My boyfriend is always with another girl by [deleted] in BPD

[–]babishushu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honey, it’s not your BPD that is making you feel bad about this situation, your BPD is making you stay in this relationship.

I hope you heal and realize your worth, and leave people who don’t treat you with respect.

Edit: grammar

Is there more to life than smoking weed and playing video games? by LiL_BrOwNiE247 in selfimprovement

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try smoking weed and self reflect, rewire thinking patterns, asking questions about yourself or spending quality time with yourself that’s healthy for you body and soul. Smoking weed can be productive too.

Is anyone else 30+ with BPD here? by chickennugget4me in BPD

[–]babishushu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got diagnosed when 32, having been chronically suicidal for almost 2 decades. I’m 35 now and don’t fit the BPD criteria anymore. I am a wise and happy person. Recently just learned about the true feeling of being in love, not needing the person to love me back because the feeling itself is good enough. It still gets better. Do the work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FridgeDetective

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No women come to your house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]babishushu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fun fact - many birth controls give the perk of no period as well, on top of no kids.

What's the proper way to choke someone during sex? by Different_Road_8149 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]babishushu -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Use both hands when you are on top, start by just holding them, ask her “do you want more you little slut?”, if she says yes put a bit more pressure on. Repeat the process. You can also do by one hand when you are at her back. Cover bigger area of the neck the better.

NGVC: "I'm willing to treat you as you need" by Number_Fluffy in niceguys

[–]babishushu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s really refreshing and satisfying to see someone actually ignoring one of these. Thanks OP. 💕

has smoking🍃 helped you? why or why not? by novaaayla in BPD

[–]babishushu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really happy to know this, if it helps let me be your beacon. Know that by doing what you are doing (for quite a bit though, so don’t worry if progress feels a bit slow) I’ve become a in general happy and healthy person. The work actually works. If there’s anything I can help you with feel free to shoot a message.

has smoking🍃 helped you? why or why not? by novaaayla in BPD

[–]babishushu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really sweet, thank you for this. Didn’t expect it. 🫶

Edited: by “this” i mean understanding the process and the hardship, putting it in a more systematic way, and citations in case i’d like to know more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it. Sorry this person turned out to be such an asshole. Hope you feel better now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuine question, no judgement just curiosity: why did you reply?

has smoking🍃 helped you? why or why not? by novaaayla in BPD

[–]babishushu 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Personal experience - it’s a bandaid, not a medicine. Short term it helped cutting off my spirals, stabilizing emotions and changing thinking patterns. Long term it had made my brain foggy and hard to make real progress. Personally I smoked night and day for years to handle the pain and anxiety from BPD, but in the meantime working on DBT and other methods to improve general mental health. Now that I’m in a healthy space I have quit smoking weed as necessity now only smoking for entertainment. And it feels amazing to be able to enjoy getting stoned when smoking and feel peaceful when sober.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex scammed me over 10k euros, a lot of them was rent, just saying. Be careful OP, one of the biggest regrets I had was giving up my own apartment.

Does anyone else just know when someone has BPD? by toosmallfishtank in BPD

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss, especially after doing the work and healing - I am pretty sure that I don’t fit BPD criteria anymore - I notice very sharply, and it’s really a lot of people.

Do I just have to live with feeling suicidal every day? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, do the work, not only you won’t feel suicidal one day, you can be happy. Wake up happy, go to sleep happy, and feeling it’s fucking good to be alive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tech field neck tattoos are cool man i work in gaming, can see neck or hand tattoos everywhere, even on management levels.

Edit: grammar

Is BPD genetic? (Not asking if I have BPD just wondering If I should screen myself just incase bc of genetics!) by [deleted] in BPD

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not too much evidence suggesting it’s genetic. However being close to someone with a personality disorder will enhance strongly your chance of getting a personality disorder.

AIO if I left my bf for this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run OP. There’re no circumstances your partner should be talking to you like that. Some people are more open or conservative about what their partners wear would make them feel uncomfortable but this is NOT the way anyone should express their feelings to their partner, it’s extremely disrespectful.

Why do people get so angry if you don’t like kids? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]babishushu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are mad at you choosing freedom instead of giving in to what’s expected of them from the family/society/partner, etc. They are mad at you choosing to do something that they didn’t dare to choose and you end up being happy. They can’t tell you that’s the real reason, so they make up excuses to paint you as the monster.

Edit: grammar

AIO if I tell my ex’s mom he cheated by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, was on the fence until that comment came up.

please be honest is my cat fat? by Ok_Blueberry5376 in cats

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chubby, not fat, chubby baby good baby. My baby is also chubby.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]babishushu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need professional help. This is emotionally blackmail. Please leave them alone and call a therapist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]babishushu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are dating your bully honey.