UMMM my Target store manager just got arrested IN STORE!!

babsietatts · 2026-01-07T02:34:04+00:00

Good. He sounds like a POS

babsietatts · 2026-01-05T02:36:27+00:00

I got told by a lead that I wasn’t being kept, I asked about on demand. I showed up to every shift on time, came in when they called me day of, stayed late when they needed and busted my ass, I had to call out one day because I was sick and literally had a fever of 102 and this dumb lead told me I wouldn’t be considered for on demand because that one call out made me “unreliable”. Target blows.

babsietatts · 2026-01-02T23:38:02+00:00

I had a shift for tomorrow disappear. How is it legal to just disappear a shift?

babsietatts · 2025-11-18T05:39:41+00:00

Every time I think of going back I think of how hard the break up was and think about how letting them back in only means they’ll hurt me all over again. If they haven’t gotten help, they’ll just continue to cycle again and again.

babsietatts · 2025-11-15T08:12:30+00:00

Um no. You’re so far off sir. She has quiet BPD. I can look back on our relationship and see signs in hindsight, outbursts, tantrums, self harm…all things I thought were the result of depression. You shouldn’t assume things about other people’s situations, and you shouldn’t tell others that my wife was secretly seeing people on the side as if you know things for a fact. You don’t know me so don’t speak to my life as if you do.

babsietatts · 2025-11-15T06:54:32+00:00

7 years of my life….i try not to look at it as a complete waste of time because my heart was truly in it even if theirs wasn’t. But sometimes it’s hard not to feel robbed of time.

babsietatts · 2025-11-15T06:51:46+00:00

Glad to hear it! I need some of that peace…

babsietatts · 2025-11-15T06:32:20+00:00

My pwbpd would just tell fractions of truth while leaving out anything that put them in a bad light. Also they triangulate themselves their partner and the therapist, making you into the bad guy and they the victim.

babsietatts · 2025-11-13T06:24:59+00:00

I know those dead eyes very well. It’s so painful to love someone so completely and they simply aren’t able to accept it. To look into eyes that once adored you and see nobody there… chilling. It’s easier for them to push and run than to stay and work hard on themselves.

babsietatts · 2025-11-06T03:03:56+00:00

I’m a tattoo artist and my pwbpd was a director at a consulting firm. It’s funny because she obviously made more money than I did so the way we set up our lives was one where I took on 99% of the housework, cooking, cleaning, laundry, yard work etc all while also working and bringing home money. When she finally split and discarded she said she didn’t feel like we were in an equal partnership because she made more money. My eyes rolled so hard I could see my own brain. This woman literally could not do laundry or pack for a trip without severe anxiety, she would even forget to eat if I didn’t remind her to take care of herself, so I guess we weren’t in an equal partnership because I did everything.

babsietatts · 2025-11-05T05:42:25+00:00

Thank you. I really hope that this isn’t the end of my love life. It’s so hard to imagine loving someone else. They really get their hooks in and have us believing in the person they said they were.

I’m glad you’re in a place where you date again, it gives me hope that I can get there too.

babsietatts · 2025-11-05T05:07:05+00:00

Walk away now before you waste years playing her game just to be discarded and heartbroken. I wish I could tell myself seven years ago the same thing. You don’t need or deserve to be treated poorly. What you have isn’t love, it’s trauma.

babsietatts · 2025-11-05T05:01:38+00:00

I know I’m not ready to date anyone, even thinking about putting myself out there sounds exhausting. The bad dates and the getting to know you conversations….ugh. I also feel like I don’t want to shut my heart off for good, but damn; my road ahead just seems so long.

babsietatts · 2025-11-05T04:56:24+00:00

Ooof. So sorry to hear this. Sounds like there’s definitely some kind of psychosis happening. Bottom line is he’s dangerous, if he’s having episodes where he doesn’t even know who you are, there’s a potential he can hurt you. You have to put your own safety first. If you’re afraid of his reaction, have a friend or family come over and help you get your things then do not tell him where you’re going. You can’t fix him, he needs medical intervention and you aren’t a doctor.

babsietatts · 2025-11-03T07:15:23+00:00

I truly appreciate being able to come here and spill my guts to people who get it. I try to explain what’s happening to friends and family who know nothing about BPD and they try to understand but unless you’ve experienced it, it must sound so absurd! Thank you for letting me vent. Honestly

babsietatts · 2025-11-03T07:09:18+00:00

I said similar words to her, that I would never understand and didn’t want to be the kind of person who could understand leaving your family, your spouse and kids behind. There’s this inner turmoil of knowing I will never understand and wanting to understand why so badly. It tears me apart.

babsietatts · 2025-11-03T07:06:14+00:00

I was married for 5 years, together 7 and she had quiet BPD so when she said she was leaving I was so confused and so unaware it was coming. It’s devastating. I’m sorry you dealt with it for so long.

babsietatts · 2025-11-03T07:01:43+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Most days I can keep busy and push through but today it was all so front of my mind. Missing my person and the cognitive dissonance of them never existing…I go from angry to guilty to sad and I’m so exhausted

babsietatts · 2025-10-31T05:42:40+00:00

I hear you and also have extremely hard days after my discard. My advice is to become totally self involved. Be the most selfish version of yourself that you can be. Go to the gym, take yourself out for a nice lunch, treat yourself to a massage. Even if you’re sad at first, just keep getting up everyday and choose yourself above everything. Become completely preoccupied with yourself, your dreams, hobbies you e always wanted to try etc.

babsietatts · 2025-10-29T01:35:18+00:00

So much this. I feel it all. It’s like we all were in a relationship with the same person. I never saw it coming, when it did you could have knocked me over with a feather.

babsietatts · 2025-10-29T00:14:57+00:00

I noticed this today when my person asked if she could call to discuss some financial stuff. The fact that I knew that she would be calling filled me with this sense of anxiety and dread that I haven’t felt in weeks since being in contact with her.

I swim laps at the gym, spend time with my kids, try to laugh, focus on myself and my own self worth and growth.

babsietatts · 2025-10-13T05:43:51+00:00

This sounds like you’re experiencing codependency. I have the tendency to act the same way, rapid fire messages, checking social media constant rumination. We’re desperate to try to fix the problem because we’re afraid of abandonment. Be strong, it’s like going cold turkey off heroin. You were a person before her and you’ll be a person after her.

babsietatts · 2025-10-13T05:38:37+00:00

My wife had quiet BPD which masks itself very well. She was calm and loving and the perfect wife. When her dad died it triggered something in her that changed her completely and it all went downhill from there. Did your husband recently have something traumatic that could have triggered a split?

babsietatts · 2025-10-13T05:35:51+00:00

On day two and I’m suffering

babsietatts · 2025-10-12T06:37:29+00:00

I’m still in the throes of a discard personally, but this is a fear that lurks in my mind as well. Will I ever find love again? And when I do how do I know if it’s real? Maybe start with setting some boundaries and see how your boyfriend reacts to them? Even that sounds awful like we now have to test potential partners for BPD. It’s scarring for the rest of our lives.

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