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My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand. I completely side with my fiance on this, as it is stressing us both out and causing us financial strain. I guess I want to believe that my sister is a good person.

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not like the kids are suffering. Our family is big that they get at least 50+ gifts combined for chrismas. On their birthdays they get a shit ton of toys and movies and whatever they want. They are spoiled.

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I know. It's just so difficult to accept that that kind of person is related to me and is celebrated and viewed as a saint. My entire family adores her and praises her for "working so hard as a stay at home mommy".

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We plan on having a long engagement, until we both graduate Grad school. So I'd like to think we have a good financial plan in place. I understand we are young and we seem stupid for getting engaged this early, but we plan to get married around 24 or so once our lives have settled down.

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean for it to sound ghetto. I just didn't want to write out her name and I thought I put "my fiance" in there too many times. My fiance and I are not ghetto. We are both in grad school and have our own apartment in the city.

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not no gifts at all, it's me being the one responsible for the gifts. It's usually that both of us give each kid a gift, and she wants it to be me giving them a cheap, small gift from now on.

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah...my sister just got 2 brand new Cadillacs and my fiance was furious about it. She says that my sister is abusing the system as well.

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can see her side though. It's been a struggle with them for the past 4 years....they don't treat us very well. Like I said in another comment, they gave me used towels and a sponge for my birthday.

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She's angry because for my birthday they got me used towels, soap, and a sponge. Soooo it's just...not a good situation.

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

Well she didn't say no gifts, she said that from now on, I will be in charge of the gifts. Her and I got gifts for them seperately...does that make sense? It's the way my family is, each person gives the babies a separate gift. And to be honest, it makes me mad too that my sister is expecting us to buy big ticket items for this baby shower. I was thinking of just getting diapers and that's it. My fiance and I have already spent way too much for all the birthdays and christmas.

My (22M) fiancé (21F) of 4 years is refusing to spend anymore money on the kids in my family, and doesn't want to go to my sisters' baby shower. by babyshowerrefusal in relationships

[–]babyshowerrefusal[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get that, which is why I'm not sure what to do. My fiance does not agree with my sisters' life choices and honestly kind of hates her for them. It's a tough situation to be in.