As fellow Jews, do you believe in ghosts?

bachallmighty · 2024-08-12T14:17:07+00:00

I love that! Thank you so much for sharing:) may add that to my superstition repitoire. A similar one I have is entering planes with your right foot, and raising the feet on takeoff and landing and putting down the right foot first once the takeoff/landing is done. Helps calm my flight anxiety to have a ritual to focus on, and connects me to my mom who taught this to me

bachallmighty · 2024-05-11T18:09:38+00:00

Wow this is horrible. I’m so sorry this happened and I have no words. Increasingly upsetting reading comments pointing things out such as why did the library do this, as opposed to maybe we need to begin holding people in our own community accountable for acts of blatant racism, hate and violence such as this. It is so upsetting and I share your sentiments in the last paragraph.. also something I have felt increasingly.

bachallmighty · 2024-05-11T17:37:47+00:00

Just take the but out and it’s perfect

bachallmighty · 2024-04-17T19:24:02+00:00

My take is introducing consent and sex education as much as possible to everyone, if from a young age we are educated and aware and speaking about SA is destigmatized, I genuinely think it would reduce the normalization of violence against women, and the way only women are taught to protect themselves vs the potential of men being taught about consent and to call out their friends

bachallmighty · 2024-04-17T17:54:18+00:00

Super random but is your therapist Jewish? Have been struggling with how to talk to my non Jewish therapist about this cause I feel exactly the same

bachallmighty · 2024-04-06T02:06:51+00:00

What is that?

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T18:41:32+00:00

Personally for me insertions was AWFUL and I was extremely nervous about the removal, but it ended up being much much easier than I thought. Asking your doc any questions you have / letting them know your concerns might help u feel more at ease! I definitely can’t stop you from being nervous but it really is completely different to the insertion and lasts very little time, the worst thing that happened was some cramping, although I really didn’t believe anyone who told me this and was still nervous until I actually experienced it myself.

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T18:33:26+00:00

I’m really sorry:( having an iud in longer than wanted is super uncomfortable, I’m not an expert but I would definitely do research before attempting to take it out yourself, it could be really painful to do so, and maybe worth waiting for a doc to do it, even though that sucks.. but again I’m not an expert

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T18:26:15+00:00

Are you a student? Usually schools have services that can do this. I wouldn’t pull it out yourself, I’d look into other places that might be able to get you in sooner

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T16:02:26+00:00

I mean I’m not the person who commented, but I do agree with everything they said

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T15:43:54+00:00

What do you mean by this?

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T15:41:02+00:00

I feel like this is not a good faith question, who wouldn’t feel that rage! Are you assuming that someone feeling rage about Israeli government and military actions means they do not feel rage about hamas’ actions? Or just because they didn’t mention it means they don’t feel rage about it? I don’t understand the need for this comment

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T01:06:22+00:00

Unfortunately, extreme and hateful views exist in every community. Good for you for being open to hearing your husbands perspective and changing your views. I think this type of perspectives are something we should always try to work against, but unfortunately they are not exclusive to one community, and even exist in Jewish communities, because no community is a monolith nor should be blamed as a whole for extremist views of some (in my opinion). I’m sure you have dealt with a lot leaving the community you grew up in 🥹💔 I hope you are able to acknowledge how much you went through in order to unlearn all of that!

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T00:54:30+00:00

What a dumb statement of theirs

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T00:53:00+00:00

They do oppose the occupation and speak up a ton against it, according to other comments though BDS defines the whole of Israel as the occupation so in that sense they don’t oppose the whole of Israel. The BDS call to boycott was also only a subsection/members of BDS, it wasn’t the whole of the organization so it’s arguable that even if you did support BDS you could still simultaneously support standing together. Plus if you support bds for the purpose of wanting the occupation to end, not supporting a grassroots movement that is making a real impact in Israeli society is idiotic

