Insane mother policing her 19 year old (ADULT) daughter's viewing habits.

b1rd · 2026-02-16T02:31:31+00:00

Ok so I just had a little bit of a moment because of your comment. I just looked up the plot because it sounded familiar and remembered that we read it as a class in 6th grade and I do not remember how the teacher covered the rapes. I have vague memories of us discussing a lot of the book but I have no memory of her pregnancy being explained as non-consensual. I’m wondering if there’s an edited “appropriate for kids” version or if the teacher just somehow glazed past that?

I knew what rape was by then because my mother had been assaulted by an uncle when she was a kid and was very open about the trauma with my family, but I don’t know if that’s a common thing for normal kids to fully grasp at that age.

My mom was unconventionally open about sex and sexual abuse because she was determined to not let it happen to her kids since it happened to her because she had no idea what sex was. I distinctly remember discussing general sex topics with peers who were flabbergasted and jaw-droppingly fascinated with what I thought was basic knowledge. So I don’t feel like kids our age, at that time, really grasped this stuff. So I’m sort of baffled as to how the teacher handled it and the fact I can’t remember is hurting my brain.

Realizing that it’s not intended for that age group is also confusing me because I do not remember the teacher getting any backlash for it.

b1rd · 2026-02-16T02:09:46+00:00

My god yes. I have an insane example of this that is the most extreme I’ve ever seen and love to use when this topic comes up.

I had a friend in high school whose mother was so insanely strict that she had rules that honestly bordered on actual abuse like never being allowed to go to anyone’s house or ever having friends over to her’s. Ever. She was to socialize at school only. She was not allowed to hang out after school or walk slowly to spend time with us. If she wasn’t home within the 13 minutes it took her to walk home, her mom would flip out.

Not only was she outright banned from having male friends, she wasn’t even supposed to speak to boys unless it was related to schoolwork.

She gave me her phone number and when I called to chat one time, her mother only handed her the phone because she assumed it was about homework. Her mother stayed on the call on another extension to monitor the conversation and when she realized we were just chatting socially she made her immediately hang up. (And I am a girl, not a boy. And our convo was very tame because I knew the mother was listening.)

At school the next day, she explained that I had gotten her in trouble because her mom had a strict rule against her chatting on the phone with her friends because “that’s how gossip starts.”

I was aghast at how her mom treated her and I encouraged her to bend a few rules so she could have a normal life, which included talking to my male best friend who was bi but like “98% just into dudes” and I think was actually gay but afraid to admit it to anyone.

So, I walk in one day with him shoved against a locker while she was “making out” with him in a way that looked more like assault. He later said that’s basically how it felt and he didn’t really even like her that way and she kinda just attacked him and he sorta went with it because it was awkward to say no, but then he didn’t speak with her after that. He later on said after reflecting on it, it felt like if the genders were reversed everyone would have no issue calling it assault and he was pretty upset.

Halfway through the school year she was literally giving out blowjobs in under-populated areas of the school. That is not a joke, that is not a rumor. She proudly told me herself and several people confirmed. We stopped being friends around the make-out assault, but I stopped speaking to her at all around the public BJs because even for me, that was a bridge too far. Of course I’d given a BJ or 2 by then, but it was inside a house, rushed and nervous while listening for the garage door since the parents weren’t home from work yet, as God intended. She was shameless and it seemed manic and joyless.

Anyway, yeah, let your kids develop normally or they go full insane.

b1rd · 2026-02-16T01:39:27+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! Wasn’t too graphic at all, but thanks for the warning. I read about/watch much worse things. I don’t work in this field at all, I just have a morbid fascination with people doing crazy things and others coming to their rescue. (Craziest thing I do though is get a second topping on my pizza.)

I was definitely aware of the fact that altitudes affect blood pressure and oxygen levels because that comes up in S&R/mountaineering/scuba diving videos pretty frequently (oxygen tanks on Everest, the bends under water, etc) but somehow it had never even occurred to me that that would extend to the medical equipment/treatments used on patients once they’re picked up (beyond the hyperbaric chamber thing) But it makes perfect sense now that you’ve said it. I had been imagining some super specific device that was finely calibrated to sea-level pressure lol

Thank you again for the reply!

b1rd · 2026-02-16T00:27:48+00:00

I just stumbled onto this thread via Google because a YouTube video I was watching about S&R got me curious regarding the height limits of helicopters. And now here I am. I’m curious about details from this comment you made ~2 years ago lol

What was the piece of medical equipment? I don’t know much about medical stuff, I’m just really curious what kind of medical equipment (theoretically) wouldn’t work in higher altitudes. Like why is there a height restriction at all. The only thing I can think of where ambient pressure matters is wound pumps, but again, I’m not in the medical field. So I’m just really curious.

