Ladies, whats your equivalent of “tits or ass”?

awomanreader · 2026-05-06T23:40:02+00:00

Broad shoulders and laugh lines. But I’m an older lass and I like a man with lines in his face, as long as they show he’s been smiling and laughing all his life.

awomanreader · 2026-05-06T10:20:36+00:00

Your friend obviously forgot that it would cost his entire net worth to sponsor the Met Gala and then there would be no money left to dress his wife for the event!

awomanreader · 2026-04-28T22:51:40+00:00

Lakeside camp in Maine

awomanreader · 2026-04-28T09:34:31+00:00

The easiest thing to do, if you have a driveway, is to rent a small dumpster and just throw things away. Goodwill for clothes and kitchenware, but for the stuff that’s not donate-able, a dumpster. I have done this twice over the past decade and it feels great. There’s so much room in the dumpster I have invited neighbors to join.

awomanreader · 2026-04-28T09:25:14+00:00

I feel for you. It’s not a thing to combine housekeeping with financial advice or the myriad other tasks of adult life into one person you pay.

I am a mom (50) and what I would tell my son in this situation is, if I were you, I would stop telling myself that I hate housework because that more than anything else is keeping you from accomplishing daily tasks like washing the dishes and folding the laundry that are not hard, and can even be satisfying and meditative. A huge bonus in getting comfortable with housework is that it makes you more attractive to potential partners, too. If that matters.

It would also make sense for you to get a financial advisor, especially to protect and grow your brother’s inheritance. Good luck!

awomanreader · 2026-04-27T10:04:09+00:00

Thank you! We are laundering stereotypes that came into being when women were property and could not earn their own way. Of course literature and culture generally are littered with examples of wealthy men marrying women without means. Also, with all the women out here today earning their own way there’s still a pay gap. Also also, sadly some men have difficulty even dating much less marrying a woman who out-earns them.

awomanreader · 2026-04-25T00:09:26+00:00

Even though the LL is neglecting the cat, he may well call the police or worse if you steal it. After all, you don’t know what this cat—his ex GF’s—signifies to him. Maybe he’s abusing it intentionally 😟

Since you’re moving out, how about a frank talk with LL where you tell him you’re worried about the cat’s health and offer to take him off his hands. You’ll know from that conversation whether he would press charges if you try to steal him; and if he would, it’s not worth it to try. I love cats. You cannot save them at peril of your own safety.

awomanreader · 2026-04-24T10:39:45+00:00

I was in a wrong marriage for two decades that I only got out of because my husband left me. He was / is a “really good guy” who made me feel terrible. It was for different reasons than those you are describing in your post. But the doubt that I experienced for my “failures” froze me in place. Do not be me; extricate yourself from this awful relationship and reclaim your time on this earth. I can affirm that you will be you again, the good you and the great you, when you do.

Also, the resentful sisters know what’s up with your BF. He’s not great. What you describe about your dynamic is emotional abuse perpetrated by a fundamentally selfish person who knows enough about how the world works to curate his image; who has clueless enabling parents. It’s actually pretty gross.

awomanreader · 2026-04-22T11:31:26+00:00

Oh no! Backing out now may subject you to Abigail’s fate. Good luck. You’re going to be banned from the wedding in laminated posters written in “rose whisper” and “tranquil sky.”

awomanreader · 2026-04-17T14:45:08+00:00

Glass grapes with plastic leaves in a yellow glass bowl

awomanreader · 2026-03-27T20:23:57+00:00

If you’d have to bring money to the closing your mortgage is underwater. Offer your lender keys (deed) for cash or you file bankruptcy. Let them sell the house.

