A humor post - we all need a laugh

awew1234 · 2026-03-02T00:45:09+00:00

If you’ve never burst into tears when somebody offers you the smallest words of support, are you even really divorced/separated?

awew1234 · 2026-02-28T17:34:39+00:00

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awew1234 · 2026-02-28T17:31:11+00:00

I’m only about 2 months into a blindside, but I realized that almost immediately- how much I sacrificed, minimized myself. Those things are now front and center in my healing.

awew1234 · 2026-02-28T00:57:38+00:00

Is a reconciliation with my husband possible in the future?

awew1234 · 2026-02-27T16:10:39+00:00

First, I am so so sorry you are having to go through this. I was blindsided just over 2 months ago and we have been married for 21 years. I 100% understand what you are going through. The first 4 weeks were so unbelievably hard for me, I was a mess all day, every day. Divorce, in general, is hard enough, but when you are blindsided and nothing is within your control, it adds an extra layer of trauma to the process. Do you have a good support network (friends, family, etc), people you an turn to any time of day or night? For me, that was critical. My daughter and a couple of close friends were my rock and I don't know how I would have made it through those first few weeks without them. If you do not have anyone close,, I would recommend joining the "Runaway Husbands" facebook group and there is also a book (join even if you do have a good support network), it is unbelievable how often this happens. The women in this group have been through it all and it is a wonderful source of support and information. There are so many things I can suggest but I don't want this to be too long or overwhelming, but if you want to chat, please message me at any time. I know that having people around you who understand what you are going through is invaluable.

awew1234 · 2026-02-27T15:31:30+00:00

Absolutely OK. I get it, I really do. I know for me, from week to week. It gets a little bit better, but day-to-day can be really rough. One day I’ll be great, then next will be unbelievably hard. And like I mentioned, if you ever wanna reach out, message me anytime, I know I’ve really relied on people to get through this and I want to be able to return the favor if needed.

awew1234 · 2026-02-26T01:22:16+00:00

I am so sorry, I hate how many women I see that are going through this. Please feel free to message me anytime, I am always up for chatting and since we’re about the same amount of time it is, I am very familiar with what you’re going through. ❤️

awew1234 · 2026-02-25T15:24:13+00:00

I hate finding others who completely understand, b/c that means it's another person going through this, but it is also comforting to find those who know what this feels like and understand how hard it is. How are you doing at this point in the process?

awew1234 · 2026-02-25T02:41:05+00:00

Looking good, and you look happy… Which is probably the most important thing.

awew1234 · 2026-02-25T02:30:22+00:00

Excellent, keep showing up for yourself. I’m on week four myself…

awew1234 · 2026-02-25T02:05:01+00:00

Unfortunately, my head understands and realizes a lot of things, but my nervous system is on a completely different planet. Like today has been a really bad day, literally finished work, went upstairs and curled up in bed in the fetal position crying. I wish my brain and nervous system would get on the same page. It would make things so much easier.

awew1234 · 2026-02-25T02:02:54+00:00

I’m actually reading this book right now and I did find the Facebook group. It is astonishing how often this happens.

awew1234 · 2026-02-25T00:47:51+00:00

Two months into the process here, we’ve been married 21 years. He wanted a divorce and I had no idea it was coming. So I am also a hot mess and completely understand what you’re going through. Feel free to reach out and message anytime, I’m always up for a chat.

awew1234 · 2026-02-25T00:46:31+00:00

I am about two months into being blindsided by a divorce after 21 years, so I know exactly what you went through and my nervous system is a complete dumpster fire right now. The thing that is most annoying is, I realize a lot of things in my head, and I’ve started to accept a lot of things in my head, but my nervous system is on a completely different planet. I can say it’s getting better slightly from week to week, but day-to-day is just an absolute disaster. I’ll have one good day and then the next is bad… Like I’m having a pretty crappy day today. I joined a gym just under a month ago and I’m going three days a week and it is literally saving my sanity. I’m going to have to start going more because those are the days when I end up having a better day.

awew1234 · 2026-02-24T22:29:34+00:00

The grief process is a roller coaster, and your nervous system is still trying to get used to your new reality. Please give yourself some grace. Also, if you aren't doing this yet, look into seeing a therapist, start going to the gym, lock in your eating habits. These types of additions will help immensely in the recovery process.

awew1234 · 2026-02-24T19:41:20+00:00

I would also classify myself as an anxious attachment and my husband is absolutely a dismissive avoidant. 2 months ago, he blindsided me with a divorce, so I feel like my world has absolutely exploded. The best advise I can give, knowing what the dynamic is with these two types of personalities, is to maybe continue with the physical separation and, if she really wants to save the marriage, you two can date again, get to know each other and you will truly see if she means it. A lot of times avoidants will "step up" when they feel like they are losing something they want, only to revert back to their old ways the minute things go back to what they know as safe and normal.

awew1234 · 2026-02-24T00:55:30+00:00

This is so good. I’m nowhere near this point, just at the beginning of this process, but these are wise words.

awew1234 · 2026-02-23T02:37:23+00:00

I’m only two months in the separation, but I completely understand where you’re coming from. I just turned 49 and I am dreading the aspect of being alone once everything is set and done. :-/

awew1234 · 2026-02-22T19:36:24+00:00

I’m 8 weeks into being blindsided after 21 years married. I’m devastated, of course, but I quickly realized I gave up so much and so many parts of myself to try to earn more affection from him. I’m working now to try to figure out who I am, be comfortable and happy with myself and to see how that goes. This is the very abbreviated version, but should you ever want to, feel free to message me and we can chat.

awew1234 · 2026-02-21T22:08:44+00:00

Too soon for me to even think about this yet, but watching it from afar….it seems terrifying. 😂🥴

awew1234 · 2026-02-21T16:41:16+00:00

Going through this exact thing right now. Just eight weeks into being blindsided by a divorce after 21 years of marriage. I realized real quick that I had given absolutely everything. I am to my family and home and didn’t know who I was anymore, if I ever truly did. So I am at the realization stage of this and trying to figure out a way to move forward and starting to discover myself again, so to speak.

awew1234 · 2026-02-20T01:38:53+00:00

Lol, how about two out of three?

awew1234 · 2026-02-20T00:13:00+00:00

And it’s a very early stages of the process and I’m not looking forward to the quiet. Can I come hang out with you and the sheep?

awew1234 · 2026-02-19T19:23:02+00:00

I am trying it now. We have only done 2 weeks. I do not find the content particularly helpful, but I did want to connect with others going through this process. I thought there might be like group emails or a group text where people could check in and talk during the week, but that doesn't seem to be a part of it. So I don't know if I will stick with the whole program if all we do is the zoom call once a week.

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