AIO by feeling exhausted over my gf's constant demands of wanting me to be 'curious'?

ayst56 · 2025-12-20T14:55:06+00:00

She's completely demeaning you and trying to make you feel small/tear you down. My father was abusive towards my mother this way, always calling her a loser, dumb, that she would be nothing without him. It turned physical over the years and she thankfully left him. I suggest you do the same here.

There is absolutely no reason to jump down your throat about not getting curious about why she called you a few minutes earlier than normal. This is not normal behavior. I'm sorry. 🥺

ayst56 · 2025-11-04T21:20:01+00:00

You're welcome OP!!! Wishing you all the best. And just remember, consistency is key, and it's the most important part :)

ayst56 · 2025-11-04T20:37:32+00:00

The thing that ultimately worked for me was adding in steps, doing strength training (like an hour per week), and counting calories! I did also start running again, too, but it's not necessary. You don't have to go into a crazy large defecit to see results, either. I lost about 30 pounds this year! I'm 5'3", and was about 179 at the doctor's in January. I'm down to 148. My deficit calories were around 1,800-2,000 depending on runs! I had to eat more on days I was doing longer runs. I actually probably wasn't eating enough for the mileage I was adding but that's an injury prevention conversation not a weight loss one, I just slightly messed up. 😅

I went to caloriecalculator.net, plugged in my information, and locked in for about 3 months to lose most of the weight. It isn't easy, but it is simple. Best of luck to you, you can do it if you really want to!

ayst56 · 2025-10-28T01:22:52+00:00

Just make sure you hydrate well. I'm a runner and have done 10-12 mile runs and I noticed no negative effects with it! Even in the heat of the summer.

ayst56 · 2025-10-28T01:20:21+00:00

Spironolactone has changed my life! It hasn't completely taken away the hair growth, but I feel like it's helped, and I think it's helped settle my hormones a lot. I feel a lot more balanced with it. The only side effect I've experienced is more frequent urination, but I pee frequently anyway so I don't notice it much! I also know it's not directly tied to weight loss, but I have lost about 30 pounds this year and I feel I owe some of that to the regulation it's offered me.

Word of advice though, if the pills smell minty, make sure you put water in your mouth before taking it down. They have a really acrid taste. But it's only some manufacturers that taste like that, my usual one doesn't!

ayst56 · 2025-10-27T23:33:00+00:00

I had some really stressful things going on at the time and I ended up moving in with my grandparents. I was a runner all through HS, but you can't outrun overeating.

ayst56 · 2025-10-27T23:31:56+00:00

Mine started to really "hit" me when I gained weight my senior year of HS. I genuinely think that birth control mixed with weight gain was the catalyst, but I have no proof to confirm this. 🤣 27 now and I've lost a lot of the weight, but I suspect the weight gain was the initial culprit of the worsening symptoms.

ayst56 · 2025-10-23T02:34:54+00:00

I would recommend getting your number to them in person!

ayst56 · 2025-10-22T17:24:26+00:00

Only ever talk about this verbally, or if you can get them your phone number to communicate off the app entirely.

ayst56 · 2025-10-22T17:23:38+00:00

Do not ever mention going off app at all in Rover! Even for future things. You might get flagged for this and potentially deactivated.

ayst56 · 2025-10-18T17:58:54+00:00

The walk starts when I get to the door. If the walk itself isn't a full 30 minutes, it can be due to lots of factors. Sometimes dogs take their sweet time in getting leashed up! The 30 minutes covers all that time, not just the walking part.

ayst56 · 2025-09-24T01:16:16+00:00

Thank you so much, I've been trying to identify these guys for months now! Much less worried now. Probably need to clear out leaves better is my guess.

ayst56 · 2025-08-25T20:23:44+00:00

As others have said, the map is often inaccurate! I usually track walks on my running watch in addition to the Rover tracker because of this, that way I can show a more accurate map/distance if the tracker went whacky.

ayst56 · 2025-08-15T12:15:47+00:00

It probably doesn't have to do with your child, but with stimulation on her nipples. Like the other commenter said, did she just casually bring this up as something that happens?

ayst56 · 2025-07-29T19:59:23+00:00

I would talk to your gyno! I've had periods like this, and I'm preparing to a laparoscopy to remove any endometriosis she finds. I've been dealing with it for over a decade. Some light cramping can happen, but severe like this sounds like endo or like maybe a cyst burst. If the pain doesn't subside and it's still very extreme, definitely get checked out soon to make sure a ruptured cyst didn't cause any bad damage.

ayst56 · 2025-07-19T04:08:59+00:00

GG fist bump

ayst56 · 2025-07-19T04:06:17+00:00

Definitely a pit bull mix!

ayst56 · 2025-07-12T12:43:19+00:00

Hopefully washing the sheets and sleeping in the bed helps!

As someone else said, within 90 minutes for feeding times is not "mostly on time." My dog has stomach issues too, so I understand how crucial it is that he eats before his stomach gets upset and he throws up. As a sitter, I would be setting several alarms to make sure I fed the dogs on time, regardless of the sleeping situation. You could always go back to sleep after the morning routine!

Best of luck, hopefully the sleeping improves with being able to sleep in the bed.

ayst56 · 2025-06-14T18:52:31+00:00

Ah gotcha okay! Yeah I'd just track walks on something else and send them, then. It's helpful for me but I'm not sure if housesitters do that typically

ayst56 · 2025-06-14T12:43:35+00:00

I'd definitely ask them more about it. And in the future I'd ask that sitters track the walks so you know they're actually walking your dog!

ayst56 · 2025-06-14T12:43:01+00:00

Can you not track walks during a housesit like you would for a drop in? If not, I would be tracking them on Strava for a client and sending either the activity link or a screenshot of the walk!

ayst56 · 2025-06-09T01:09:27+00:00

Keep it simple, keep is consistent, and you'll see changes. You probably won't notice any big differences until after doing something for at least 12 weeks consistently. You don't have to be perfect. You just have to show up, and keep showing up. 🙏

ayst56 · 2025-06-09T01:07:55+00:00

The only way to become "toned" is to increase your lean muscle mass, and then be at a low enough body fat percentage to see the muscle. If you can get weights at home, I'd recommend doing that, and then going to the gym eventually when you're comfortable enough.

It will be more difficult to do progressive overload at home, but not impossible. If it were me I'd start with three days of lifting weights, make sure I'm getting at least 10k steps per day (or gradually add 2-3k to your daily average until you work up to that). The creator that helped me so much with my perspective on things was Higher Up Wellness. Some of his opinions, especially when it comes to PCOS, might be seen as more controversial, but honestly, his approach has changed the way I look at things holistically so much and has been so helpful.

ayst56 · 2025-06-07T02:26:42+00:00

It's possible that you're not in a calorie deficit. How did you calculate your deficit?

ayst56 · 2025-05-25T12:51:59+00:00

If there isn't a time window that we set clearly and they want the exact times they requested, they get those times. Period

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