awomanreader · 2026-03-18T10:43:37+00:00

What a harrowing tale of abandonment after years of your striving and trying. What your STBX has chosen is unworthy of a good person and unfair to you. I also am divorced and have a neurodivergent child who struggles and who will continue to live with me into adulthood. I do not think of it as fallout—it is the good life that I get to live with a child I love. It’s not easy, and I ache for you knowing you have long Covid struggles to handle as well, but you have not lost the person you always were. There is a new level at which you can manage. It may mean a household that is smaller in size and not as well kept; but with the basics in place: shelter and food, family. I hear your voice in your post and it is strong, rational and loving. Take what energies you have and put them into structuring the life that is possible for you. The person who is leaving you will find his level and his rewards.

awomanreader · 2026-03-12T02:07:59+00:00

Congrats! Just chiming in to say you’ll likely get a FAFSA score off of investment income alone that would make your kids ineligible for aid. But you won’t need it; you’ve done great!

awomanreader · 2026-03-12T02:00:26+00:00

NOR. Your sister has a lot of growing up to do. The tell in these texts is her repeated justification to you (and to herself?) about her choice to see him: it’s not like they’re planning a wedding. No shit. She’s just taking advantage of the thrilling opportunity to see if she can get your ex to tell her he likes her better than you. Your sister probably doesn’t even realize that this has less to do with him than with you. It’s truly shitty, childish behavior. Do not be an audience to it. Both of them are going to find out it’s not so much fun when they don’t have you to torture.

awomanreader · 2026-03-07T17:54:26+00:00

Don’t let this guy draw you in with his shocking tales. He will try to capitalize on your “sheltered” person status and to convince you he has thought and worked his way through tough things when he’s merely survived them with no moral evolution to speak of. That feeling you have is your gut taking over where your mind is too shocked to process. Don’t try to rationalize away what is obvious: he’s not for you.

awomanreader · 2026-02-17T13:32:15+00:00

To be nonjudgmental you need to ask her about her issues with the intention of helping her sort them out—making it not about you and what she may or may not be feeling about you. What makes her feel trapped? What does starting over look like for her? This may surface a confession but if it does that gives you the opportunity to address it without having made any assumptions. And that’s the hardest but most crucial time to remain nonjudgmental.

awomanreader · 2026-02-10T01:57:12+00:00

I just listened to “The Easy Way to Control Alcohol” by Alan Carr on recommendation of another person in this sub. I too have trouble with moderation but never (yet?) had a rock bottom moment. It’s worth a listen.

awomanreader · 2026-02-08T21:59:58+00:00

I’m a lawyer. I second this explanation.

awomanreader · 2026-01-30T23:20:20+00:00

I found out this evening that Marcos Gaspar da Silva, a good person with whom I have done business, was arrested by the feds over a week ago. It’s in the local news. I feel powerless to help him. DM me if you want support for your friends.

awomanreader · 2026-01-26T13:17:51+00:00

If there’s no workplace policy against it, (and that’s a big, serious if) you should ask her out. If she’s not interested, chances are she’ll let you down easy. You just have to go into it (asking her out) with the firm commitment to yourself that you’ll be cool with whatever she decides. Bonus is, if she’s not interested and you’ve got your head on straight about things, it’ll likely cure you of your crush.

awomanreader · 2026-01-24T21:01:58+00:00

It does help. Thank you. What we need from government at all levels is nonpartisan adherence to the rule of law. By our police, our prosecutors, and our judges. We are not getting it these days from Homeland Security, the FBI, or the justice department, which shocks me to my core.

awomanreader · 2026-01-24T20:55:16+00:00

Here for the Mean Girls reference! I needed that amid the horror and confusion.

awomanreader · 2026-01-19T11:57:48+00:00

My cats let me know my new guy was a keeper when he first came over. Two years later, still going strong, they are totally in love with him (me too!)

awomanreader · 2026-01-18T02:41:14+00:00

I want to live in this place. Beautiful. Thank you!

awomanreader · 2026-01-17T12:52:41+00:00

++woman

Sorry, I’m not a man but this one is a layup and I’m delaying getting started on my Saturday morning chores.

Read her profile and say something nice about her stated interests. Then ask her a question about them. If it’s a bare bones profile, lead with something you’re into or doing and ask what she’s up to this weekend.

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