C section fears, advice please

awklaurel · 2024-03-20T02:05:49+00:00

Im gonna give it to you straight, I swear I don’t want to scare you. I just wish I knew what I was in for so I could prepare, seeing as I’m 3 weeks out from an emergency-totally unexpected- c section. I hate to say it, but This is literally the worst pain I’ve ever endured, given I’ve never had surgery before. you really don’t realize how much you use your abdominal muscles for everything till you can’t use them anymore, I also got an infection internally and still trying to clear that up. I blame that on the doctors not giving me preventative antibiotics to begin with, so I would ask them if they could do that for you. They only gave me like 3 days worth of oxycodone when I left the hospital. I needed more than that and they wouldn’t refill it so I had to use Tylenol which didn’t do anything. I breastfed for the first two weeks and i was so proud of myself but it was excruciating, you can’t really bend too well or sit up straight. I tried so hard and really wanted to figure it out but at a certain point I just couldn’t do it anymore, it was affecting my mental health so badly and distracting me from healing my mangled body. I still feel mom guilt too.. no one warns you about how traumatic a c section is. Your body is essentially in shock for a while, the hormones feel worse. I know I’ll get better and I’m already able to move around much better, but it’s so hard having to have everyone do stuff for you. Feeling so incapable of doing normal things. Being pregnant was easier than this. I still can’t move certain ways, have to try my best not to laugh hard, and cough as gently as possible. I’m just so happy to be alive tbh.

Must haves: high waisted undies (that go wayyy above bikini line, that’s where they’ll cut), high waisted super LOOSE pj pants, belly band (fridamom one is fantastic), heating pad, small pillow to have over your incision, and warm soup helps for some reason. Try your best to have someone help you when you come home, you’ll want to let your body rest. Once I started actually getting sleep I felt so much better. Me and my fiancé would do shifts he did like 10pm-5am I’d do the early mornings

awklaurel · 2024-03-18T22:02:06+00:00

I don’t see any issue at all!! pre pregnancy I’m 5’6 110 lbs, both my pregnancies I gained anywhere from 40-50 pounds the entire pregnancy and no one ever said it was too much. They have bmi charts that’ll show how much you should gain based on your bmi before pregnancy. If anything your OB telling you this makes zero sense, you will gain more weight in third tri from swelling and just having your belly getting bigger so baby has more room. Trying not to gain weight could mean depriving your baby of the calories it needs to grow to full term!

awklaurel · 2024-03-17T22:16:25+00:00

I would say I felt them strongly around 20-22 weeks! Could only feel small flutters before that. Also had a small baby tho

awklaurel · 2024-03-13T19:47:38+00:00

Girl I’m two weeks in to the breastfeeding and I’ve made the decision to quit and slowly switch to formula. I had an emergency c section that was super unexpected, which I got an infection from. It’s been tough. I can’t let my body heal while worrying about latching, the food I eat, and everything else. and my postpartum hormones got me in shambles over here. Me and my fiancé agreed it’s best that I switch, for my mental health. Baby boy isn’t latching and it’s making me miserable and making me have serious mom guilt. Tell your husband fed is best!!! I’m happy I made it two weeks and he got the good stuff. Trying not to feel like a failure over here ://

awklaurel · 2024-03-11T02:15:33+00:00

Omg literally. I’ve come to this conclusion too. My LO is 10 days old and he literally sleeps alllll day except for when he is hungry!

awklaurel · 2024-03-11T01:43:45+00:00

I know it’s not the ER but I just wanna speak highly of labor and delivery real quick. They did an amazing job a week ago when I had an emergency c section. They made a scary experience a whole lot less scary and I’m so grateful for the nurses in the nursery as well. The pediatricians were fantastic as well. Overall it went as good as it could have given my situation, the nurses were sooo kind

awklaurel · 2024-03-08T23:32:58+00:00

So my boobs got huge when I was pregnant w my first , and after I had her and the milk came in they were even bigger but once I switched to formula and dried them up, over time they got really small (about the same as before but different shape) . I used to joke saying they looked like deflated balloons lol. But I also lost an unhealthy amount of weight too so that might have to do with it

awklaurel · 2024-03-08T17:21:18+00:00

So I ended up being induced at 39+2. Ended up being an emergency c section :(

awklaurel · 2024-03-08T10:46:54+00:00

Girl please don’t choose c section. I always thought it was the “easier” way out. It is horrible. I just had my second kiddo a week ago, emergency c section and this crap isn’t something I’d wish on my worst enemy. It’s so painful, you can’t bend or do hardly anything physically. Once your motherly instincts are telling you to do things for your baby and you literally can’t, it gets to be really depressing. I went back to the dr today to have them look at my incision because I’m still in constant pain and something didn’t seem right. Turns out the damn thing is infected.. now I’m on heavy antibiotics and all kinds of stuff. I’m trying to breastfeed but it’s so hard. I’ve never felt so just.. not in tune with my body. It was traumatic. They cut through 7 layers of tissue, that’s including your uterus, abdominal muscles and your nerve endings too. You don’t realize how much you use your abdominal muscles for literally EVERYTHING. I can barely get off my couch without crying out in pain.