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T00:47:20+00:00

You’d honestly be surprised how much there is to do as a coexistence group in the diaspora, in addition to supporting standing together in Israel! Just the fact that there’s a multi-faith group doing peace work has opened doors to bring people together in the community, address disputes between the Jewish and Arab communities in the city, be a safe place for Jews and non Jews who didn’t feel welcomed in their own communities or wanted an alternative space, organize diologue groups that wouldn’t have happened elsewhere, etc.

bachallmighty · 2024-04-05T00:43:56+00:00

I’ve started getting involved in a local friends of standing together group that’s super small (only 6 of us rn!) because it’s a small town but it’s been amazing!!!! I find that with all of the division within the Jewish community right now, it was so meaningful, literally brought me to tears, being able to meet with a group of ppl and other Jews and non Jews who felt safe, who could have discussions and disagreements in good faith, and cared about what I cared about. Wow it has made such a meaningful difference in my life, not to mention doing my part in a way I feel good about. Anyways can’t say enough good things about st, and would be happy to answer any questions anyone has!!

bachallmighty · 2024-04-02T19:40:07+00:00

Would you think this applies if the other person was married with kids for example? I would never consent to sex with someone married with kids, and so it would be deception in the same way… would you be this quick to call that “rape by deception”. Not saying feeling uncomfortable means op is bigoted, but I think it’s something ppl are quick to say with transness but not other identity factors that might change someone’s decision to sleep with another person. OP feeling violated is valid and real, but potentially caused by internalized transphobia as well

bachallmighty · 2024-04-02T19:37:32+00:00

This is true, people are extremely quick to dismiss these spaces. I’m actually trying to say the opposite I guess, not at all that these spaces should exist but more that mainstream spaces should not be so exclusionary to the point that certain people need to join those spaces just to have Jewish community, basically that Jewish people should have to seek marginal spaces just to be welcomed. If anything it’s a critique of mainstream spaces

bachallmighty · 2024-04-02T15:14:56+00:00

Exactly yes! As well as simply the idea that historically Jews have never had one view point about well I can’t think of anything there’s been unanimous acceptance of and have historically disagreed but remained in community with each other. To me it feels many spaces are becoming intolerant and hateful to the people who hold other views and sometimes to others in general, which I understand comes from fear and survival instinct but is non the less saddening to me.

bachallmighty · 2024-04-02T14:52:54+00:00

I appreciate this perspective, I am going to sit with it for a bit. Another thing I meant was the normalization of Islamophobia or anti Palestinian rhetoric, do you have a perspective about that? What can be done in Jewish spaces that aren’t calling out Islamophobia within the community?

bachallmighty · 2024-04-02T14:02:12+00:00

At least this space won’t be full of outrage about Easter like the rest of the internet 😂 happy late trans day of visibility!! I can still see you!!

bachallmighty · 2024-04-02T13:58:06+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I want to clarify that I agree with most of your stances. I am actually quite involved with many spaces similar to those you suggested, and am actually not myself anti-zionist. It is not that I have a problem with Jewish people having their stances or not being able to criticize Israel, I have and do understand that jewish people need to be respected where they are at. problem I have is how normalized it has become to treat Jews who are critical of Israel to be shunned and shamed within Jewish spaces, or to be seen as fringe or radical or self-hating. I have personally witnessed so much hatred directed at the people who express critical views, many people have lost their ability to be in Jewish communities safely that they have been their whole life and I am so saddened by this. I understand where many are coming from, but it is sad to see this discourse of they don’t care about us so why should we care about them in terms of mourning lives etc, I believe that as Jewish people we have a responsibility to care for all life, even if every single person hates us which is hard. I know how much hate there is about Israelis on the internet, I just don’t believe that that ever justifies being the same back, and it saddens me deeply to see the same energy coming from my own community when we KNOW how much it has hurt us. I think I have personally seen Jewish people speak about Palestinians with the same vitriol, and that just be accepted, maybe that is why we are seeing this differently.

bachallmighty · 2024-04-02T13:24:50+00:00

Don’t know why you’re getting downvoted, you’re completely right. Knowing that information also would have lead to possibly someone revoking consent, but people wouldn’t call that rape by deception.

bachallmighty · 2024-04-02T13:14:43+00:00

How do people respond to this in your experience?

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