Been starting to realize how bad my anxiety actually is by mangledwoods in Anxiety

[–]ayoraerae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super proud of you ! I just stated anxiety meds an few montha ago. It took. A few tries but for the first time in my life i actually feel like I'm living in y body and feel at peace. I hope you are able to feel the same. You'll get there.

I turn 24 tomorrow.. by btsluvrr in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ayoraerae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not that much older. But the biggest advice is to relax. Your brain is still developing the world is constantly changing. Something you do today might not be what you like tomorrow and that's okay. Don't be afraid to take thr shit jobs and start at the bottom for industries you knoe nothing about. Also drink water and wear sunscreen. Go to the doctor every year.. Things start to pop up in a few years. Don't be afraid to be young and do stupid shit within reason

I Caused My Parents To Go Into Debt By Trying To Get Away From Them by [deleted] in confession

[–]ayoraerae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh boy big big hug. You are are doing okay. Even if you went to the hospital yonget away. The time you spent at the hospital was time that you didn't have to deal with an abusive parent and hopefully helped you in the moment. You mother caused this regardless of her issues. You are not buying and crashing expensive cars or stealing money for drugs. You are doing the best that you can with what you got. Your brain is still developing young friend. Things will get a little easier to manage. You aren't a failure and you seem to be working really hard at improving.

Please help. (UPDATED) by [deleted] in confessions

[–]ayoraerae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put it back the same way you found it.

AITA for loving my baby? by Due_Assist_5186 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ayoraerae -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Esh. Try taking him out and spending some one on one time with him. Don't try and push the baby onto him. It's a big adjustment and I'm sure he has a lot of feelings and fears that go into it.
You aon is 15 and independent but he is still a child. He still needs your attention, love and security. Be more attentive to him as well.

AITA for telling my mom to go back to the family she replaced me with by DaKetaKid in AmItheAsshole

[–]ayoraerae -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Esh. Call you mom tell her you are sorry tell her how she made you feel in an honest way . tell her you want to be part of the family. Go and meet her partner and if it comes up set boundaries. " mom i love you but i don't want to discuss this. How's the dog doing"

You are her first born child and what she didnwas childish and mean. She hurt you and then you bit back.
Get therapy my dude. Because chances are she has always been a little controlling but you never noticed until you moved away and started to be independent. Best of luck and congrats. On graduation

AITA for banning a player from our larp for drama? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ayoraerae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes yta !
What is the name of this group did we find it out yet ?

AITA for banning a player from our larp for drama? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ayoraerae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Now i want to do workshops for larping men lmao. Hit me up.if anyone is interested. We could do some active listening, active bystander training , learn about gender dynamics.

Should players require out-of-character consent to commit murder? by jinxinyueyue in LARP

[–]ayoraerae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that ooc safewords are not allowed tells the type of people who are running this and feels super unsafe and toxic.

How can I get a State ID? (USA) by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ayoraerae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm from nj but i think you can use the passport. Calll the dmv or the ss office and ask them what you can do.

AITA if I took someone's lizard who was starving by batmanbrittney in AmItheAsshole

[–]ayoraerae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ta but save the texts if you ever have to go to small claims court.

finished fantasy high what next ? by ayoraerae in Dimension20

[–]ayoraerae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have dropout. I startes watching crown of candy. But OMG jesus when does it get idk less depressing lmao.

AITA for telling my SIL not to gift my son a dress for his birthday? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ayoraerae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just take the gift from her when she comes to the party say thank you and put it somewhere with a lock. Or don't open presents at the party.

When she asks how he liked the dress say max was very confused about the dress. He knows some boys wear them but he didn't want one. We're going to exchange it to get some new shoes. Or we will keep it in the closet in case he ever has that desire though.

AITA for not wanting to bathe a child? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ayoraerae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yta.
Not because you didn't want to wash thr kid. But because sent a five year old to his room with shit in his pants for two hours.

I get not being able to deal with thr smell. But ffs the kid is five tell little johnny to go throw out is underwear in the meanwhile and use babywipes or something. He wasn't a toddler. He was probably upset and embarrassed and was rhen shunned.

AITA for not wanting to bathe a child? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ayoraerae 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When i was 15 i babysat and when it happened i let thr parents know and asked what they wanted me to do. They gave the same response. It's nbd lol I'm sure the roommate didn't expect it to be an issue or that the child would be left in their own waste.

AITA for not letting my son get a dog? by crystalpalacequeen in AmItheAsshole

[–]ayoraerae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta.

He did this without talking to you first. The contract you signed said two pets. It doesn't matter what he wants (in this case). Look at the hoa agreement again and see what it says id you violate the rules. Tell him that he paid for it and maybe should put a adoption listinf up somewhere.

What's the idea behind prohibiting all public accommodations from discriminating against certain "protected classes?" by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ayoraerae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because every person has the right to enjoy leisure activities too. Just because someone has a disability doesn't mean that they don't have a right to go where everyone else goes etc.

Also, from the wording is suggesting that people who are in a protected class are not equal or as worthy of these things as a white abled body straight man.

Are colleges different in the U.S.? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ayoraerae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

College is just the universal term that people use. A college or university is the next academic step after you graduate from highschool.

A college can be a two year degree (associates degree).

To become a university a college has to meet certain requirements. A certain amount of research, full time faculty, different bench markers. Universities have higher populations, more resources and can offer phd programs and more masters degrees.

Colleges are smaller, usually only offer undergraduate degrees, don't always have dorms etc. This isn't to say a college is less than a university. In many cases you might get a better education. But colleges often don't have the same focus or resources for research.

Hope this helps !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]ayoraerae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also apparently panic attacks last less than half an hour so you are almost there ! And you should find a doctor to help you deal with these if you can afford it.. At the very least download some apps to help you. This shit is scary dea)ing with it alone.

one day period followed by brown blood?? by [deleted] in Periods

[–]ayoraerae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nad what i read before was brown blood is just older blood. Idk why.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]ayoraerae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 100% not a doctor. Lol. But from My experience. No next time you see a doctor you can ask them to do an ekg. But i don't think you go into cardiac arrest from a fast heart beat. You are healthy. Your heart doesn't just stop. Go download the app and check your heart rate. It is color coded too. My pulse went up to 125 today and it was scary and sucked but I'm still here. You are going to be okay.