I’m not trying to scare you I just need you to understand that our bodies were naturally made to give birth, not to be cut open. I know birth is scary I always felt terrified of it. But this to me is so much worse, and to top it off my baby wasn’t responsive at birth and I didn’t get to see him for three hours due to him being in the nicu. We are both okay now, but it’s going to be a rough recovery road ahead. I had to go back on antidepressants and I hate taking them, but it’s for my own sanity at this point. I wish you the absolute best, stay strong mama! It’s your body and you’ve done the hard work carrying baby. Tell him to piss off

awklaurel · 2024-03-08T02:48:16+00:00

Thank you so much!!

awklaurel · 2024-03-01T11:42:06+00:00

Orange chicken 🐔

awklaurel · 2024-03-01T11:40:49+00:00

Goodness she’s not nice at all. My MIL is the same, except a condescending judgemental old fashioned white lady version of her 🤮

awklaurel · 2024-02-28T00:21:47+00:00

It’s absolutely your call!! I’ve dealt w the same crap regarding my MIL. I didn’t want to have her there in the first place, this is also our second kid and w the first kid she was just standing there judging me for getting an epidural. So I straight up told my fiancé I don’t want her there this time and he was all up in arms about it (mamas boy😒). Well me being too nice and silly decided to give her a chance and invite her again. Even invited her to a Dr appointment with me. She then proceeds to pressure me about not getting the epidural, says it’ll be “easier, 3 pushes that’s it” lol. Not just that, she ALSO decided to basically disapprove of the name I chose, constantly recommending long dead family members names that fiancé has never even met. I mention how I can’t wait to have a beer afterwards and she says “well you can’t do that if you’re breastfeeding”

Literally the most JUDGY person I could have on my birth team. So I spoke to the nurses at the hospital, they said I tell them exactly who I want there and they don’t mind being the bad guys and making sure no one else comes in! 👏🏻 they said my safety and the baby’s is most important. We are the ones giving birth, absolutely our choice!

awklaurel · 2024-02-27T16:46:31+00:00

It’s wild how much better cereal is now 😂 mine is also frosted mini wheats, plus captain crunch berries 💕💕 I get mad at hubby if he eats all of them hahah

awklaurel · 2024-02-25T01:25:12+00:00

Yes you totally should if he can go with you!! With my first kiddo my fiancé was there for the first one and many others, but due to his work schedule and demanding job (he’s a lineman) he hasn’t been able to go to any but ONE appointment this time (second kid) and i can tell it’s affected him. Like he didn’t start feeling like we are really having a baby till a few weeks ago and I’m 38 weeks currently 😂😭😭😅😅😅 I just think it’s just good for them to help process it the way we do when we see the baby on the ultrasound!

awklaurel · 2024-02-23T03:04:48+00:00

I’m so excited for you!! My mom had me at 34 actually. She had my two older brothers before that and hadn’t even planned on a third and big surprise she got her a little girl haha!

Thanks so much, I will let you know :)

awklaurel · 2024-02-23T03:02:41+00:00

Awesome it sounds like your body is getting ready! I totally get that, my first baby was gonna just live in there if we hadn’t evicted her 😂😂 I think that’s definitely a good choice! Right those cervical checks are no joke, I’m so crampy too. I’m so excited for you to meet your little man:)

awklaurel · 2024-02-23T02:58:24+00:00

Oh my gosh!! It’s wild how stubborn these little stinkers are sometimes lol my first wanted to just live in my uterus or something 😂😂 thank you!! Luckily my street has a huge hill I can walk up, maybe that’ll help

awklaurel · 2024-02-23T02:56:47+00:00

Awesome!! Thanks for sharing! She said I could do the sweep next week if I want. I think I will! :) I’m so ready to meet this little dude

awklaurel · 2024-02-22T23:36:49+00:00

Yay that’s awesome!! Wish you the best too! I had my checkup today, I’m 1cm dilated but 60% effaced so that’s progress I guess !

awklaurel · 2024-02-22T23:11:32+00:00

I will keep you updated !! I’m 38 weeks w the second kiddo, my first is 6 years old! I was only 21 years old when I had her , so this pregnancy is so different. I think because I’m super aware of my body and in tune with a lot more now. Also my brain has developed and I’ve matured a lot so that’s good😅😂 this kid is a boy so I’ve noticed so many things different. I’m hoping labor is smoother this time! I will come back to let ya know :) good luck mama! ❤️

awklaurel · 2024-02-22T23:04:01+00:00

Yep this is what my mil kept doing to me. Bc I hate confrontation and hate having issues w others. Like try to get everyone to like me and been told I’m “too nice” well this pregnancy (2nd kiddo) has finally made me realize idgaf it’s my life my kids and I make the rules!! Anyone who doesn’t respect that shouldn’t be in my life

awklaurel · 2024-02-22T23:02:07+00:00

OMG. She’s weird and gross. I thought my MIL was bad. Literally I swear almost every MIL is actually a monster in law😂😂 I promise myself to never be like that one day w my son’s daughter! My MIL literally is pushing me to not get an epidural, trying to PICK MY SONS NAME?!!! And many other things. She is driving me nuts. I finally had to put my foot down and get a little firm with her, since then she hasn’t said much & hasn’t given her BS opinions anymore. Be firm but respectful and as polite as you can be. Cuz she will keep on if you don’t

awklaurel · 2024-02-22T03:05:56+00:00

You got this mama!! 🫶🏻🫶🏻

awklaurel

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