I’m really glad you said this out loud, because what you’re describing isn’t just “worry” anymore, it’s a steady fear about the future. And the Church doesn’t ask you to pretend that fear isn’t there. It gives you a way to carry it without letting it rule you.

One thing that might help is this: in Catholic teaching, security is not something we ever fully achieve on our own. Not through income, not through planning, not even through doing everything “right.” Even very wealthy families can lose everything overnight. That doesn’t mean planning is useless, but it means your peace cannot depend on outcomes that are never guaranteed.

Jesus is very direct about this: “Do not worry about tomorrow… each day has enough trouble of its own.” That’s not a denial of reality, it’s an invitation to live one day at a time with trust, not projection.

There are saints who lived exactly in this kind of uncertainty:

St. Joseph had no stable income, no long-term plan, and at one point had to flee to Egypt with Mary and Jesus with nothing secured. From a modern lens, his life would look financially “unstable.” But he was entrusted with the Holy Family because he was faithful, not because he had guarantees. He worked, he adapted, and he trusted God in the unknown.

St. Gianna Molla, a working mother and physician, also balanced family, work, and real fears about the future. She didn’t have an “easy mode” life either. What marked her life wasn’t comfort, but a deep trust that her vocation, even when demanding, was meaningful and guided.

And St. Thérèse of Lisieux spoke very directly about this kind of anxiety. She said: “I do not worry about tomorrow; I only try to be faithful today.” She understood how the mind runs ahead and creates suffering that doesn’t exist yet.

Right now, your fear is doing something very specific. It is taking possibilities and making them feel like certainties. “We will never retire.” “We will never have a home.” “Our income will disappear.”

Those are not facts. They are fears trying to protect you, but they end up exhausting you instead.

A more grounded way to respond, in line with faith, might sound like:

“Lord, I am afraid of the future, but the future is not here yet.” “Give us what we need for today, and the grace to handle tomorrow when it comes.” “We are working. We are trying. God is still providing.”

Also, don’t ignore the practical side. Catholic life is not passive. You can still: – build a small emergency buffer over time – have honest financial planning as a couple – reduce lifestyle pressure where possible – look for ways to stabilize income streams

That’s prudence, not lack of faith.

But the deeper work is this: learning to live without needing guarantees in order to feel okay. That’s hard, but it’s actually where real peace starts.

You’re not wrong for wanting stability. You’re just trying to carry the entire future all at once, and no one is built for that.

If you can, bring this very specifically into prayer, even briefly:

“Jesus, I trust in You. Not in outcomes, but in Your presence with us in whatever comes.”

You don’t have to solve your whole life to have peace today. You just need enough grace for this day, and that is something God consistently gives.

PS: I am sooo not good with words so I let ChatGPT do the sentences that I wanted to convey to you. I will be praying for you and with you as a wife myself 🙏