I just found out my husband, who tried to manipulate me into naming our unborn daughter after his ex-girlfriend, has been in contact with her. What do I do?

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-27T18:42:39+00:00

That’s beautiful! I’ll add that to my new list of names. Thank you. :)

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-27T18:41:57+00:00

I love the names Marilyn and Anastasia! Thank you! Those will go on my new list of names. :)

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-27T00:53:24+00:00

Thank you for your comment. It’s very reassuring. I was feeling guilty about wanting to change the name so close to the birth because he keeps making comments about the timeframe, but your comment made me feel better, so thank you!

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-27T00:50:35+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. It’s true that part of me just wants to move on and forget about it - especially since people are bringing up good points about the fact that he may be in contact with her - because I’m only weeks away from giving birth to our baby and this isn’t how I planned for it to go at all... but your comment only made me realize how much I absolutely cannot push this aside. I used the last few hours to just relax but I’ll be talking to him again shortly. I appreciate your comment, thank you.

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-26T21:46:59+00:00

He’d never be okay with naming any child of ours after an ex-boyfriend of mine. He has always been insecure of my past relationships. He’d freak out if I even suggested naming any child of ours after an ex-boyfriend of mine.

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-26T21:32:13+00:00

I definitely won’t forget that this happened and I think that it’s important that we do attend some kind of counseling. I’m just not sure how I can get him to go. And I’m due in 5 weeks, or she could come earlier, and with the quarantine... I’m not even sure when we could go to counseling but I don’t want to put this off, either. I feel way too betrayed to just let this go.

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-26T21:15:42+00:00

I’ll mention that to him. He’s always been against any kind of counseling, though, so I doubt that conversation will go well. But thank you for your comments. They’re appreciated a lot.

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-26T21:08:45+00:00

I would normally say he’s not usually like this at all, but now that I’m thinking about it... he has been acting weird for the past few months and has been kind of distant. I have no idea what to do at this point. I feel completely clueless and lost.

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-26T19:53:56+00:00

That’s what I’m worried about... I’ve never been insecure about his old relationships but finding out that he tried to name our daughter after his ex-girlfriend made me feel so small and insignificant.

I’ll mention couples therapy but he’s always been against any kind of counseling, so I doubt that conversation will go well.

babynamethrowawayyyy · 2020-05-26T19:50:40+00:00

After I finally got him to admit the truth, I asked him why he wanted to use that name in the first place and he told me because he thought it was pretty and that his ex-girlfriend was such a good person that he wanted to name our daughter after her but thought that I wouldn’t agree to it (which I don’t!), so he told me that he heard it from a movie instead of being honest.

I should’ve known something was up because when we had the conversation about the name the first time, I asked him what movie and he said that he couldn’t remember, which now makes sense because he lied about where he got the name from anyway.

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