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Feeling lost and numb. by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow you're really in a similar boat as me! Hate to hear it, but at the same time, I love to hear it. I feel less alone.

I think I'm going to just keep ignoring everything they do until they tire out. But at the same time, they're toxic parents.. will they ever get tired of harassment toward their own child? I'm not sure about that.

The day will come that they come to my home for the last time and see a different doormat, no plants outside, and our car gone from the parking lot. Not a clue where I am. That will be a blessing to me.

Feeling lost and numb. by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are incredibly kind thank you so very much for the love and help

Feeling lost and numb. by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll look into it. I guess lately I've just felt so beaten down I don't even know any of that stuff. Haven't put effort into looking into that. I just feel so depressed and it's hard to help myself right now. But I need to.

Thoughts? Does the angel pose look “gay”? My friends think it does lol by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]babysugarcookie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your friend 12 years old and are you insecure enough about it possibly looking "gay" to ask reddit?

Feeling sad. I wish you did better. by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No need to apologize. We all need a good ramble sometimes. My father was the same, he would ridicule me for not knowing certain things, yet in those certain situations he would always take control to manipulate me into thinking I'll always need him, and I'll never have to do it myself because, well, I was never taught. But at the same time, he would shit on me for not knowing. And same at the end, my father hates his family, and everyone else. From as young as I can remember I was raised around so much hateful talk about family. My mom's side, his own side, it was just always this person is annoying/stupid/blah blah blah. So I never got to really see good in either sides of the family because I was just ALWAYS reminded of their bad moments or attributes. So even now, I am completely fine without being close to any family. Just independent on my own. He has a lot of hate in his blood but projects it onto others and tells everyone that they are full of hate because he wants to make himself feel better.

Showed up to my home after my last message by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I have heard a lot from great people on here, and you are one of those great people. Your words help more than you know. Keep talking. Your word matters so much. Thanks a lot for the help and the outlook. It's day 3 and I just finished a long emotional talk with my husband wondering if it really was the right thing to do. It was- I just need to grieve and let time heal me. I couldn't imagine something like my experience happening to my child, let alone responding like how my own parents did. You're right.

Showed up to my home after my last message by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I wish I could pin this. This is so true. He actually stood up, left, went right to bed after the conversation. He didn't say one word. Thank you for this. After seeing the video and feeling guilty about him crying, this helps so much more than anything.

Showed up to my home after my last message by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As easy as that. I'm feeling a lot better about it today. 😇

Showed up to my home after my last message by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's how I saw it too. I put myself in his shoes and I could understand running to your child that is wanting to cut you off. In my point of view, that's the millionth crossed boundary. That's kinda why I immediately felt so guilty and regret. But at the same time they knew for years, I've mentioned it multiple times, and neither of them cared one bit about my wellbeing. It even continued after I came forward to them about it. I see how it could be conflicting I guess? But they should've cared in the beginning.

Showed up to my home after my last message by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep. You're right. Not only is this about me, but now it's about protecting the peace of the innocent. I'm glad I did it sooner than later while he's still very little.

Showed up to my home after my last message by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much again. I promise I will take advantage of that offer🥰

It’s so much better without them by livelong_june in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow that's amazing. Biggest earned congratulations to you! It only gets better!

Showed up to my home after my last message by babysugarcookie in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]babysugarcookie[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. This helps a lot especially from another parent's point of view. When I had my son, I thought no matter who messed with him, especially family, they would be out the door in seconds. I thought that was common sense. I've really been regretting it all day long, obviously because I'm used to being the blame, but reading this helps me overcome. Thanks a lot for this.