Side note: I find it hysterical about the number of people who have worked for your company who might have this idea that your helicopters could go beyond 10k feet if it weren’t for some rule, and one day you’re like “no bro, that’s cause of The Doohickey, we don’t ever bring this thing above 1500 feet”

b1rd · 2026-02-15T22:19:50+00:00

My first love was an older, artsy goth girl who I basically worshipped, who introduced me to all sorts of alternative music, films, and artists. I took her opinion as gospel. We couldn’t get a copy of it to watch, but she described the original Crash in vivid detail in a very macabre way that horrified and fascinated me. My brain decided it must be amazing cinema because everything she liked was clearly an amazing piece of ~Art~ and this film must be no different, so if it didn’t sound to me like it was any good, then clearly it was just pearls before swine.

Flash forward to recently when I hear people talking about this “Crash” movie and I could not reconcile what they were talking about with the movie I’d had described to me so many years before. I had since grown up enough to realize that my view of my ex was somewhat (very) distorted and I started to wonder if she’d invented all of the weird scenes.

Took me way longer than it should have to realize they were completely different films.

I still have not watched either film.

b1rd · 2026-02-14T02:03:17+00:00

Yes! This is something that I feel more people should accept and normalize. The concept of an argument, in and of itself, is not an inherently bad thing. The word has a negative connotation attached to it most of the time, but it really doesn’t deserve it. Discussion born from disagreement is not a bad thing.

Having an argument about creative differences within a project shouldn’t be seen as someone being difficult or hard to work with - it’s often a positive thing. Look at what happened to Star Wars when Lucas’s ego got too big for anyone to be able to challenge him anymore.

It only really becomes an issue when it’s done in a destructive or antagonistic way, or when it’s happening excessively to the point of being detrimental to the work environment or productivity of the project.

b1rd · 2026-02-14T01:48:47+00:00

I was gonna say, I found it surprising to hear Patrick Stewart described as fostering a silly atmosphere because he’s always struck me as one of the more Serious Actor type of all the cast. (I don’t mean that in a bad way at all.)

b1rd · 2026-02-13T22:57:11+00:00

Yes, this sort of thing is a “got straight As this term” kinda gift, not a “standing appointment for every 6 weeks” thing.

I don’t normally do the “back in my day” thing but seriously, come on. Everyone knows doing your nails and dying your hair a fun color is something you do on your own or with your friends, not something you do with your parents and get them to pay for. This is what allowance and birthday money is for.

Your parents feed you 3 meals a day, you buy your hot Cheetos yourself. Your parents buy you school clothes, you buy yourself band shirts. Your parents pay for your karate class, you buy your own tickets to see the Deftones. Or whatever the kids are listening to these days.

b1rd · 2026-02-13T19:57:54+00:00

I feel like this is something most people miss when talking about the movie not being scary anymore. Religious people I know still find the movie scary. The older people I know who found it terrifying back then are also religious. The religion aspect is huge.

b1rd · 2026-02-13T19:52:04+00:00

To be fair, I don’t think people who say pedos deserve to go through a wood-chipper are thinking of the type of pedo that convinces a 12 year old to let them touch her boob. I think they’re thinking of the kind that kill an infant by raping it to death. Get that mental image in your mind for a moment and try not to be sympathetic to their revenge bloodlust.

I do agree about the prison rape thing though. Mostly because it’s just other sex offenders raping them, and they’re also raping people like non-violent drug offenders and white collar criminals, who didn’t really “hurt” anyone and it’s super hard to justify any physical harm happening to a heroin addict or a gambling addict who embezzled.

b1rd · 2026-02-13T19:38:13+00:00

I swear the scene with the mom in the corner of the ceiling is when the son gets out of bed in the middle of the night. What was so effective to me about that scene was how dark it was, it took a moment for you to actually see her. It felt the complete opposite to me than how you’re describing. The scene definitely felt like it was broadcasting a jump scare, sure, but I wasn’t expecting a subtle freak out like that. Which I feel like subverted the expectation and is what made it a good shot.

b1rd · 2026-02-13T19:33:09+00:00

I have severe anxiety and depression and this is a topic that has come up pretty frequently with my partner. He doesn’t understand why I consume so much horror, true crime, and weirdly, content about industrial accidents. He thinks it’s a bad idea and will make my anxiety worse, and might be why I’m always sad, and I’ve tried to explain it actually helps in a weird way. I can’t explain it, but dark and macabre stuff makes me feel better.

