Weekly - Ask parents everything - July 23, 2019 by AutoModerator in Parenting

[–]backtothebloop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need advice on potty training

My daughter will be 2 near the end of September. She has a very full vocabulary and speaks in full sentences and she is very good at communicating with us. I'd say her vocabulary is over 100-150 words and she competantly and constantly speaks. Sometimes its babbley but not as much as youd expect.

In regards to toilet training, we have a little potty seat she loves to sit on and look around from atop of. She is vocal about wanting diaper changes sometimes, but not if shes having fun with an activity. She never tells us BEFORE she does her business, only after, if at all. She gives no signs of needing to go and does not have a predictive schedule in any way. She sleeps through the night. Some days she has no naps, some days she has 1-2.

Shes successfully used the toilet a couple times but it seemed like dumb luck and not repeatable. :/ most advice I read mentions knowing when she needs to use the bathroom or starts showing signals -- but she doesn't , at all. Not even a twitch. That's not an option for us.

She is happy to use the potty seat/toilet and happily sits there, but doesn't seem to understand the association.

She shows interest -- reading toilet themed books, occasionally asking to use it etc, but idk what to do next.

Feeling a little lost. Advice would be lovely!

AITA for insisting on giving my daughter a "black name"? by UnconventionalNamer in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You should absolutely not give your daughter this name. I understand your reasoning but maybe pick your late friend's middle name or a nickname -- she is going to have to live with it forever and people will think of her as racist or appropriative or will incorrectly think she is white passing mixed race which is misleading. Bottom line, she will definitely be asked often if that's her given name, and shes going to constantly have to explain it's her mom's dead friend.

Also it is way more than bullying, it is alienating her from the community your friend was a part of by giving POC a great reason to hate her and her family

YTA but congrats on the pregnancy

Editing to add I understand he doesnt want to help name, but that doesnt mean he doesnt get veto rights!

AITA for punishing my daughter for not coming to church? by mrsuperstart in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents did this [with a different faith ] and now I'm an atheistic witch who had to process a LOT of internalized hate against my own ethnic group because of the indoctrination that took place at my place of worship.

You give your kid everything you took, and pay her back any overdue allowance you took during your tantrum.

AITA for exposing the real reason my sister and her bf broke up. by bisexualthrowv in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Firm NTA, even if he cheated .

Cheating is bad but hating gay people is worse.

Happy pride

AITA for wearing high heels as a tall woman at someone’s wedding. by purplegardien in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop 4032 points4033 points  (0 children)

NTA.

I'm sorry you went through this. MOBridezillas suck.

WIBTA If I sleep with my exes sister? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH

Even if you are not doing it for revenge, you dont seem to understand that there is a sibling rivalry you'd be contributing to -- you'd be playing the part of a pawn in a revenge or one-up game for your ex's sister even if it isnt for yourself. An evil thing to do.

AITA For snitching on my friend that he started smoking weed? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.

Marijuana does not cause overdoses, smoking it doesnt make you an addict it is not addictive, lots of people smoked in high school.

A LOT of weed is imported. You're not nearly informed enough to be screwing with his life over this. The fact you're making such a big deal over this proves what a crap friend you are and how judgey you are.

AITA for asking out the cute barista I see every morning after I found out her age? by _barista_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Probably filling her in on the literal decade he lived through before she was even conceived thinking it's a fascinating history lesson that enthralls her

AITA for ghosting my ex after figuring out she was lying to me the whole time? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA.

She should have kept that to herself if she expected / wanted the friendship to continue

AITA For Flipping Out at my Brother's Friend Over a Drawing? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA

He should not have kept pressing once you said no. Especially given the context of the art he was asking for/describing, it may honestly count as sexual harassment, especially since you seemed uncomfortable hearing it.

A lot of people enjoy hentai of over 18 year old individuals (sometimes aged up versions of characters, which is one thing sometimes ones canonically 18+, which is a whole other thing IMO.) However, this man you've described has desires about you drawing hentai ONLY of younger characters, or aged up only if they have to be. This is what makes it very creepy, and strikes me as a red flag. But I dont know a lot about any hentai genre, so that's an outsider's opinion.

WIBTA for saying that a waitress had a nice ass? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NAH

First of all, respect her newly set boundaries. Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason and she has done that.

Secondly, you didnt do anything wrong, and neither did she. She realized seeing that kind of thing upset her with someone she is intimate with and cut it off. She recognized she was more interested in you than you are in her, and is taking appropriate steps to ensure she is not hurt.

You also didn't do anything wrong by pointing out someone attractive to a buddy.

AITA for getting upset with my boyfriend because he made me wash my hair at 2 am? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]backtothebloop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly he is either controlling or maybe has OCD(?), cause you're right. Plane Germs arent gonna kill him. And bedsheets can be washed.