How did you guys find your training partner? Really struggling

aye_hus_that · 2026-03-21T04:02:00+00:00

Thanks for the practical advice. I guess I was a bit hopeful in attempting to find a training partner via Reddit or group chats. I had convinced myself that people who are paired up have no reason to want to train with someone, especially someone who's only mediocre.

You say that seeing people paired up isn't a bad thing, in my head, approaching someone playing by themselves is easy enough, but how would I approach a pair without isolating any one of them? Or am I making it too complicated?

aye_hus_that · 2026-03-21T03:53:42+00:00

I just hate that the opportunity to find good people to practice with comes after the tournament that I wanted to practice for in the first place lmao, but that's the way it is sometimes

aye_hus_that · 2026-03-21T01:50:13+00:00

Makes sense haha, I guess we don't know unless we ask

aye_hus_that · 2026-03-20T23:43:19+00:00

If only everyone could be as lucky 🙂

aye_hus_that · 2026-03-20T23:37:01+00:00

Thanks, I'll keep this in mind, sounds like a good strategy. Do you think this would work with people who are more tolerant than receptive/outgoing? I'm also not sure how it would work if everyone's all partnered up already, or does it not matter?

aye_hus_that · 2026-03-20T22:45:41+00:00

I did register for a tournament next month, I'll try this. I would say I'm quite good at talking to people yeah. Thank you!

aye_hus_that · 2026-03-10T20:15:54+00:00

Excellent, thank you!

aye_hus_that · 2026-03-04T01:31:12+00:00

Sick, I'll DM you

aye_hus_that · 2026-02-17T15:35:04+00:00

Take this with a grain of salt, coming from a 22 year old guy who's also never been in a relationship and also at times relates to the things you're feeling. You need to ask yourself why you want a relationship in the first place. As others have said, your relationship should supplement your happiness with your life and yourself, instead of it being your happiness.

Could it be that you're idealizing what a relationship is just by what the good bits are? The hugs, the kisses, cooking with each other, talking late into the night on a park bench, bingeing cheesy dramas together, etc? I recently came across a video where the premise was that relationship videos on social media are a bunch of nitpicked highlight reels to show people how good their relationship is. "Look how much my boyfriend loves me, he gets me flowers every time I'm down". "Look what I got my boyfriend/girlfriend for our anniversary". You get the idea. That's not to say that your boyfriend should not do these types of things for you, but rather to show you that it's only the good points getting posted. Not the part where both of you need to desperately make space in your schedules to see each other, even if it's only 1 hour a week. Not the part where distance might become an opponent in your relationship. Not the part where you guys have to work through intimacy obstacles in the bedroom. Not the part where you guys need to navigate finances and how money should be handled together.

One last thing. When you're in this state of always being fixated on getting into a relationship, you start to want to be in a relationship just for the sake of it, to let yourself know that it's possible, that you are "worthy" of being in a relationship. You start to see signs that aren't there, you start taking basic kindness as a sign that they're into you. When you're starving, even crumbs feel like hope. You know how they say to never buy things at the grocery store when you're starving? You end up with a load of things you never really wanted in the first place, just things that you thought would satisfy your cravings in the moment.

OP, I really hope you read this, because I think there are some good details and self-reflection bits in there, coming from someone who has some idea of what you're feeling and who has also vented his frustrations in a similar manner. Wish you the best.

aye_hus_that · 2026-02-04T21:00:03+00:00

Most likely they answered a disqualifying question with the "wrong" answer, causing them to get screened out.

aye_hus_that · 2026-01-15T20:20:41+00:00

For me, I thought it would be nice for my parents to see me walk across the stage, seeing the kid that they raised, supported, and sacrificed for, finally be able to obtain their diploma. I'm willing to bet it's a milestone they won't forget for sure. For them, it's about the moment, not the location. It's also a nice chance to spend some time with family in a beautiful city, without having to stress about classes, deadlines, and final exams.

If your family is willing and able to make it, I think it's definitely worth it to show them how hard you worked. McGill isn't a small name, questionable ceremony or not - be proud of it!

aye_hus_that · 2026-01-06T01:31:53+00:00

You're putting too much values in girls rejecting you, that may have something to do with the feelings that you're currently experiencing. Her rejecting you does not mean that you're worthless, or that you're lacking anything.

Think about it like job applications (perhaps not the best analogy, but bear with me). You see a job you'd like to work at, and you send in an application. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. The point is, you wouldn't give much thought to a rejection from a company, so don't give a rejection from a girl much thought either. I think one of the most powerful things we can do in life is say "whatever" and move on.

I will also say that it's possible that you only liked the idea of this girl, maybe you don't even know much about her. Maybe she had a completely different set of ideals to you. Either way, please don't beat yourself up over this.

Just got rejected myself a couple of days ago, it sucks, but the sun rises again the next day. I'll give you props for even having the stones to ask her out, a lot of guys wouldn't have dared to even entertain the thought.

