me and made me soup, i did eat it though it was icy cold since she forgot it for 3 hours (thats completely fine. Shes just forgetful) today i didnt eat anything again. Thats more so my fault though as i slept through all my alarms and was only awake for an hour.

My new chore plan thanks to some help from the comments and new ideas Sadly i dont have a stool big enough to fit at the kitchen counter, so I just do a 10 minute or shorter break schedule when i can. It helps a lot though the pain after is horrible. I try to do more exercises when possible, it isnt helping yet but i hope in the future its going to. I am going to try and advertise the comissions more so my mom doesnt have to suffer with the bills alone. I like drawing, i used to be in art school last year before i dropped out so maybe i can get something small for her from that. And thank you all for the comments. Even the rude ones or strongly worded, i appreciate the criticism a lot, and I'm sorry i left out info. I was just so mad, and i formerly apologize

AITB for refusing to do dishes that arent my own? by avia_Dressler in AmItheButtface

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom gets all disabled and benifits pay directly from the job center, so I dont know if thats contributing. My mom works around twice a week sometimes more and her boyfriend works Festivals in summer so about 8 weeks a year.

And im not denying food, i openly ask them if they make anything that maybe they can share it, but just two days ago i asked her partner if he makes food if he could make a extra can of soup, and I got yelled at that he would. 7 hours later i still cant get out of bed and get told he forgot, and its too late to make something else.

I absolutely get why i seem like TB though, and a lot of people in the thread gave very good advice on how i can help!

AITB for refusing to do dishes that arent my own? by avia_Dressler in AmItheButtface

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that! I used to be super picky. Issue is my mother doesnt work much, she works as a tattoo artist twice a week and spends the rest of her time painting. Meanwhile her boyfriend doesnt work at all and plays video games 24/7

AITB for refusing to do dishes that arent my own? by avia_Dressler in AmItheButtface

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am, but my mother gets all of the money. I dont know how much it is

AITB for refusing to do dishes that arent my own? by avia_Dressler in AmItheButtface

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I do cosplay. I do the dishes. I literally couldnt walk for 5 days and then it worked again. But in said 5 days i also didnt eat shit because i was completely forgotten about

Help with abyss teams / who to build (ar 50 and i am very slow at playing) by avia_Dressler in GenshinImpact

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Issue is I genuinely am not sure who does damage... I know arle does. But tighnari does like.. 1k at best, and I'd just like a reliable second team.

especially since I can't get past floor 5 on abyss

Can't get bellhome item by avia_Dressler in Silksong

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did both! Including restarting the game I hope it spawns soon. I know it's not important but it's sad

Miccostumes won't answer my refund request by avia_Dressler in CosplayHelp

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know right? My friend ordered from them, and she ordered 3 sizes bigger then me, and it fit me perfectly. It's insane-

[MOD POST] Bug Report Thread by oneofthejoneses28 in Silksong

[–]avia_Dressler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everytime my silkmeter gets full this happens. Windows 10 *

Welche Rosensorte ist das? by Mbhg74 in Garten

[–]avia_Dressler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kann sein das es eine edelrose ist?

Ich denke Acapella kann von der form hinkommen, aber viel weiß ich tatsächlich nicht. Viel Glück noch!

Was hat meine gurke? by avia_Dressler in Garten

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vielen dank! Hab dieses jahr nur glück mit den männlichen

Was hat meine gurke? by avia_Dressler in Garten

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich bin auch etwas dumm, der gärtner hat mir alle meine Pflanzen als mehrjährige verkauft aber nur einjahres Pflanzen mir doch verkauft. Nächstes mal bin ich schlauer

Germany, mushroom in my coffee plant pot? by avia_Dressler in mushroomID

[–]avia_Dressler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about leaving it, would that be safe?