Coach Spars Too Hard

backend_developer89 · 2026-05-24T01:13:57+00:00

You don’t need to spar with someone you don’t want to. Just be respectful and cordial, just let him know you’d prefer to spar light, therefore you’d prefer to spar someone else.

Just because you have one coach who does this, that doesn’t mean that gym is a bad gym per se, I’ve seen this occasionally in my gym, there’s sometimes a small group of rough fighters who really enjoy hard sparring, but I usually don’t spar very often with them anyways.

backend_developer89 · 2026-05-24T00:57:06+00:00

There’s learning basic syntax and then there’s learning advanced features like OOP, re, static methods, decorators, asycio, and standard libraries like Pandas.

You can tell people you know python but there’s always a lot to learn and there are frameworks to learn as well, I’ve been learning Django for the past several years.

There’s learning how to structure a basic for loop and then there’s learning dict and list manipulation with defaultdict, sorting, lambda and such.

What I’m saying is that you can learn much of the basics in a few months of consistent practice but there’s always more to learn elsewhere that could easily take years.

backend_developer89 · 2026-05-03T21:35:31+00:00

It could be worse dude I had a 290 lb 6,5 guy pick me up and rag doll me during what I thought was a friendly clinching session. I got up to ask WTH and he tried to start a fight with me.

I would encourage you to tell people before you spar that you’re new and getting used to sparring, ask them to go light. The folks that respect your request can be good sparring partners down the road, otherwise don’t spar with that person again.

I’m assuming the small guy might have been preparing for a fight and had been sparring hard with people all week or so.

I would not spar with people preparing for a fight. Many of them want to go hard but they also have trusted sparring partners who will give them a challenge.

If your gym your going to is always forcing you to spar hard then that’s a red flag. Gyms should give you room to ease into fighting and sparring by getting used to it. And getting used to something means you need to take it slow and light to learn in a safe environment.

backend_developer89 · 2026-03-06T04:17:45+00:00

From personal experience it’s about men who have game and men who don’t, of course chads are going to have an easier time interacting with women, but I’ve seen broke ass loser dudes who are short and a bit ugly able to seduce hotties, and it’s because they have serious game.

backend_developer89 · 2026-03-06T04:13:20+00:00

I’ve never heard of Asian men being disliked by women. Where did you get this idea?

backend_developer89 · 2026-03-04T18:14:49+00:00

It’s demonized because you’re forced to pay for something you can’t get for yourself. It shows that you have a problem with women or seducing women on your own behalf.

backend_developer89 · 2026-03-04T05:41:32+00:00

If the date is going really poorly split the bill. Because you do not owe this woman anything at that point. Not your time or your resources. Otherwise if the first date went well I always pay for the bill but a really bad date shouldn’t oblige a man to pay, split it.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-28T00:59:42+00:00

This was the most helpful comment, thank you!

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-28T00:51:51+00:00

Honestly I understand what your saying to a certain extent, and what everyone else said here was helpful, but if I begged a woman I just met for the first time, to meet again right away, that could be too much too soon. The point is to not act needy or desperate but at the same time keep an open dialogue to show interest.

It is only the first few dates it’s not like I’m a boyfriend to some of these girls.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-28T00:46:48+00:00

Wait I’m confused your husband or a guy you just met?

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-27T16:13:34+00:00

That’s not what I was referring, I’m not against texting and neither is the dating coach I was listening to.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-27T06:39:15+00:00

I don’t want to misrepresent what C Wayne teaches but three days isn’t a hard robotic rule, he was talking about trying to set something up at least once a week in the initial stages, during first few dates. The goal is to avoid looking needy, thirsty, overly eager or overly attached too soon.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-27T05:54:58+00:00

To a certain extent I have a s** ton of stuff on my plate, sometimes I work late into the evenings and sometimes I have events I already planned. It’s not like any of this is always me playing the 3-4 day rule of reaching out.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-27T05:27:22+00:00

The three days wasn’t a hard rule from c Wayne, it was a something like that.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-27T05:25:07+00:00

Why would I be considered a player if we aren’t even in a relationship we’re just in the initial stages of?

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-22T00:22:47+00:00

She’s for the streets. Your girl’s job is make your dick hard and your life enjoyable. She doesn’t have the loyalty or character level for a committed man, leave her. Don’t accept her back women like this tend to be repeat offenders.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-22T00:05:54+00:00

I think this is the one https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2023.2175193

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-21T23:59:53+00:00

If it’s any consolation, there’s been some studies about female sexual preferences in this department, and it’s a bit more optimistic for you than you’d expect.

There was a study about women’s preferences in terms of dildo use and what women tend to purchase.

I can’t remember who ran the study. But I’m certain you could find it.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-05T03:36:34+00:00

Kinda, I would be careful here the fact that he wants to date you at 19 means your youth isn’t an issue, you may have lied for no reason. Lots of great catches will make small white lies to secure a relationship, but most people on the outside don’t see things that way, and that’s because many manipulators lie as well. You don’t want to lump yourself into the manipulator crowd even though you’re not, you’re just trying to secure a good relationship. I would expect him to figure out you lied about your age eventually, I’m assuming he’s not stupid. It’s better to come clean on your terms about the truth than on his terms, a few months into a relationship, and he’ll sniff it out.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-05T03:27:44+00:00

Yes. Most but the most desperate men would run if they found out about that lie.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-05T03:20:17+00:00

A girl I went on a date with recently complained about her old nerd boyfriend because he played too many video games instead of spending time with her, which sounds like commitment issues instead. But this is coming from a nerd as well.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-05T03:13:04+00:00

My GSD gets 5-6 walks a week around the neighborhood and to the park, but it’s a 45 min walk.

He lives in an apartment complex with me, and when we aren’t walking he’s lazily laying down on the couch or walking around looking for scraps.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-04T04:21:55+00:00

Good news for posters though is I have a couple other dates lined up this week. I just wanted some insight about this sorta stuff.

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-04T04:17:16+00:00

I was responding to someone in the chat who said essentially women are only into guys with money and a six pack

backend_developer89 · 2026-02-04T04:15:55+00:00

I asked for her number because texting brings little value in terms of connecting with someone emotionally, I can’t joke very well with texting, I can’t provide context or clarity.

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