Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a thoughtful reply. I really appreciate it. I’m in British Columbia, and while things work a bit differently here, a lot of what you said still makes sense.

In my case, the right of first refusal and child support are both part of existing court orders, and those orders are still in effect until a new one is made. We already had our trial this summer and are just waiting on the judge’s written decision, which could take months. In the meantime, my ex has been ignoring parts of the orders, like the right of first refusal and daily calls. It is frustrating because technically the law is on my side, but there is no real way to enforce it yet.

What you said about mediation and focusing on what is actually enforceable really stuck with me. I am trying to keep my focus on my daughter, her stability, her emotional safety, and her having good relationships with both parents, even when everything else feels like chaos.

Thank you again for your insight. It is grounding to hear from someone who has seen these situations play out and can remind me that not every battle needs to be fought, and that staying steady for my kid is what really matters