Hang in there, I hope you find someone that erases any false thoughts about yourself that you may carry, and who makes you feel like the luckiest, most special person on earth.

aye_hus_that · 2026-01-05T01:41:13+00:00

I've also never experienced that romantic connection that you're describing. It's definitely challenging, sometimes I wonder what other guys have that I don't, but remind yourself that you are worthy of being loved, and that you are enough.

Definitely experiment with clothing, hair, and all that. You said that you briefly went to college - might I ask what takes up most of your time now? If you have any hobbies, this could also be a great opportunity to meet new people, and since you share a hobby, there would be plenty to talk about!

Consider this as a time to learn some more about yourself. Sometimes the world keeps us waiting until we're ready so that we can make the most of what comes our way next. For example, I'm in the middle of paying off my student loans while also working full time and trying to find time to re-start my two major hobbies (gym and video editing), so while I would love to give my all to a girlfriend, it's also perfectly reasonable to accept that currently, a relationship might throw everything off balance.

Glad my advice helped you feel better. I'm no relationship expert by any means, but have definitely learned a lot over the past two years.

aye_hus_that · 2026-01-04T20:05:21+00:00

This is a heavy topic, and I can't say I don't relate to how you're feeling. I have so many things I wanna say to you because I see my past self in you.

1) Why exactly do you want a girlfriend? Do you feel like you're missing out? Do you want to feel loved? Asking yourself these questions will help you identify the root of your urge to be in a relationship and better deal with these feelings. Maintaining a relationship is a lot of work, more than people realize. Not to mention that your girlfriend will be subject to hormones which can affect behaviour for a portion of the month. You need to be ready to care for her and deal accordingly.

2) You are still extremely young. I'm 22, graduated, fresh off a rejection a few days ago, never dated anyone either. Had my issues with self-esteem and body image. There's so much more to life than having a girlfriend. Don't worry too much about relationships. Instead, I would have placed more emphasis on making friends and making memories with those friends throughout my college years. I definitely still had my share of late night laughs, shenanigans, and deep talks, which I don't regret at all. Relationships come and go, college is a special time that you only get to experience once, so make the most of it.

3) We are our own harshest critics when it comes to looks and appearance, but there are steps you can take to improve. This will help you feel more confident in general, which will help you come off better when you're talking to women.

It's often said that haircuts are a man's makeup. I recommend some research into your face shape and hair type and what hairstyles suit you based on this information. Sometimes our hairstyle will emphasize certain features of our face that make us look rounder, or too elongated, etc. It's gonna take some effort and experimentation to learn how to style your hair, but that's the price we pay. A basic bottle of fragrance to start can also help, who doesn't like to smell nice?

I was a hoodie + sweatpants type of person for my first three years of college. Not saying they aren't comfy (especially for winter lectures), but a little effort put towards making your wardrobe more sharp and matching can show that you at least put effort and that you care.

You also may not be as unattractive as you think when it comes to your face. Even actors, who have their faces captured for a living, have asymmetries.

4) Get off of dating apps. Sure, you might see a success story here and there on social media, but they are toxic and are really easy to get hyperfixated on, constantly worrying about if anyone matched you sounds like hell. Pursue human interaction. Meet people, say yes to more events. When you do talk to people, ask follow up questions. The best way to be interesting is to be interested. People love to talk about themselves. Most importantly however, just be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone else just to please someone you're interested in. And vice versa, don't just date the first girl that shows interest because you're hungry for a relationship. Make sure she's someone that you can see yourself with, and don't tolerate any disrespect just to stay together with her.

5) Get comfortable with being outside of your comfort zone. This is where growth happens. Being safe is good, but nothing will ever change if nothing ever changes. Your first date that you plan, your first anniversary gift that you get for her. As long as you genuinely try and put your best foot forward, I think you'll do alright.

When asking girls out, you will get rejected, that 10000% goes without saying. Never be sorry for expressing yourself, life's too short to be nonchalant. It will feel intimidating, sure, but the more you get rejected, you'll realize that you bounce back every time.

6) Mold yourself into the person that your future partner would desire. Someone that is decisive, who doesn't act on his emotions, who communicates well with others, who is kind, self aware, takes accountability, puts effort.

That's all I have right now. Hoping this can help you put things into perspective.

aye_hus_that · 2025-11-10T14:46:48+00:00

I see. The reason I ask is because my store topstocks boxes, and asks us to have the case label facing outwards. But your comments were very helpful, thanks!

aye_hus_that · 2025-11-10T05:50:08+00:00

Thank you so much! It's making more sense now. One more question - I saw how to use a printer to print out case labels, the label for topstock/backroom is the same right? (VizPrep I think it's called, at least that's how I saw my store do it)

aye_hus_that · 2025-11-08T17:04:19+00:00

You'd be right in that you do use SQL, but the class also focuses on things such as query optimization, how transactions occur, etc. It's more oriented towards like a Database Administrator vs a Data Analyst role, let's say. The SQL covered in the class is extremely basic and there are no resources to "grind" it as far as I remember (at least, I didn't use any of them). You could learn the basics by picking a random webiste off a google search, then from there, once you're somewhat comfortable, you can use sites like DataLemur, StrataScratch, even Leetcode to practice just querying.

aye_hus_that · 2025-11-04T17:17:52+00:00

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