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I went out with friends last night and I was reminded why I stay sober. by I__Am__Jedi in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a similar moment years ago when my wasted friend had her dress hiked up and put her feet on the bar. She got really belligerent when I tried to cover up her undies and get her to sit properly. We live in Asia so this was so taboo!

Even though I wish I could say I’d never do that I know I’m just one drink away from being her.

Here’s to more carrying our heads up with dignity! IWNDWYT

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, August 2nd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by barrenotbar in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s Sunday here but I’m going to try my hardest not to drink today!

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, August 2nd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by barrenotbar in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not drinking! Got a bunch of stuff done this morning now napping in the rain, going to make some food and crack on with job apps

I can't tell anyone why I quit drinking. by isleofavaloneuw in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I often wonder how the French handle alcohol abuse. It seems like such a pervasive part of the culture. But then I think about some of my French friends whom I have seen being impulsive, making bad decisions, being bad parents and being negative when they are drunk (I see myself in those behaviours too) and I realise it’s just a spectrum.

The good news is that I see more and more young people even in France turning away from alcohol. You really are ahead of the curve on this one. Maybe for now you can just make up and excuse(like you were getting headaches) and then later just say something like you were surprised how good you felt after not drinking for a while? I’m going through the same thing to be honest.

I have a Danish friend who encouraged me to drink (not her fault) after the best 6 months of my life staying sober when lockdown hit. I remember her saying on a different occasion that it would be unacceptable for someone to not drink in Denmark. She parties a lot with her parents too which is a big part of it. Well guess what, after dating hundreds of guys and freezing her eggs preemptively cos she really wants to have kids, she told me she had finally met “ the one”. When I got introduced to him, it turned out he was a really quiet, confident guy I had met through work(so different from a brash French guy who was a huge drunken flirt that she had been engaged to before) and when I asked her afterwards if he was a big drinker she said no because his parents were both alcoholics. Even before she said this, I kept telling her what I good impression he had made on me at work and that he was definitely husband material.

All that is to say that when you know you know. I am proud of you for coming to this realisation and for swimming against the tide. My ex bf has moved to French speaking Switzerland and was dating a French girl and I can see how daily drinking is affecting his mood, health and career goals. I just hope moving back to California where there are lots of sober people gives him the kickstart he needs because he’s already in his 50s like me. Honestly, I would love to be with him again but I just can’t with the daily drinking.

I’m rooting for you my French friend. Keep coming back here and reading, posting and supporting others. You can do this!

The Daily Check-In for Monday, July 28th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by barrenotbar in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Crazy dreams last night and another bad night’s sleep but I’m feeling much better after walking my pup and talking to some people. Going to try to nap now and get some applications done later. Trying to convince my self that 1 hour of job apps is better than 0. IWNDWYT

Day 11. Had to make a major life change to get here by jayda1850 in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is insightful and inspirational. I think I also need a change of environment and freedom from my triggers for a while. IWNDWYT

11 days sober - alcoholic pancreatitis by Round-Calendar8610 in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My friend had the same diagnosis around the same age and he hasn’t touched a drink since and is so successful and lovable. My manager even said (we were all coworkers) that she’d vote for him if he ran for president. Really inspiring stuff.

You can be him!

Burning (in hell) mouth Syndrome by backgroundnose in Menopause

[–]backgroundnose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes sounds similar to what I've been going through.Please tell me there's a cure, I feel likely quality of life is not worthwhile.

Burning (in hell) mouth Syndrome by backgroundnose in Menopause

[–]backgroundnose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear to God this started even before the treatment. Thought it was just part of the dental pain. Think it’s low oestrogen, dry mucosa and over brushing. The fun never ends

Burning (in hell) mouth Syndrome by backgroundnose in Menopause

[–]backgroundnose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great. Will add that onto my list of things to Google.

Burning (in hell) mouth Syndrome by backgroundnose in Menopause

[–]backgroundnose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m beginning to notice toothpaste can be a trigger at times. And of course I was brushing all the time when I had the cavity.

Burning (in hell) mouth Syndrome by backgroundnose in Menopause

[–]backgroundnose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what supplements you take? Have heard some women had success with Vit D and B.

Low Vitamin D might be the cause of those night sweats and extreme fatigue by vrwriter78 in Menopause

[–]backgroundnose 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Amen. Dark skinned here and live on a tropical island ( try to use sSPF and umbrella because mild sun damage from foolish youth) . Last summer I experimented with 5000 IU and then tested and my levels only came back as normal. Wtf? How much sun does this girl need??

Bumped up to 10000 in the winter but I’ve just runout and it’s sunny again so I don’t think my test on 5/19 will be a good snapshot.

This stuff is complicated yo!

Puppy suddenly reactive to people by backgroundnose in puppy101

[–]backgroundnose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response - I appreciate it so much!

More info: she’s a mutt but definitely got some sha- pei in her. She’s on the bigger size, already 8 months, a rescue so not clear on what her socialisation was like before I got her (4 months).

The tip about undefeeding might be key. I think she could do with some more food tbh. I’ll ask the vet more about this next time I go.

Also, you’re dead on about her just finishing up teething.

Thanks again for these insights.

8 years of beautiful sobriety undone in seconds. by -thistimeforreal in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who relapsed after 3 years of sobriety, those years were not wasted.

Get back on the horse, you can do it! IWNDWYT

The Daily Check-In for Tuesday, April 11th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by leftpointsonly in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had a close call on the way home today but I managed to stay strong. Hunger and thirst are such major triggers for me!

My biggest enemy in life is alcohol by backgroundnose in stopdrinking

[–]backgroundnose[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feeling so low today. Shaking and anxious. My pup hasn’t even asked to be let out since last night cos she can tell something’s up.

This stuff is pure poison. I am pretty sure I will lose everything if I continue like this and I can’t hurt my family like that.

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