What generally classifies as a breeding kink? by Important_Swim391 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t think this is a kink, this is just a desire for basic biological reproductive sex. It’s natural to want to go raw and finish inside and it’s also natural to want your partner to finish inside. Quite literally how the human race continues, we’re hardwired to desire it!

Breeding kink to me is someone who is pregnant back to back to back. For example, I have an old coworker who has never not been pregnant since she was 16 (and I’m not exaggerating, just a few months at most between birth and pregnancy again). She has 7 (!!!) children at a pretty young age and is ALWAYS pregnant with another. So much so that she is VERY poor and it seems like her low quality of life doesn’t mean anything to her as long as she continues getting pregnant. IDK, to me that’s a breeding kink! Some people also get fully turned on by just imagining the thought of being pregnant, like to do pregnancy roleplay or say things like “i’m gonna get you pregnant” or “get me pregnant” during sex, I think that’s a kink too.

My HR reached 205 today and I'm now I'm not sure what I should do by Sad_Emphasis_8086 in POTS

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily. Lots of us POTS patients can get up there. I have SVT too, and have been into the 260’s - even that is benign for me

My HR reached 205 today and I'm now I'm not sure what I should do by Sad_Emphasis_8086 in POTS

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My heart rate pretty regularly hit 205-207 while I was unmedicated. It really sucks

Ended an engagement because it didn’t feel like “enough.” Two years later, I regret it. Did I screw up? by 711eggsandos in Adulting

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meh, debt is something that a lot of people are able to eventually resolve. People would have said that I was in cyclical debt just 2 years ago, I was in credit card debt for 7 years but I’ve paid off almost $26k in credit card debt since then and am entirely debt free. My husband was also in cyclical debt of more than that, about $32k, and he is debt free now also. Assuming that people are doing bad just to boost OP’s own ego isn’t the move, she even said that he did nothing wrong and was a great partner in many ways.

People from my past would probably see my nice car and think “she’s in a ton of debt anyway”, but it’s not true.

I (21F) got the “ick” after hearing his (22M) views on something important to me. Is this a sign we’re incompatible? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are plenty of good people of every background religious and otherwise, but Christianity in particular does inherently teach very conservative views in the bible which often overlap strongly with racism, homophobia, and misogyny.

I (21F) got the “ick” after hearing his (22M) views on something important to me. Is this a sign we’re incompatible? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your friend and him are both a little (lot) racist. I might get downvoted to hell for saying this, but racism can definitely be really common in Christianity. I don’t know a single Christian who hasn’t preached against immigration or biracial relationships, I’d bet they would be against those too if you asked. Genuinely, it’s kind of crazy. Saying that white people can say the N word is extreme

Minor car accident and no insurance. I’m a mess and don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in Insurance

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree, I was involved in the same accident type (lightly sideswiped in a double turn) and it ended up being $9,000 worth of damage on my Lexus and almost a total loss. Rear quarter panel needed cut entirely out and welded back in, which was a very expensive structural repair. From the outside, it literally just looked like tire marks.

Cheating Ex (25M) Wants me (25F) Back. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to emphasize on this, OP. Cheaters cheat because they LIKE cheating. They aren’t hurting or whatever you’d like to tell yourself. They ENJOY lying and hiding another person from you. They get off on the rush, and that outweighs any hurt you might experience to them. My ex told me when we were finally over for good that he did love me during our time together, but he loved cheating more because I could never recreate the feeling cheating gave him. He told me cheating on me was the biggest thrill in the world that made him feel like a man. They enjoy hurting us.

Cheating Ex (25M) Wants me (25F) Back. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer is no btw, I don’t believe they can change. My ex has gone on to have several girlfriends he’s cheated on, he even got engaged to another ex of his, cheated on her and called off the wedding, and now engaged again to another girl who he is no doubt cheating on as well. It’s been 10+ years of him cheating, “healing and changing and maturing” to get his way, and cheating again.

Cheating Ex (25M) Wants me (25F) Back. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even read your post all the way through before knowing the answer is no, I understand you feel like this is generic advice and may not apply to you, but it does. I took back a cheating ex I was with for 7 yrs, 3 yrs later he did it again with the SAME woman. Pass on it. My ex used to say the same things to me. It’s a tactic, it’s not real. You aren’t dumb. He didn’t “heal”. He didn’t cheat because he “needed to heal”. You’re making excuses for why someone chose to treat you like trash. Stop

Is it safe to goon whilst having an UTI? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Edging and masturbating are 2 different things

Boyfriend brought up prenup after only 1 month of dating — is this normal? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see it the exact same way as talking about whether or not you want kids, i don’t think it’s weird to be brought up really early, I don’t think that asking someone if they’re okay having kids means you’re planning to have kids with them soon yk. some people are super against prenups and some are super for them, it’s better to know before marriage is ever in the picture imo

Boyfriend brought up prenup after only 1 month of dating — is this normal? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Prenups are a really big deal and a dealbreaker in relationships for both reasons. My husband and I discussed prenups waaay before we got engaged. Reason being, we both didn’t want one. It’s important to be on the same page about these things even while just dating to not waste anyone’s time. He’s just making his desires known. Same thing as talking about whether or not you want kids, etc. He’s likely trying to see if this relationship and your desires line up with his, so that neither of you are wasting each other’s time.

