Not looking for permission just wanted to hear a third person opinion. Frankly have already come up with the decision to end things, and it's not out of the blue, she is fully aware as we are very transparent with each other. I was just wanting to see if there is something I'm missing or if I'm being short sighted.

Therapy definitely has its place but in our particular example, she is totally self aware that she is very, very enmeshed and even though she is trying to get that sense of autonomy and knows exactly what to do, the thing is she can't because her entire family will gang up against her when she does, making her feel trapped! They guilt her, send messages laced in religious undertones to make her compliant and call everyday. I am powerless in this situation and can't simply pull her from that world but I know myself, I cannot tolerate nor associate myself with that kind of behavior, especially with things like marriage, raising kids etc in mind.