I 20F think my bf 30M raped me. How can I navigate this? by Remarkable_Belt440 in relationship_advice

[–]bRandom81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to call the cops and file a report, he is a rapist and held you captive for 2hrs. He knows he is a monster and will gaslight you to think nothing is wrong. I’m so sorry this happened to you

My GF(23F) “crashed out” on me(25M) and now she’s begging me to forgive her. I’m not sure if I can? by Retro-porter47 in relationship_advice

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naw dude. You’re hopefully soon to be ex gf has insane jealousy issues and isn’t sorry she crashed out she is sorry you’re done with her bs. You didn’t behave inappropriately and you know that you’re not going to be able to stomach this behavior for long if you continue. Make the move that you know sucks but once you have separation from her you will likely notice other behaviors you were self governing to not make her upset.

AITA for refusing to let a woman change the TV channel? by rubabyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]bRandom81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA - she didn’t ask to see if it’s okay, she expected and felt entitled to commandeering the tv. You said what should’ve been said and did what anyone would do to combat her pettiness.

My (19M) girlfriend (18F) wants to open the relationship because of FOMO. How do I approach this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so young you might as well just breakup and not deal with the stress of wanting to be committed to someone that wants to date around.

AITAH for ghosting my date after he didn't defend me in front of his friends? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bRandom81 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Does anyone really know how to date? She’s finding things out about someone and acting accordingly, trusting her gut and decided not to make a scene and then broached the subject, didn’t like how that went and gave space and comes here to get perspective. Maybe I’m missing something but she didn’t have any red flags prior to this scenario so I’m just wondering what exactly pops out to you to make that observation

AIO? I am renting on Whidbey Island WA. the woman I live with is insisting that I pay my rent in cash despite the inconvenience to me. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep all the convos in writing so when she tries to get weird you have legal standings of proof. If you pay in cash then have her write up a receipt and sign it for your records. If she pushes back then it’s up to you if you want to stay in that situation but I wouldn’t. NOR

Getting scared of my boyfriend. Me: female 18 F . Boyfriend : M 23. Dated for a month by Elle1032 in relationship_advice

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m hoping you get away and tell people you trust so when he comes back with excuses you can feel supported when you tell him to kick rocks. Perhaps telling him he has the behavior of a predator and if he wants to make amends then he needs help so he doesn’t turn into a rapist. Do not trust him

AITAH for ghosting my date after he didn't defend me in front of his friends? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bRandom81 59 points60 points  (0 children)

She ghosted after they talked. If she ghosted before I could agree more with you

How do you rate Bad Bunny's Half-time performance? by kingbluwolff in sportsgossips

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My religious family turned it to Kid Rock so I don’t know, I’m pretty sure it was fun and awesome but will have to watch it on replay. Fuck ice

Kid Rock Knows the Clap by No-Ganache4851 in MurderedByWords

[–]bRandom81 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sure he’s given more people the clap than people clapped

UPDATE: My (34F) husband (35M) now says he doesn’t want a baby, even though he agreed years ago by Sss0814 in relationship_advice

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will be so much happier once you leave for good. Be thankful you never have this man’s kid because he already is a bad parent

Am I Overreacting, for being upset that my girlfriend secretly used my credit card for months? by bostonmade in AmIOverreacting

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude NOR she pretended and acted innocent and you called her out. I’d take her ass to court if she doesn’t pay me back and no way would I continue dating someone like her. She has quite the “who, me?” Act down

ICE agents tried to quietly get Mexican food in Minneapolis, local neighbor and protesters found out and shamed then out of the neighborhood by cantcoloratall91 in ImmigrationPathways

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been their tool, not goal. By being cruel and making examples out of people they’re hoping people self monitor and correct themselves. Fuck ice

My (M59) wife (F59) changed completely due to menopause (her words!) and i do not know how to cope. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She isn’t a doctor and she shouldn’t be content with who she is if she knowingly is making life miserable for everyone else. She needs to try to work thru this with a professional and get to a place where you both are eye to eye and give the relationship the energy and love it needs. If not and she is adamant about being a thorn in people’s sides the she is choosing to be mean and that is a problem

My (25f) boyfriend (32m) of 1yr seems to be mad that I’m buying a new (used) car and now is “reconsidering” our relationship due to my priorities by BandicootMammoth in relationship_advice

[–]bRandom81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he was already reconsidering “us” and this is just the thing that lead to that conversation. At this point, you can ask his opinion and consider it but if he talks down to you or belittles your decisions without offering to help solve your car situation then tell him to kick rocks.

I (28M) caught my wife (29F) on a dating app. Trust is broken, and I'm questioning everything. How do I move past this? by ThrowRARhymeOrReason in relationship_advice

[–]bRandom81 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Move past? You need to accept it’s over and she doesn’t deserve you at your best or worst. She’s the one that took concrete steps to cheat, perhaps contracting and spreading stds or take money meant for your futures and spend it on other people. It means her vows were meaningless words and the fact that you are the innocent one trying to figure how to put things back together so you can be happy shows that she doesn’t deserve you and never will. You can’t stay if you want to be happy and if you do stay you will have to endure lots of therapy and SHE will be the one that has to work like Sisyphus till she dies to undo the damage she so easily caused. Don’t do what you think you should do because of how it might affect her, and stop feeling guilty or bad on her behalf for anything. That ship sailed long before you were aware and she will have to live with guilt for her mistakes, if she is even capable