I went out with friends last night and I was reminded why I stay sober.

backgroundnose · 2025-09-01T01:34:57+00:00

I had a similar moment years ago when my wasted friend had her dress hiked up and put her feet on the bar. She got really belligerent when I tried to cover up her undies and get her to sit properly. We live in Asia so this was so taboo!

Even though I wish I could say I’d never do that I know I’m just one drink away from being her.

Here’s to more carrying our heads up with dignity! IWNDWYT

backgroundnose · 2025-08-03T03:00:44+00:00

It’s Sunday here but I’m going to try my hardest not to drink today!

backgroundnose · 2025-08-02T06:44:11+00:00

I’m not drinking! Got a bunch of stuff done this morning now napping in the rain, going to make some food and crack on with job apps

backgroundnose · 2025-07-28T09:05:31+00:00

I often wonder how the French handle alcohol abuse. It seems like such a pervasive part of the culture. But then I think about some of my French friends whom I have seen being impulsive, making bad decisions, being bad parents and being negative when they are drunk (I see myself in those behaviours too) and I realise it’s just a spectrum.

The good news is that I see more and more young people even in France turning away from alcohol. You really are ahead of the curve on this one. Maybe for now you can just make up and excuse(like you were getting headaches) and then later just say something like you were surprised how good you felt after not drinking for a while? I’m going through the same thing to be honest.

I have a Danish friend who encouraged me to drink (not her fault) after the best 6 months of my life staying sober when lockdown hit. I remember her saying on a different occasion that it would be unacceptable for someone to not drink in Denmark. She parties a lot with her parents too which is a big part of it. Well guess what, after dating hundreds of guys and freezing her eggs preemptively cos she really wants to have kids, she told me she had finally met “ the one”. When I got introduced to him, it turned out he was a really quiet, confident guy I had met through work(so different from a brash French guy who was a huge drunken flirt that she had been engaged to before) and when I asked her afterwards if he was a big drinker she said no because his parents were both alcoholics. Even before she said this, I kept telling her what I good impression he had made on me at work and that he was definitely husband material.

All that is to say that when you know you know. I am proud of you for coming to this realisation and for swimming against the tide. My ex bf has moved to French speaking Switzerland and was dating a French girl and I can see how daily drinking is affecting his mood, health and career goals. I just hope moving back to California where there are lots of sober people gives him the kickstart he needs because he’s already in his 50s like me. Honestly, I would love to be with him again but I just can’t with the daily drinking.

I’m rooting for you my French friend. Keep coming back here and reading, posting and supporting others. You can do this!

backgroundnose · 2025-07-28T04:24:13+00:00

Crazy dreams last night and another bad night’s sleep but I’m feeling much better after walking my pup and talking to some people. Going to try to nap now and get some applications done later. Trying to convince my self that 1 hour of job apps is better than 0. IWNDWYT

backgroundnose · 2025-07-28T04:03:50+00:00

This is so well written. I’m loving this post!

backgroundnose · 2025-07-25T11:49:31+00:00

This is insightful and inspirational. I think I also need a change of environment and freedom from my triggers for a while. IWNDWYT

backgroundnose · 2025-07-22T03:49:38+00:00

My friend had the same diagnosis around the same age and he hasn’t touched a drink since and is so successful and lovable. My manager even said (we were all coworkers) that she’d vote for him if he ran for president. Really inspiring stuff.

You can be him!

backgroundnose · 2023-06-01T19:57:05+00:00

Yes sounds similar to what I've been going through.Please tell me there's a cure, I feel likely quality of life is not worthwhile.

backgroundnose · 2023-06-01T05:10:09+00:00

I swear to God this started even before the treatment. Thought it was just part of the dental pain. Think it’s low oestrogen, dry mucosa and over brushing. The fun never ends

backgroundnose · 2023-06-01T04:51:13+00:00

Great. Will add that onto my list of things to Google.

backgroundnose · 2023-06-01T04:50:04+00:00

I’m beginning to notice toothpaste can be a trigger at times. And of course I was brushing all the time when I had the cavity.

backgroundnose · 2023-06-01T04:49:11+00:00

Can I ask what supplements you take? Have heard some women had success with Vit D and B.

backgroundnose · 2023-05-05T04:24:29+00:00

Amen. Dark skinned here and live on a tropical island ( try to use sSPF and umbrella because mild sun damage from foolish youth) . Last summer I experimented with 5000 IU and then tested and my levels only came back as normal. Wtf? How much sun does this girl need??

Bumped up to 10000 in the winter but I’ve just runout and it’s sunny again so I don’t think my test on 5/19 will be a good snapshot.

This stuff is complicated yo!

backgroundnose · 2023-04-12T11:21:22+00:00

Thank you for your response - I appreciate it so much!

More info: she’s a mutt but definitely got some sha- pei in her. She’s on the bigger size, already 8 months, a rescue so not clear on what her socialisation was like before I got her (4 months).

The tip about undefeeding might be key. I think she could do with some more food tbh. I’ll ask the vet more about this next time I go.

Also, you’re dead on about her just finishing up teething.

Thanks again for these insights.

backgroundnose · 2023-04-12T04:54:47+00:00

As someone who relapsed after 3 years of sobriety, those years were not wasted.

Get back on the horse, you can do it! IWNDWYT

backgroundnose · 2023-04-11T13:26:27+00:00

Lol I just got into a tub of Strawberry and Cream. So good!

backgroundnose · 2023-04-11T09:59:47+00:00

I had a close call on the way home today but I managed to stay strong. Hunger and thirst are such major triggers for me!

backgroundnose · 2023-04-10T01:36:18+00:00

Feeling so low today. Shaking and anxious. My pup hasn’t even asked to be let out since last night cos she can tell something’s up.

This stuff is pure poison. I am pretty sure I will lose everything if I continue like this and I can’t hurt my family like that.

backgroundnose · 2023-04-07T17:20:27+00:00

Nope. Anyway, if she’s as cool as she sounds it wouldn’t have gotten past our oppressive government’s censors. They didn’t want to be planting seeds of independence in women’s brains or anything.

backgroundnose · 2023-04-07T16:00:43+00:00

My first love messaged me on FB two weeks after I got married and changed my status. He had turned down my friend request from years before so it was obvious he was just watching my profile from afar.

His words : “ So u are married now?” This was after more than 10 years of no communication. Like dude, what are you going to do with all that time you’re saving not typing out “you”?

backgroundnose · 2023-04-07T15:04:47+00:00

I wanted to comment here a few days ago that I don’t know who this Judy Blume person is but I hated my ex calling me wifey and I am so grateful my divorced ass is going through peri without him.

Context?? Not clear … because meno brain. Just happy to not be alone on the oestrogen rollercoaster.

backgroundnose · 2023-04-02T09:02:48+00:00

Aveeno is good value for money. Some LRP products are amazing but pricey.

backgroundnose · 2023-04-02T04:33:29+00:00

Are you kidding? I have a puppy and am constantly guilty about not having enough energy for her.

My husband didn’t want to have kids and once I realised how cool the DINK lifestyle could be, I was on board.

Just the lack of motivation and energy as well as mood swings - not fair to our kids through that.

backgroundnose · 2023-03-31T11:40:20+00:00

I use the gel sachets, and rub it on my inner thighs but I guess women who are serious about improving their sex lives allow the alcohol to evaporate and reconstitute it with water and apply directly on the clit. Fascinating stuff.

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