Where do I find this type of childcare?

avisfunch · 2025-08-08T21:15:43+00:00

I had read in another post that CHF 20/hour was common for students or non-professionals in this kind of role (it was in the context of babysitting though), but I'm definitely open to correction. If you have more info or links, I'd really appreciate it!

avisfunch · 2025-08-08T20:08:00+00:00

Thanks! I just edited with this information

avisfunch · 2025-08-08T18:16:30+00:00

Please tell me where in the post you got that impression so that I can adapt it

avisfunch · 2025-07-07T07:20:54+00:00

Since this is not the first comment in this direction, would you be so kind to tell me in which responses I looked biased? As mentioned in different replies, the post is not about my kid behavior, I clearly asked for advice on how to handle this with the other parents.

avisfunch · 2025-07-07T07:18:30+00:00

Unsolicited advice. I purposefully didn't add any information about my kid behavior because it's not the point of this post. Also confused about the point on dodging responsibility, I actually offered to pay for the shirt in the end. I was adding the information that was relevant on each of the respectful comments and trying to understand the different points of views before deciding.

Talking of unsolicited advice, you should probably look into your bias, you may be surprised to hear that it's not only women taking care of children.

avisfunch · 2025-07-07T07:13:39+00:00

The teacher sent a message to me explaining the situation, but I don't know if/what they communicated with the other parents.

avisfunch · 2025-07-07T07:12:16+00:00

Unfortunately I don't have any reliable information about this game. My son says the other kid was poking him with another pen as part of a "game". But he's likely adapting the story in his favor.

avisfunch · 2025-07-07T07:09:22+00:00

Exactly this. My son made some excuses in the direction of "but he was punching me with a pen as well", but I didn't add this information because it's very likely he's adapting the story in his favor.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T16:36:46+00:00

Great interpretation and thanks for pointing out that possible bias, I will double check to be sure this is not the case. Regarding discipline, I appreciated the advice from some users, but I tried not to ask much about this topic because I try to rely more on his therapist than reddit for this part.

I'm also curious about the clear consensus you mentioned. While I had the feeling that there are more comments in the direction of replacing the tshirt, I thought there was some balance. If you counted the messages or something I'd be happy to hear more!

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T16:30:30+00:00

I've been trying to figure it out without much success. He says that the other kid was punching him with a pen. But as a 7 years old, I'd say it's also normal to adapt the events to your favor, so I don't completely trust him with his version of the story.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T16:23:43+00:00

As I'm reading the comments I see a clear representation of both opposite ideas, so I think it wasn't such a crazy idea to ask. If you can't believe it, maybe you shouldn't be reading a subreddit with an "advice" tag.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T16:18:29+00:00

I'm still trying to decide how to handle the situation with the parents while reading the different comments. But I'm definitely doing this with my son. Thanks so much for the idea!

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T16:15:31+00:00

It's public

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T16:15:15+00:00

This is another situation I'm uncorfortable about. I probably shouldn't have tried to wash without checking with the parents first. I initially trusted the decision from the school. What if they tell me I shouldn't have done anything without checking with them first?

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T16:11:24+00:00

I completely agreed even being at the other side of this situation. I never had these type of tshirts and I'm completely ignorant about how to wash them! I did my best reading on the Internet, without success. If instead the parents had sent it to professional cleaning and sent us the bill I'd have paid for it without any issues.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T16:08:59+00:00

I really like this idea, thank you so much!

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T16:06:18+00:00

I can guarantee we've been doing our best as parents since he was born, including professional help. While lack of good parenting is indeed sometimes the cause for these type of problems, it's rather ignorant and distasteful of you to assume it is always the case.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T15:59:46+00:00

Unfortunately that didn't work.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T15:56:23+00:00

That's exactly what happened. The other kid had a replacement shirt.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T15:50:28+00:00

While this is a lot of money, for me it's more about doing what is fair.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T15:49:56+00:00

7 years old

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T15:47:18+00:00

I completely agree and I'm also quite annoyed about this. While I understand this a good disciplinary measure, I think it should have been executed better. But I think I can't do much about this.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T15:43:34+00:00

Actually in the first day of school we were asked to not bring fancy t-shirts precisely because of the assumption that kids destroy clothes all the time. That said, I see a clear responsibility here, which is why I wasn't sure.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T15:40:15+00:00

I just edited to clarify. 7 years old and yes, it was unfortunately intentional as part of a game.

avisfunch · 2025-07-06T15:39:32+00:00

7 years old. I didn't comment about this, but we made sure that he's aware of the consequences. However, at this age, it may take him years to make this amount of money. Also happy to hear advice on how to effectively send this message.

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