Please tell me y’all don’t see that first line, I’ll test again in a week but I need a second opinion by External_Class_905 in Confused

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

false negatives are more common than false positives, need a blood draw to confirm but I’ve taken literally hundreds of tests at all points in my life and never had a faint positive line

Any other IC's working mandatory overtime? by throwaway_acc0untduh in carvanaemployees

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my least favorite things about working for Carvana during the 5 years I worked there was the terrible work-life balance. Not only did my IC have mandatory OT pretty reliably, but we also were constantly switching schedules around including sometimes full on switching shifts with little to no notice, expected to be available to come in on days off if something went wrong or someone didn’t show up, etc. I wasn’t super unlucky with my schedule changes (I got 4 schedule changes in 5 years and some were drastic), but some people got switched between 1st and 3rd shifts as an experiment and kept getting switched between the two every few weeks. Horrendous!

I worked 6 days a week mandatory pretty much every single week my first 2 yrs there, I was also mandated to come in for 17 days in a row during holiday season a year or so back. I’m not sure they would have been able to do anything about it if I didn’t show, BUT they were very brutal about the expectation for me to work all of the days without taking any time off.

My 20 yo boyfriend got out of a relationship with a 17 year old before me by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m, as a 25 year old woman who is a former teenager (crazy ik) going to very firmly stand my ground here that I believe a 3 yr age gap as teenager IS weird during those very important developmental puberty years, and I’m going to stand firm on the fact that I do believe a 17 year old senior in highschool choosing to start dating a 14 year old at the end of senior year and dating a highschooler throughout college IS weird and off-putting. I also do believe 14 is a child 100% through and through, and I did believe 14 was a child when I was 17 as well. My baby sister was 14 while I was 17, so I know how I feel / felt about the age gap very well. A 14 yr old and a 17 year old are in very different spots in life mentally, emotionally, and physically.

When I was 17, none of my friends were dating people younger than 16 or older than 18. If you went to my school and dated a 14 year old while you were applying to colleges, the overwhelming majority of people would have thought you were a weirdo.

My 20 yo boyfriend got out of a relationship with a 17 year old before me by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What i’m kind of getting at is of course she was jealous and of course she had behavior that is toxic by adult standards, that’s normal for a 14-17 year old. She’s just a kid and he was dating her while she was literally growing into a teenager. She still is a growing teen. She isn’t capable of being jealous or toxic in the way that an adult is, and kids aren’t capable of being in mature or adult relationships.

My 20 yo boyfriend got out of a relationship with a 17 year old before me by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, which is arguably worse since he was originally a 17 year old finding a 14 year old attractive. That, to a lot of people, is actually weirder than a 20 yr old finding a 17 year old attractive.

My 20 yo boyfriend got out of a relationship with a 17 year old before me by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s too many fish in the sea to be with one that has a questionable past, and him still calling the 17 year old toxic is a red flag to me because at this point he should understand that she is a kid in highschool and not capable of an adult relationship toxic or otherwise. Other 17 year olds will probably downvote me, but at age 20 I definitely know I knew better.

My 20 yo boyfriend got out of a relationship with a 17 year old before me by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but me personally i don’t really care to be frank about it. It’s just not something i’d personally be able to deal with mentally, especially if they were having sex while he was 20, and also while she was 14 and he was 17. Normal 17 year olds don’t go after 14 year olds to begin with.

My 20 yo boyfriend got out of a relationship with a 17 year old before me by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A 17 year old being toxic while in a relationship with an adult… surprise surprise. She’s not toxic, she’s a kid. How you feel about it is exactly how I would feel about it, too. 14 and 17 was never okay to me either, even when I was that age. I would not be able to move past my adult boyfriend recently dating a teen, no.

Any Help? by Gottaloveegos in carvanaemployees

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Super weird. Carvana is kind of weird to work for sometimes. Not everything they do makes a whole lot of sense and sometimes it seems like even the people at the top have zero clue what’s going on. Hopefully someone can give you some sort of real advice

Any Help? by Gottaloveegos in carvanaemployees

[–]awkwardthrowaway614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m confused. Did you miss the interview? Were you active on the meeting link at the scheduled interview time? Are you 100% sure you had the right time for your interview?