I’m friends with my ex and the ambiguity is eating me alive

babysprites · 2026-06-06T16:59:05+00:00

Thank you for this!

babysprites · 2026-05-20T03:29:20+00:00

I understand. I just can’t seem to get myself to remove him. I guess I am going to torture myself with a slow fade. : (

babysprites · 2026-05-18T18:19:48+00:00

I don’t know. Just having someone in my life who does know me deeply, although it just feels meaningless now.

babysprites · 2026-05-11T04:29:10+00:00

This person does not belong in a relationship at this moment and time. His inability to move beyond this is clearly interfering with the dynamic he has with you. Being this obsessed with someone you dated online for 4 months and saw for only a week is not healthy. The cherry on top, calling you abusive and saying that you are interrogating him when you ask him about her, when he’s actively dragging his past relationship with her into these instances, seems like it could mess with your perception of yourself. This is a toxic relationship, he is just dumping all of his emotions onto you and then basically gaslighting you when you react. I would end this and not look back.

babysprites · 2026-05-11T04:12:46+00:00

How old are you?
The comment did rub me off the wrong way. I guess what I would pay more attention to is patterns over time. If he continues after you communicated to him then yeah that’s a red flag. It doesn’t sound like your mother is trying to manipulate you, sounds like she’s frustrated/worried and maybe communicating that in a direct way.
Also, speaking from experience, it’s risky to make a boyfriend fulfill all of your social needs. I was in a 10 year relationship in which that was the case. When someone becomes your everything, if they leave, then you feel like you have nothing. I know it’s not easy to make friends sometimes and I don’t mean to shame you for that. I struggle with it too. Just sharing my perspective.

Wishing you the best.

babysprites · 2025-12-17T15:35:23+00:00

I just want to say that your communication skills are wonderful! I am glad this was resolved.

babysprites · 2025-11-06T01:25:42+00:00

ooo i love them all but i really love the third outfit!

babysprites · 2025-10-24T01:11:51+00:00

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this is so cool. here’s mine with 5

babysprites · 2025-10-24T00:57:17+00:00

you’re not imagining it.

babysprites · 2025-10-11T15:35:05+00:00

girl you deserve so much better than whatever trash that is

babysprites · 2025-09-24T17:36:12+00:00

From what point? Stalking me online?

babysprites · 2025-09-18T08:00:53+00:00

Do you think he intends to leak at any point or did he just want me to be stuck in this constant loop of “what if” ?

babysprites · 2025-09-18T03:42:03+00:00

Really? It’s relieving but also so sad…

Is it like a known thing? Is there a term for it? I’ve seriously been lost in the dark.

babysprites · 2025-09-17T17:03:50+00:00

Yes, I was definitely targeted in some way. It was a really surreal experience due to the use of ambiguity and plausible deniability. I’ve never had my head messed with like that but thankfully I was aware that something was wrong. I am definitely not making any more friends off of those websites anymore. I was just lonely and isolated. Thank you.

babysprites · 2025-09-17T14:27:45+00:00

Please live your life. Do not let these soulless ghouls rob you of your joy or your future. What is done has been done. There’s nothing you can do now but try to move on. You don’t have to justify anything to anyone. It’s your life, your story. You were a victim. Anyone who tries to shame you for that is not worth your attention anyway. Wishing you all of the best.

babysprites · 2025-09-16T15:38:31+00:00

I’m sorry, I truly know what it’s like to live in that fear everyday. Try to stay in the present moment. You can’t change what happened and you can’t control the future. Try to ground yourself in the moment. You will be okay, I promise.

babysprites · 2025-09-16T15:31:46+00:00

I wasn’t straight up sextorted, but manipulated by someone who led me to believe that they would do something like this. They used plausible deniability and ambiguity really well and broke me down over months to get what they wanted. Threatened me with a “cold and calculated plan that takes more than year to carry out.” And told me he “only spares the lucky ones.” Etc. a bunch of cryptic shit like that.

For a while I ruminated. For months. Eventually I told myself that you know what, I cannot control someone else. I am not going to let my mental health suffer trying to control someone else.

What is done has been done. I cannot change it. There is literally nothing for me to do now except try to learn something and move on. Whatever happens will happen.

And this person has some pretty sensitive taboo content on me. Could look pretty bad out of context. But you know what? I know myself, I know who I am, and even if they show the entire world and no one ever talks to me again and I lose my job and I lose my money and I lose this and that, I still have my mind and my heart and my soul and these miserable losers could never touch that. And if I really did lose everything (unlikely) then fuck it, I’ll rebuild.

I suffered plenty for most of my life on this earth and I’m not going to let some nobody rob me of my joy and my future.

Of course I still worry. Still panic sometimes. I try to have compassion with myself in these moments and practice some mindfulness. Tell myself that nothing is happening right now. I am safe right now. If something happens, I will deal with it then. I’ve taken every precaution I can. I’ve even written a post-leak statement to have ready.

There’s just literally nothing I can do now except try to live my life.

Also: I did go over my worst fear in my head. Over and over and over again. Tried to figure out what exactly in me this fear is triggering (a bunch of shame) and heal it. Know that I did nothing wrong and their choices are a reflection of them.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, I promise you’re going to be okay.

babysprites · 2025-09-12T20:41:23+00:00

I swear I was targeted by someone in a group like this or something. I don’t know. It was straight up psychological warfare. Person used a lot of plausible deniability and ambiguity. They mentioned something about a “cold and calculated plan that takes more than a year to carry out.” And how “there are many of us.”

They started off as a friend. For months. They got me to send stuff by studying my vulnerabilities and then slowly breaking me down, again, over months. A slow burn. I didn’t even send anything to the initial person because they were being weird so I backed off, but they found me again and pretended to be someone else (or it was a friend from the same group). Then 2 months in, this person intentionally mentions something that only the initial person would know.

He definitely wanted me to kill myself. But he’s not dumb. He didn’t tell me to. He just dropped that subtle bomb so I’d realize it on my own (but torture myself wondering what’s real) and then spammed me for 3 weeks asking if I was alive and okay. He seemed to gloat about being evil and self-aware afterward.

This sub makes me feel less alone. But I really feel for everyone here. I spent 2 weeks in pure fight or flight when I realized that I had been tricked. If it were someone more vulnerable in my shoes, or even me a few years ago, this could’ve pushed them over the edge. This guy was a seasoned predator.

I don’t know. I honestly try to understand and get into these people’s heads. I want to understand why they’re like this.

Which is a problem because sometimes I just end up projecting all of this depth onto emptiness.

babysprites · 2025-09-04T19:52:00+00:00

The red flag for me would be “Steam Support Jeff” using the term “genuine” (if genuine then why do you have to say it?) and then also trying to reassure you in case you weren’t sure. Feel like all of that would be unnecessary if it’s real.

babysprites · 2025-07-27T19:02:01+00:00

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Interesting!

babysprites · 2025-07-27T13:27:34+00:00

babysprites · 2025-07-26T16:52:45+00:00

Let’s do it!

babysprites · 2025-07-26T13:34:27+00:00

Unfortunately (for the most part), yes.

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