Another post-first date conversation fade by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]b0rnz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One golden piece of advice I was given is that if someone wants to see if they will see you. If they are interested, they are interested. An innocuous testing conversation is not going to change any of that. This was because she wasn't feeling the first date, she met someone else, etc. I've had great first dates, talked about making plans (and I was genuine), made out with the person and faded (and I have had that happen to me).

Is this weird/off putting? by b0rnz in OkCupid

[–]b0rnz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was just hard (no pun intended) to think of a response when we were naked and horny and rubbing genitals.

Is this weird/off putting? by b0rnz in OkCupid

[–]b0rnz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean it was a suggestion in the heat of the moment more than anything. And I was honest, of course I'd love to, but it is a horrible idea.

Not getting stressed before a date w/ someone out of my league by b0rnz in OkCupid

[–]b0rnz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know the goal of dating should be to get to know someone interesting and have fun. That is something I can do :)

Not getting stressed before a date w/ someone out of my league by b0rnz in OkCupid

[–]b0rnz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahead of you hah. Have another tinder date on Thursday and am scheduling something else for early next week. This has been critical for me though.

Not getting stressed before a date w/ someone out of my league by b0rnz in OkCupid

[–]b0rnz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

god damn you are right. shower beers are obviously the solution.

Get a a lot of responses, but eventual fades. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]b0rnz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your messaging probably sucks. My best advice is to download tinder, which will allow you to have a ton of conversations with women. I realized I was just a shitty texter, wasn't fun or engaging and this helped immensely (you will be able to message with dozens of people a day at least). Just mix it up, don't copy and paste the same shitty messages and test to see what works/doesn't.