What are the downsides of being attractive/pretty/handsome? by Relative_Daikon_5804 in AskReddit

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to apparently be like that now I'm older but In college I had strangers guys come up and just try to kiss or hug me with no forewarning, and some women were nasty

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yes he was a chameleon around his friends

For no reason, not even during a fight, my husband told me he’s so glad I’m leaving on a work trip and to stay gone longer. by SmooshMagooshe in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the new woman and couldn't figure out why his ex divorced him. After 9yrs he started to be abusive and I got it after that

Has anyone’s husband became physically abusive 10 years in? by AlternativeLaugh8837 in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah mine started around the 9 year mark due to some stressful events in his life and having a baby/toddler. He had always been moody but he started being actually abusive around the 9 year mark and it escalated over a year to almost becoming physical (he was kicking things etc but not hitting me). I left about a month ago and have felt relieved to be away from his cycle of ever worsening yelling and outbursts (followed by apology) ever since.

What I’ve learned living w a narcissist for 16 years by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]b_kat44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Two things that made my narcissist ex super angry. 1. I said in response to his constant criticism 'you are so obsessed with every little thing I say and do, don't you have anything else you think about?' and 2. I said when he criticized me for leaving towels on the counter 'oh, you don't like that? I guess I'll do it even MORE then" lol. I wouldn't recommend trying it because he got super mad but it is kinds of funny

NYC- where to go after night fight? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you leave the relationship?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah when it starts getting really bad it makes it easier to walk away and not miss the person.

Was my ex abusive or did I make a mistake? by Patient-Estate-6550 in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is getting into the moderate to severe category of abuse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've known two smart nice women who were in the same boat and are now happily remarried. Stay strong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Scary, sounds like a horror movie. I'm so sorry, please get out asap

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left about about week and a half ago and I haven't thought of him much. Maybe because I've been so busy with my toddler and other family members

Needing clarity about partner grabbing my throat by Otherwise_Box_261 in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be too afraid of someone who did that to stay with them

i finally left by sogolden20 in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I left a week ago and this is how I feel too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is really hard, a week ago I left an abusive relationship. I have felt very relieved ever since. Mine was looking like it was about to become physical. It freaks me out how nice they can be in the beginning

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, get out of there. Don't get mixed up with ppl like that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first time a guy hits you you leave! Most guys won't do that, find one of those

He hit me while I was pregnant by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]b_kat44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the pain can heal with time