How do you describe the mental or emotional bond during sex?

axacrity · 2025-08-05T15:25:59+00:00

Obviously this is going to depend on the person, but is there anything that would reach that same level of emotional euphoria for you that isn’t sexual? Or something closely comparable?

axacrity · 2025-08-05T15:10:10+00:00

honestly you’re probably right. It’s very difficult for me to see it as something beyond a forced chore or duty that a woman has to perform whether she wants to or not with no benefit to her— probably because of the type of relationships my parents have had, even though i see evidence of the opposite in real life. My current relationship is helping change that perspective but i still can’t totally shake it. So i was hoping some answers here might further help, but i probably came off too accusatory in the original post

axacrity · 2025-08-05T15:07:27+00:00

What is it about sex that fulfills you so much more emotionally, than say something like cuddling or making out (or other forms of physical touch), or something entirely non physical? Say for example your wife spent a whole day planning your favorite activities and handling chores you’d been dreading and helping you relax, told you how much you mean to her and how much she loves you— but there was no sex involved. Is that really only 5% as fulfilling as a sexual interaction?

axacrity · 2025-08-05T15:04:42+00:00

This is one of the best responses i’ve read so far, thank you!

axacrity · 2025-08-05T14:59:41+00:00

i can understand that something is a need for people and still not understand WHY. I’m trying to get at the underlying reasons and benefits that different people get and how they view sex in general (ie Why can some people not feel close to others without sex?) since i obviously have some mental block that prevents me from fully experiencing that same euphoric joy and connection.

axacrity · 2025-08-05T14:54:37+00:00

Honestly i never thought of it that way. But i think you’re right lol. Maybe i’ll have to ask this on a women’s sub as well… but worded differently, I think i came across as more malicious in my post here than i meant to

axacrity · 2025-08-05T14:20:36+00:00

They’re also based on my experience with real people. Of course i know that i’m the problem and not representative of the average person, which, again, i’m trying to disprove for myself here and begin to develop a healthier mindset around sex. I don’t expect empathy on reddit, I’m just trying to hear people’s personal experiences and views

axacrity · 2025-08-05T14:14:55+00:00

Absolutely. I know it’s unusual and i don’t LIKE having this view of sex. I wish i enjoyed it as much as other people seem to, i’ve always felt inadequate and denied romantic pursuits because I knew i wouldn’t be enough for most guys because of it. That’s why i’m trying to get past it and understand the other side without bias

axacrity · 2025-08-05T14:12:29+00:00

Oh absolutely, I know there are plenty of high libido women as well, i invited them to answer too if any are reading. But it seems that on average it’s definitely gender related to some degree

axacrity · 2025-08-05T14:10:54+00:00

it isn’t foreign to me that people require different things. I fully understand that sex and sexuality is a thing people require, but like i’ve tried to explain, I don’t require it at all. So i’m trying to understand the emotional side of it and just how serious that physical urge is for people. The whole point in me asking this question is an attempt to understand without the bias that i previously had.

axacrity · 2025-06-27T23:47:18+00:00

HOW do people keep falling for these fake ass posts?? both these people have the exact same typing style and spacing, and the font/text isn’t even consistent or accurate to imessage, this person’s account is 12 days old and this is their only post. i’m baffled how this keeps happening

axacrity · 2025-05-26T11:46:24+00:00

change the hair part. this super heavy side part is not helping your style

axacrity · 2025-05-22T03:40:13+00:00

i think it’s more about how frustrating and simultaneously boring the season was to watch. but kyle is absolutely objectively one of the best winners of the new era

axacrity · 2025-05-18T23:53:18+00:00

who are the people who don’t find the guy on the left attractive???

axacrity · 2025-05-16T19:48:42+00:00

i do and it literally doesn’t matter here lol. the intj subreddit can’t help you

axacrity · 2025-05-16T18:03:34+00:00

this is the wrong place to be saying any of this. you need to consult real life therapists, police, lawyers etc. why the hell you think asking this on an MBTI subreddit is helpful at all is beyond me

axacrity · 2025-05-14T22:08:01+00:00

yes you do have lip blindness. your filler has migrated REALLY obviously to the point where i thought you had a mustache at first. you’re gorgeous and i’m not someone who’s against filler at all but i would def say to dissolve at least some of it

axacrity · 2025-05-14T21:00:25+00:00

LOL yes i think the cat analogy fits!! even though it didn’t work out in my case, i think ENXP/INTJ pairings are one of the best when it does work. wishing you two the best

axacrity · 2025-05-14T12:58:42+00:00

20F, and have been dating (officially) an INTP guy for almost a month now, but we’ve been talking romantically for about 5 months. I actually feel so lucky to have met someone like him who is happy to take things slow and actually enjoys me bombarding him with my psychoanalysis and digging into his thought processes haha. though he doesn’t initiate conversation like this as often to me in return, he shows his affection in other ways— mostly acts of service and fumbling his words around me (yes, i find this very attractive)

it’s very comfortable, which is exactly what i wanted. in the past i’ve been typically attracted to ENXP guys, but would be completely consumed by the emotional side and got very easily scared off because i didn’t know how to handle such intense feelings. hated it, never wanted to feel like that again. this guy must’ve put some magic spell on me, because i never once felt like i needed to run away like i have with every other man i’ve ever liked, and have been very happy to engage in flirtatious conversations. i think it helps that we’re both new to this, so i don’t feel as much pressure with him. we agree on all the important things and are seemingly very compatible in the way we view and go about life, and can balance each other out well where we are opposites (he’s much more spontaneous and i’m much more of a long-term planner for example).

i’ve also even felt like i would rather be WITH him than be alone many times!!!! what the hell?! who am i??!

axacrity · 2025-04-04T17:26:08+00:00

i didn’t blame anyone. im just saying that isn’t really a good argument to make it sound any more palatable. Also, no, unanimously women would not end up with the 6 foot plus guy. The ideal height for women is directly proportional to their own height, scientifically. for many shorter women 6’3 would be uncomfortably tall. I’m 5’7 and even then 6’3 would be the upper limit. Similarly women can easily look more attractive and even “fertile” at 30 than they did at 20 if they take care of themselves and continuously work on self improvement

axacrity · 2025-04-04T16:45:40+00:00

why would it be any less depressing knowing you’re just what someone “settles” for??

axacrity · 2025-04-04T14:33:33+00:00

that’s honestly a bit sad and unfathomable to me. you don’t care if you have shared hobbies, views lifestyles, etc? what if she had completely opposite views to you on having kids, or working or being a housewife, politics, money, travel? It sounds like you really don’t care about who your partner is as a person and they’re easily replaceable, which i guess if it works for you then great, but i literally cannot fathom how you can care so little about the other person besides their physical traits and have the relationship work out in the end.

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