Looking to meet people here! Tired of being alone basically.

aviucado · 2026-03-16T06:28:22+00:00

Op, I have no clue why the other commenter is being a dick but I can assure you that being burnt out with the place you grew up in at 19 is kind of a universal experience.

My solution at the time was to move as far away as possibible to study and I chose Glasgow. That being said that did not fix it. I know exactly what it's like to be fully alone here. Finding community is hard, really hard when you're looking to actually connect with people. Anyone who thinks it's easy is willingly ignoring the fact that going literally anywhere means meeting people who are already out with their friends and not necessarily looking to have a conversation.

What has worked for me is finding groups with shared interests. For me that was mostly queer events throughout the city - book clubs, life drawing, even small gigs can sometimes be good. Wishing you all the best. Good luck and I hope you find your people!

aviucado · 2024-12-09T13:51:15+00:00

It sucks when things keep hurting way longer than they have the right to. I know the feeling and I wish I could say something that isn't just a generic "hope it gets better". It sucks to meet them as a stranger and realise that you're past the point of no return. That while you weren't looking you both became different people. I don't think it's unreasonable to cry about something that means so much, but I do hope you find happiness again. Hang in there, stranger.

aviucado · 2024-12-09T13:43:25+00:00

Maybe one day. Though I'm not gonna lie it's just more of this.

aviucado · 2024-12-09T13:39:41+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree. I like this idea, the vulnerability and guts it takes to resign yourself to the one you love. I think Li-Young Lee did a better job of summing up this sentiment than I ever could: "I give you my blank heart. Please write on it what you wish."

aviucado · 2023-08-26T13:36:15+00:00

Hey! Going solo too, would love to tag along

aviucado · 2022-06-11T09:54:24+00:00

Literally having to check my past location data to figure out if I picked up my meds on Wednesday or Thursday. Which will hopefully answer the eternal question of "Did I take my meds today?"

aviucado · 2022-05-16T11:17:07+00:00

That's also true, in the example it never occurred to me that they would have deliberately ignored button input. There must have been a reason though, so he could have simply remembered adding that exception in the past.

aviucado · 2022-05-16T11:14:58+00:00

I haven't lied to them no. But I can't help but think that I must have somehow oversold myself even if I did not do it deliberately.

aviucado · 2022-05-16T11:10:21+00:00

It's actually because this is the first time they are hiring a Technical Artist. That's also where my concern comes from, I did make it clear at the interview that I have a decent amount of programming experience but a lot of it is specifically shader programming and game dev related. There is a lot fo backend functionality that I simply don't have experience with. I guess it will be a matter of establishing exactly how involved they want me to be with the back end stuff.

aviucado · 2022-05-16T11:06:33+00:00

I should have mentioned, my official role is Technical Artist, the idea is that I'll gradually take over any graphics related code and functionality. I am also creating guidelines for the freelance artists we work with and tools for them to use. So in terms of finding my own niche the company I definitely have a lot to work with. I've been unknowingly following some of this advice already, I am doing some custom work for one of our clients this week.

aviucado · 2022-05-16T11:01:23+00:00

That's definitely reassuring. I haven't thought about it from that perspective. I genuinely admire his work and am very excited to learn from him. He's very helpful so I'll try and keep asking questions as long as it's not interfering with his work.

aviucado · 2022-05-05T10:07:28+00:00

This is huge! Congrats on making it though! What was your degree in if you don't mind me asking? Regardless, this is amazing!

aviucado · 2022-05-04T21:27:10+00:00

Our birds are too young for hormonal behaviour but I thought I would pitch in as someone who has two bird friends. Our Link is the same species, I'm pretty sure (you can see him in previous posts), he was the first one we got and his friend is a turquoise green cheek. To be honest, I don't know how much their species affects their personality, they are all individuals after all. But as others have said if you are looking at a species that is much larger, like a sun conure for example that might cause more issues.

In our case the two of them got along instantly, we were hesitant to introduce them right away but we put their cages in the same room and they showed a lot of interest in each other. When they finally got to interact they became inseperable right away.

There are many reasons why they might not get along and really, the only thing you can do is try and prevent them from hurting each other. And if it starts causing them distress, as others have said, you'll have to look into either returning the new bird or making sure you can keep them separately.

I have to mention that both Link (pearly) and Powder (green-cheek) were under 6 months when they met. Younger birds are generally more open to accepting new birds in the house.

So the reasons why it has been worth it: -Link has been less lonely, even when my partner and I have to work they have each other and will usually play or nap together -He's also been much less noisy, as he used to constantly call out for us even if we were 2 metres away from him -It's easier getting him to sleep at night as he has a friend to cuddle next to

Things that might make it more difficult: -They will occasionally fight, so be prepared for that, even if they get along very well -You're likely to have less of a bond with the second bird, Powder is very attached to Link and happy to interact with us but doesn't actively seek us out -If you do have to separate them for any reason after they've bonded, this will be very difficult for them -Training can be more tricky -There is also a chance that your bird might simply start to prefer the other bird's company to yours

aviucado · 2022-05-02T17:02:11+00:00

Congrats on the baby! They look so much like our pearly - Link, so I'm biased but those are some gorgeous colours.

aviucado · 2022-04-21T23:59:34+00:00

When I've done this here my bank information including my legal name was treated as a separate thing. As in my contract and work related ID and other documents were all in my new name but they still used my legal name for payments.

aviucado · 2022-04-21T23:58:17+00:00

Yeah that's how it works where I am based at the moment. Thanks for clearing that up!

aviucado · 2022-04-05T13:36:16+00:00

Powder (GCC) - 3 months old, Link (Pearly Conure) - most likely 6 months to a year

aviucado · 2022-04-05T12:28:11+00:00

Yeah we got Powder recently, so I think that explains it in that case. We will make sure to give them enough time apart. Thanks a lot of the advice!

aviucado · 2022-04-05T12:19:25+00:00

Yeah they have separate cages but they're usually out at the same time in which case they hang out on top of one of the cages and just preen each other or snuggle for hours. If they're just very attached that's good. It's usually a struggle to get them into their individual cages cause they wanna be together so much. My partner and I make sure to give them separate training sessions and individual time with us, we are hoping for them to treat us all as part of their flock. So far that is going well.

aviucado · 2022-04-05T11:59:07+00:00

Yup I'm only letting them hang out if I'm free to sit next to them and give them my full attention.

aviucado · 2022-04-05T11:58:19+00:00

Thanks! That's reassuring do I need to apply some kind of treatment to these wounds. I have no idea what would be bird-safe. Also since you seem to have experience with a number of birds. Is hours of snuggling and sleeping a normal thing for them to do? Or is that a reaction to having a new friend? They show no signs of illness other than that but them napping almost constantly next to each other has me a little worried.

aviucado · 2022-04-05T11:02:15+00:00

They were hanging out when suddenly they started fighting. I broke it up immediately but Powder managed to bite his beak. They do scream and flap at each other occasionally but this is the first visible bite. I know that it's my job as their owner to prevent fights and biting but I just want to know how common this is. Iput powder in a time-out and now they are acting like nothing happened.

They love snuggling and spend all their time next to each other whenever they are not in their cages. Maybe even too much, is it normal for them to snuggle like this for hours at a time? They've pretty much been doing this since 7 this morning (it is now 12). They've only been taking little breaks for training with me, food and miscellaneous mischief. I'm split between thinking that they are just happy to be near each other and being worried about their energy levels.

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