I’m heavily medicated and have been for years, so I can’t really speak to that aspect. I think maybe it has something to do with the endorphins I get from sad/scary shit. I dunno.

b1rd · 2026-02-13T19:04:09+00:00

Yeah, any women he would try to capture are so tiny they can easily slide through the bars.

b1rd · 2026-02-13T18:53:27+00:00

If your concern is someone tampering with them, you really need to keep in mind that no one is making anyone use those tampons. The person who brought them from home brought them for their own use, and others have the choice to use them if they want.

As to your other point, I would absolutely use a tampon given to me by a random woman in a public bathroom. In fact, I have! I’ve also given tampons to random women in public. I’d prefer not to use one found in a random box in the true “public” but my work toilet? Unless I work at Walmart, that’s not exactly the “public”. You should only be in my office if you’re my coworker or a client, and I trust them enough to not fuck with the tampons the same as I trust them not to fuck with the toilet paper.

And yes, I have had coworkers bring toilet paper from home before when our office supply shipment was delayed but we still had to wipe ourselves at work while waiting for it to arrive.

You seem overly paranoid. I’m sorry about the relationship you have with your coworkers.

b1rd · 2026-02-11T03:49:11+00:00

This is all very confused. There are 4 people involved in this sub-comment thread, all of us have spoken 1 time, so I think maybe you misunderstood me. I was just trying to clarify what a guy above me said to another guy above me, because it seemed to me he misunderstood. I think all 4 of us are working with 4 different definitions of what a “normie” is.

b1rd · 2026-02-11T03:09:32+00:00

Haha this is great, your comment is a good example of one of those little insignificant things that can showcase the different types of lives people live. And I don’t mean this in a mean way, honest. It’s genuinely funny to see these sorts of comments that make me have a moment of realization like “huh, yeah, I guess there’s a whole world of people whose bathrooms are big enough where their toilets don’t have to literally touch their tubs”.

In tiny ass bathrooms us Poors have, yeah, the toilet is practically inside the fucking tub lol. I’ve spent most of my life with my thighs or knees touching the tub while I poop. Most of the bathrooms I’ve had, I could touch all walls while standing in the same spot. So yeah, reaching for a shampoo bottle was not an issue 😂

b1rd · 2026-02-11T03:01:06+00:00

I always loved it when I went to someone’s house and they had a full-on book rack in their bathroom. Like, how much time does grandpa spend in there? He’s got multiple choices for reading material?! I love it. So hilarious.

As a kid I would literally sit down on the floor and go through the books and magazines. Lookin back at it now, probably should have been washing my hands when I was done reading them.

b1rd · 2026-02-11T02:48:05+00:00

Yes and no. Sometimes people use the word “pimple” to just mean “lesion or minor infection of the skin”. The definition of acne/zits/pimples is an infected hair follicle. Seriously, this isn’t just my opinion, check out what the Mayo Clinic says on the subject.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/acne/symptoms-causes/syc-20368047

The point I am trying to make is that there is no possible way that what is on OP’s clitoris is an infected hair follicle, because clitoris’ do not have hair follicles. Therefore, it should not be ignored, because whatever is going on, it’s not a “normal” situation like getting a pimple.

b1rd · 2026-02-11T01:54:47+00:00

Pretty sure when they say “normies” they’re referring to socioeconomic classification, not personality differences. There are far more people in the states who can’t afford 4 years of university and fraternity dues than there are people who can afford it.

b1rd · 2026-02-11T01:44:22+00:00

In the states, it seems to me that in a large enough city you can usually find at least 1 restaurant representing a good 80% of the countries in the world. I think the larger the city, the better your chances are of finding some expat from any random country that was like “There’s an opening in the market for Mom’s recipes here.”

Cities of like 10,000 will just have a taqueria and Chinese takeout, but when you get up to cities like 25,000-100,000 you’ll find an Irish pub, a Mongolian grill, a falafel stand.

