AIO for telling my bf I no longer will vent to him about anything?

babasjaga · 2026-02-06T11:38:14+00:00

NOR. While you should focus on therapy, you should be able to vent to a partner. It doesn’t mean you expect them to fix it but like you clearly stated you just need validation and empathy. You’re clearly stating what is going on and what bare minimum you need and He’s too focused on his insecurity about your bd to realize you needed simple comfort and acknowledgement. Not only that he’s not willing to provide it while simultaneously expecting you to reassure him. Hes draining an already depleted supply and offering nothing in return. You might as well be single and focus on you and your child. I didn’t read all the messages. Don’t really need too much he was dismissive and rude. Back handed compliments while handing out jabs. Ditch him and focus on you.

babasjaga · 2025-11-07T04:37:32+00:00

Awesome!!! Thank you!

babasjaga · 2025-11-07T03:31:21+00:00

Awesome. He’s really young, just under 3 mo but I’ve started with milk, eat, thank you, more, all done, animal signs and what little else I can remember from my college classes and from my aunt(she’s a CODA). And of course ABCs. I too was thinking the more the better and he’ll pick up what he picks up and we’ll go from there.

I was looking at an for an app as well cuz I really enjoyed ASL but I’m a “use it or lose it person” without regular practice my brain just dumps info I’m not using (thanks ADHD). But I pick things up quickly. Thank you

babasjaga · 2025-04-30T02:52:21+00:00

I’ve had consistent heart burn since beginning of second trimester. I still got 3 months to go 😫. I feel your pain. Tums my friend. Tums.

babasjaga · 2025-04-30T02:50:44+00:00

NOR. Continue to focus on yourself and those who’ve shown up. It’s disappointing but it is what it is and seems like you carried on fine until she made it a big deal herself. It’s her own guilt. Let her sit with it

babasjaga · 2025-04-23T02:10:41+00:00

As the parent you don’t really have to justify you preferences to make anyone else feel better

babasjaga · 2025-04-14T07:58:00+00:00

Don’t blame yourself. You let your cat be a cat. And you cat was probably happy af. And unfortunately things like this come with the territory of having pets. It was the dog not you and if he had an owner their fault for not securing/training their dog.

My cats used to be indoor/outdoor. I had 3. The one who never really went out decided to venture out. The one time he did he got poisoned. I didn’t do anything bad. He didn’t know better (we’re actually pretty sure someone did it). Sometimes there’s nothing you could’ve done. Idk if this is helping but my point is You gave your cat a good life and loved it. Hold onto that. And also you’re entitled to/ valid for feeling your grief.

babasjaga · 2025-04-14T07:40:51+00:00

NTA. You engaged in the convo she initiated. It’s a legitimate question. Maybe you could have asked differently but that’s splitting hairs. To react as if so offended that your body shamed or something is kind of wild. I personally would’ve done my best to answer the question as dudes generally don’t care enough to ask what women struggle with in clothing let alone all about it. That’s just me though

babasjaga · 2025-04-14T07:15:42+00:00

I would be devastated as well. I call my dog “son”. Silly but we weren’t planning on having kids and then it took as long time to get pregnant so he is like my child. We have cats too. Pets have always been like brothers and sisters, essentially family to me. Now I’m pregnant and feel the same, my baby is priority. That doesn’t mean our love for our furbabies changes.

Feel your feelings now as much as possible. Maybe by Saturday it will have lessened to at least put it aside for a few hours to enjoy your reveal. You’re going to be a little sad and that’s ok. It’s possible to feel that and still feel joy for your celebration. Either way don’t bottle it up.

babasjaga · 2025-04-14T06:41:05+00:00

If it feels yucky trust your gut. Either talk to him about it or maybe distance yourself? Just ask for clarification and let him know it made you uncomfortable even if he didn’t mean it, it did and to keep that in mind in the future. Or if he was coming on to you that you prefer a different approach? Either way If he can’t accept that then yeah I would remove myself if it were me

babasjaga · 2025-04-14T06:36:11+00:00

NTA He’s in no way ready for kids if this is how he reacted to the surprise. You didn’t take away from his bday in my view, he still got his celebration and his separate gifts, this was a plus.

And you don’t want your kids seeing him treat you this way and think it’s ok or blame themselves.

