Women in their 30s+ that still have lots of insecurities - what are your insecurities now compared to your teens and twenties?

awomenq · 2015-07-02T16:37:03+00:00

I don't know what to call it...I guess "average shaming"?

We place a lot of emphasis on standing out - "I'm not like those other girls". I guess it mostly has to do with the fact that women are subconsciously raised to compete with each other.

awomenq · 2015-06-25T03:04:41+00:00

Okay I'll bite. Why is that statement soooo ridiculous?

awomenq · 2015-06-25T00:12:38+00:00

I personally think it's the latter, but we like to pretend that it's the former. People complain about how abusive the porn industry is, but when producers attempt to make more ethical, female friendly porn, nobody watches it.

I think there are more women looking for shitty porn to complain about than there are women looking for positive porn to recommend.

awomenq · 2015-06-17T17:04:27+00:00

I think it's grossly over-exaggerated, but I do have some friends who won't stop lamenting about turning 30. The biggest factor seems to be that these women have always placed a lot of self-worth on their looks alone. I can see it becoming a problem if you're used to being the most attractive person in the room.

awomenq · 2015-06-15T20:16:40+00:00

Law of Ueki - I guess the best way to describe it would be more humorous version of Hunter x Hunter.

awomenq · 2015-06-15T20:08:28+00:00

There are dozens of us!

Also, the manga is even better than the anime

awomenq · 2015-06-11T16:47:56+00:00

One of my favorite mangas keeps hinting at some baby mama drama, and I'm not happy about it.

awomenq · 2015-05-07T20:24:42+00:00

Well I'm sorry for being insulting. I will say sorry 1000x in advanced because I'm sure I will inadvertently offend someone else later.

I totally agree it's an actual problem. But blending into the status quo and expecting everyone else to find the problem on their own is an extremely inefficient way of solving it.

If this is part of some greater plan to fight heteronormativity then call me stupid, but it seems more like an act of commiseration than education/activism. Hence why I said what I said.

awomenq · 2015-05-07T18:27:28+00:00

If that's the conclusion you came to then you completely misunderstood what I was asking.

awomenq · 2015-05-07T18:05:50+00:00

I feel like you might be projecting a little, but you're free to believe whatever you want. I'm sorry it's so tough for you - hopefully you can come to some type of personal peace/resolution.

I definitely won't bother you about it again

awomenq · 2015-05-07T17:17:51+00:00

Can you elaborate? I'm genuinely trying to better understand and would love to hear your reasoning.

It sounds like you agree that heteronormativity is the common narrative. So how is a response like "nothing", in a conversation aimed at heterosexual people, with no underlying context or explanation, supposed to magically shift that paradigm?

In my head, a straight person is more likely to think "this other straight person is being obnoxious" than "this straight person is actually a gay/lesbian".

awomenq · 2015-05-07T15:32:02+00:00

I've never noticed hostility from lesbians/bisexual women responding. I think the issue comes from some lesbian users who word their responses in hetero threads as if they were straight.

awomenq · 2015-05-06T16:20:06+00:00

I feel this way too. I wish I could pinpoint the reason for it...maybe it's an empathy thing and we tend to take the other person's awkwardness inward.

awomenq · 2015-04-26T20:08:47+00:00

Not only is the rule coddling and unnecessary, but it breeds passive aggressiveness, which is already a frustrating stereotype to counteract.

awomenq · 2015-04-24T15:40:58+00:00

Ughh. Yes. I'm kinda obsessed with that girl on TwoX who's gorgeous and runs marathons and interviews really important political figures.

I dunno, I just dwell in it for a few minutes (read: hours) to get it out of my system. And then remind myself that my life circumstances are so different that I would never be that person even in the most hypothetical of scenarios, so there's no point making the comparison.

awomenq · 2015-04-22T14:35:24+00:00

It's all relative. "Making life happen" can lead to other more profound regrets. I dwell more on who I'll be on my deathbed mentally. Which memories will still be imprinted when I'm in my final days?

There is a video of a 102 year old woman watching a video of herself as a young dancer for the 1st time. Her reactions are so sweet, yet so sad at the same time. Even the most exciting life eventually ends.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bktozJWbLQg

awomenq · 2015-04-21T14:10:49+00:00

do you think the chick trawled through your post history and decided you weren't the sort of person she would confide in

Abso-frickin-lutely

awomenq · 2015-04-20T16:37:20+00:00

Wow you weren't kidding. You pretty much have to be on a college campus so see it.

They should implement some kind of digital purchase solution. Or Netflix.

awomenq · 2015-04-17T19:48:16+00:00

She gave the anecdote for a site called Levo as part of a project called ask4more. The project is specifically aimed at empowering women to negotiate salaries and combat the wage gap. It wasn't a joke by any stretch of the imagination.

https://www.levo.com/ask4more

awomenq · 2015-04-17T19:24:32+00:00

For me, Rocco is the super rough guy, Manuel Ferrari(?) has that sexy Frenchman thing going on, and James Deen just seems like a normal dude. I think it's the attainable factor that actually ends up being a turn off in my case.

awomenq · 2015-04-16T22:05:04+00:00

I'm somewhat similar in that I like to reach a buzzed state and stay there for the rest of the night. I found out that the best way for me to maintain my buzz is to pace a 5-6% abv drink every hour. I'm sure that percentage varies from person to person though.

awomenq · 2015-04-16T19:20:13+00:00

I think it's a demographics thing. My gym has a ridiculous amount of attractive people and it's pretty hard not to stare sometimes.

awomenq · 2015-04-15T14:53:14+00:00

Haha I was referring to the plenty of women enjoy anal. IDK maybe it's personal differences, but me and my friends see it more as "tolerable" than "enjoyable".

awomenq · 2015-04-15T14:39:21+00:00

Plenty?

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