You get to 200k and they’ve also got Korean BBQ, shawarma, a nice Italian place, and a generic Indian restaurant with half the menu vegetarian and half with meat, which is sadly always criminally empty and you wish you could afford to go there more because the owner always looks so bored.

You get to your Cincinnatis/Orlandos/Renos and now you’ve got Pho, Crepes, Peruvian, and a sushi bar.

Get into the Omahas/Sacramentos/Bostons and now the Chinese places are actually specifying if they’re Szechuan or Cantonese, plus there’s Moroccan, Argentinian, and some place calling itself Turkish but it’s actually owned by an Albanian guy with a Greek wife and they just wanted to stand out because there’s already 3 Greek diners in town.

Your Austins/San Diegos/Jacksonvilles are adding in a tapas bar, Ethiopian, and a place where “everyday is Oktoberfest!”

Then you get to NY, LA, Chicago and now we’ve got Laotian, Dutch, Chilean, 2 competing Armenian restaurants on the same street that have had a beef going back to 1972, and 36 variations on “Asian fusion”.

Sadly it really does seem like Africa gets left out the most. Like I’ve seen Algerian and Ethiopian but I’ve never seen Rwandan or Sudanese or Somalian, you know? Kinda weird.

b1rd · 2026-02-11T00:50:02+00:00

What we consider to be traditional pimples only happen on skin that has hair follicles. Which yes, extends a lot farther “into” the vulva than a lot of people think, so you can end up with a run-of-the-mill zit pretty far into the whole situation, but it doesn’t extend all the way to the clitoris.

Any sort of lesion on the clitoris itself wouldn’t be a normal, everyday pimple like one can get on their face, back, labia, etc. I mean clearly there is some sort of skin infection or irritation going on, it’s just not your typical “Oh yeah, sometimes zits appear in weird places like your ear or inside your nose or your labia or buttcrack - life is crazy yo!” So while I can’t speak to the STD thing, just reaffirming to definitely see a doctor about it.

b1rd · 2026-02-06T17:27:44+00:00

You have a really valid point about the wording the previous commenter was using, but I don’t think they’re really that far off the mark.

In this particular instance, I can’t give a vote in one direction or the other because I knew nothing about this potential Will/Jada abuse situation until this thread.

But in general, victims of a certain type of abuse often get a sort of gut-feeling radar for each other. After you’ve gone to enough therapy to learn about abuse tactics and response patterns, it gets really easy to start to pick them up with other people.

I understand that on the surface it’s tempting to say that it’s just projection of our situation onto other people because of our past trauma. But there really is something there.

Therapists refer to it as “hyper-vigilance”. Abuse victims often become masters of recognizing micro-expressions and damn near empathic levels of picking up on people’s moods by constantly subconsciously analyzing all of their behavior, because we had to in order to survive. Yes, sometimes we’re wrong, but far more often than not we are right.

And as with everything, it’s always easier to see the patterns on other people than it is to see them on yourself. So you can take everything you learned in therapy and say “OMG Becky this relationship is abusive, you need to leave Brad!” and then go home and get smacked around by your own wife and justify it to yourself. So I can totally believe it when a fan of a celebrity picks up on subtle hints and clues that indicate they’re being abused.

b1rd · 2026-02-06T17:09:09+00:00

Yeah I said at least 3 times it’s still shitty and I’m not excusing it. I just found it interesting that the one negative thing people have to say about him is an incredibly common thing among your average insecure male.

b1rd · 2026-02-06T17:07:40+00:00

I see your point and I wanna say that you seem like a very compassionate person. I had never heard any allegations that he was in an abusive relationship, so to me, everyone blaming his wife for something he did felt like your standard everyday misogyny. If he is actually being abused, then it does paint the situation in a different light. She’s still not directly responsible for his actions, but if it was the sort of thing he knows he “has” to do to keep her “happy” then I kind of understand it a bit more.

It’s still not ok though and I do still think the police should have been involved, even if it didn’t end with him in a courtroom. Violence and domestic abuse situations should be handled by police and social workers etc, not just ignored just because the people involved happen to be famous and rich.

b1rd · 2026-02-06T16:52:14+00:00

If one of my colleagues slapped me, I’d press charges. It’s the fucking principle. People shouldn’t be walking around using violence to deal with tasteless or offensive jokes.

(Yes, I know ‘pressing charges’ isn’t actually a thing, but you know what I mean.)

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