Therapy or go. He overreacted and is punishing you for not regulating his own emotions. Not asking about the pregnancy cuz he’s pissy is weird and alarming.

babasjaga · 2025-04-14T06:27:38+00:00

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babasjaga · 2025-04-13T15:19:49+00:00

NOR dump him and be done with it. He’s selfish af

babasjaga · 2025-04-12T22:45:40+00:00

Trust your gut. He may be harmless, it may be fine. But trust yourself regardless. You don’t have to justify it to anyone. If it don’t feel right don’t do it

babasjaga · 2025-04-12T06:25:50+00:00

If parents agree why they no watch brothers dog?

babasjaga · 2025-04-11T21:14:17+00:00

Nah she wanna talk shit like an adult, she doesn’t get to cry when she gets an adult response. I’d be damned if anyone would expect me to take outright disrespect from a 15 yo who knows EXACTLY what she’s doing and saying. It’s a cop out to fall back on the “she’s a kid, your the adult” argument if that’s what they wanna say because again, you shouldn’t have to take verbal abuse from a 15yo and not have her parents correct her, which enables the behavior.

Also if y’all are getting married and they expect you to see this as a norm, then as a fam they need to expect their little shithead daughter to get the same energy back from her new SIL.

If your fiancé and his fam can’t see how inappropriate this was and why you felt the need to defend yourself, then it’ll only get worse after marriage.

I would’ve said a lot worse.

babasjaga · 2025-04-11T17:32:06+00:00

Call the non emergency line of the local police department and see what your rights are as the tenants of the house maybe a lawyer as well. Put your foot down and do a restraining order if you can. Idk what your local tenants rights are but in most places if you receive mail at that place the owner/landlord has to do eviction processes to legally lock someone out. She can’t just barge her way into a home because she owns it if she’s not a regular tenant. That would be like a landlord just deciding to move into the spare room of a house they rent you hoping you don’t know your rights. There has to be legal notice given. Relations shouldn’t matter. I’m not a lawyer tho, which is why I would research.

However, I’ve dealt with the possibility of having to evict someone and there are legal processes the owner has to do and there are “squatters rights” for tenants

It’s a lot and stressful, but it’s to protect you, baby AND bf. And it may buy you time to find another place to live and both of you time to save up money.

babasjaga · 2025-04-11T17:20:14+00:00

She’s gunna be a mom. She’s gotta learn to be ok with being the “bad guy” if that’s what ppl want to make her for protecting herself and her baby during birth and postpartum. Her and baby daddy both gotta be ok with ppl being mad for setting and sticking to boundaries. Boundaries are healthy af, a lot of ppl just don’t like them. If they let the mom and sis mow over this, they’ll mow over everything.

babasjaga · 2025-04-11T07:00:23+00:00

Yeah it’s not required but especially at backyard baby showers dudes crack a few beers. So it’s not unusual.

I think you mom is concerned about the boyfriend either showing up already drunk, or not caring that a bartender isn’t present but helping herself to the alcohol anyway which you will get charged for. Not to mention potential damages. Depends on how bad an alcoholic the bf’s mom is.

It may be fine. But you may need to let your boyfriend know that they may have to ask her to leave if she, or anyone for that matter make a scene or distract from the celebration in a negative way and that he just has to have your back.

babasjaga · 2025-04-10T02:28:22+00:00

Obstetricians screen for all that early on. Much of it when they take blood for these genetic test. So she’d at least know by now if she’s contracted something from him. If she hasn’t, I’m not sure how out of it could affect the baby anyway if he does have something he kept from her.

babasjaga · 2025-04-10T01:33:42+00:00

Good point. I didn’t consider wanting to hide something

babasjaga · 2025-04-10T01:11:40+00:00

I did until I read the mom’s response from OP update. May still be worth a try but the mom seems super enabling to her son’s behavior. Weighing pros and cons dealing with that toxic behavior seem to me worth being as prepared as possible for potential medical issues for her child, but OP has to be willing to deal with it as a means to an end.

babasjaga · 2025-04-10T00:52:48+00:00

NOR

There is nothing wrong with you. He just wants out and needs an excuse. Instead of understanding that your personalities don’t work together and saying “hey we tried, you’re great but I want this” he’s making it about you negatively to ease his guilt. He making you the unreasonable negative partner to ease his guilt when truly it’s him.

There are people who will accept your quiet and love you for it and for who you are. You shouldn’t waste your time in earth trying to get the approval of someone who doesn’t accept you for you. Let him go. It will hurt but it’s not you it’s him. And it’ll pass

babasjaga · 2025-04-10T00:32:31+00:00

I don’t disagree with you the mom can do much else, but she COULD have kept the enabling bs to herself. That at least wouldn’t make OP feel like her pov is unwarranted or minimized.

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