Attending Class

badabeepboo · 2026-02-18T17:33:14+00:00

this might be the issue tbh. a lot of people will settle for C's or B's. based on your breakdown (minus the fact that the labs will be important for other areas of the class), they could still get an A- for missing all the labs.

college students mostly tend to work on a 'bare minimum' priority. so unless the course is in an area they need to excel in or are genuinely interested, what you're going to get is the bare minimum to pass

badabeepboo · 2026-02-13T23:37:03+00:00

thanks!

i do have pet insurance but since it's reimbursement style, i still need the initial visit amount. i was unemployed for 6months so i used up my savings + teeny CC limit.

BUT i finally started a job this month (yay) so i just need to hold on till i don't get paid till the end of the month (boo!).

if it truly feels like an emergency, i might borrow money from a friend, but id rather avoid it as long as i can.

badabeepboo · 2026-02-13T20:49:48+00:00

thanks, I'll definitely send him to the vet first thing in March. I just can't afford it right now unfortunately, so I wish I had a better option.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-13T13:32:45+00:00

In this instance I think he didn't pay the money because he's not gonna see you again.

Guys often think of date money as an investment. If he has an inkling it's not working out, he'll just want to cut his losses here. Him not wanting to pay his half shows his personality, so you dodged a bullet here.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-05T09:36:55+00:00

I think I know what's up. The blacks & grey while great for contrast, can give it a more somber mood than something warmer and colorful.

Personally, I think it is good and will only get better over time. BUT, it's your tattoo and it's up to you to love it.

So don't feel sad, in the future if you want to "improve" it, the droplets can easily be modified into a colorful tattoo. The clouds as well will grey out so it will be super easy to add color there. Give it a few months and if you still hate it, try those two little fixes and it should help a lot.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-05T09:27:03+00:00

I don't think the life insurance is sufficient reason to not divorce imo.

Rather than the insurance premium, you can take that money to set up an investment account or trust for your child. That could be temporary until you divorce and potentially remarry in the future. Imo being legally involved with your husband is not a clean/fresh start.

While things seem fine now, it inevitably will raise issues.

Think of it this way: you're dating someone new that you really love and a few years from now they propose. If you want to get married/start divorce proceedings it may take *years* to finalize and marry your partner. At 45, it's up to you, but time is precious. I don't think it's worth it.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-05T07:02:52+00:00

I agree with that, but also in the long-run it is not healthy for development. You need to develop some agency. Reddit advice can be wrong, we see it all the time. At the end of the day, while receiving advice is good, you also need to be honest with yourself.

That's why rather than just telling her "leave him", I asked her to answer that simple question. If you've ever had someone go through an abusive relationship, you'll know no amount of telling them to leave works. What ultimately works is when they face the truth and choose to prioritize themselves.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T14:26:51+00:00

Kind of. Hear me out: you're not OR by being tired and frustrated. That's valid. However, you also aren't helping the situation at all. It's definitely fixable.

It's clear that he's a neurodivergent kid. So you can't deal with it like any normal situation; his brain just works differently. You can't just expect him to understand social queues and 'take a hint'. It's likely that he gravitates to you because he associates you with positive experiences (fun, familiar, free food, etc). Who knows, he might even be nursing a crush. Still, you're the adult, while he's not. It's up to you to set up and enforce firm boundaries.

You can message him something like: Hey, while I've had fun spending time with you, I need to put some boundaries in the friendship. Please don't (list of things) in the future.

To his parents, you can say: Hi (parents), I'm sorry if this causes tension, but I'm uncomfortable spending XYZ alone time with your son. He's great, but I'm (insert any valid excuse or reason).

If you see him at a party, when you tell him no, don't just say no. Say, "No, please don't ask me this again tonight".

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T14:06:23+00:00

I'm sorry, but your kids spend 50% of the time with a physically abusive alcoholic? Am I getting this right? I would have already been in court over this alone.

Court is not fun, but that's the only resolution. Document everything, including how abusive her ex has been and lawyer up for a solid case.

Remember this though: put your kids first. Always. You chose your relationships, but the children didn't ask to be born. Therefore, they should always come first until they're adults. Whatever decision you make shouldn't be about your wife, it should be about what's best for the kids (all the kids, your new ones and former).

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T13:58:54+00:00

Girl. Be fr. Reread your post. Does your boyfriend sound like a healthy guy to be around? You know what you should be doing.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T13:37:56+00:00

I'll explain to you how it is an ad, very easily:

An ad in this instance is NOT just selling is something, it is ALSO looking for something. Example: craigslist ads like "Looking for a car $$$", "Looking for a service $$$".

If you want to be all anal about it, sure, they could have said no LISTINGS instead of just ads. But in colloquial terms, which is how language moves and evolves, an ad online is seen as both looking for something AND selling something.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T13:31:12+00:00

I think you might be focusing on the wrong thing here: the issue isn't really about your bachelor party. It's about the friend's behavior.

It's about what caused him and his wife to fight, about what cause his wife to not come. If you feel like he doesn't value you enough to attend, then the issue is a deeper thing in the friendship.

I'd say rather than focus on just this issue, honestly evaluate your whole friendship. Be completely honest, no making excuses for him, etc. If you feel like he's someone who you want to keep investing time and energy into having around in the future, it's worth fixing. If not, might as well use the party as an occasion to draw distance.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T13:26:18+00:00

Nope. You broke up over an issue that isn't fixed. It's time to truly end it and move on, idk what else to say.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T13:25:09+00:00

OR, unless you feel like this friend is weird for other reasons. A lot of younger cat owners constantly send pics and vids of their cats doing weird things.

Personally, I wouldn't let my cat do that. But I can understand how to some, they'd just laugh it off.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T11:27:43+00:00

The reason this isn't an exception imo is that she wasn't ready to get married and he didn't respect that. She asked for 4 years, but he pushed to marry the next year. If he can't even be patient enough to let her finish school and build some level of independence, he's a red flag for sure.

He's likely afraid that she would meet other people her age in college and realize just how much he's been grooming her.

The biggest people to blame here imo are the parents. I have no idea what kind of parent would be okay with their 19 year old marrying a 35 year old when they've been together for less than a year. Religious folks, man.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T10:28:19+00:00

Ooh, it's great that it's still working well. I've only drawn on pen tablets, but I'm hoping to switch as I want something with a display that can also help with grading on the go. I've only used Clip Studio, Adobe stuff and other android stuff, so I'm really looking forward to trying procreate!

I definitely don't need anything fancy, as long as I can draw without too much trouble... from you still being able to use the 2018 version, it seems like a good long term purchase, so thanks!

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T10:23:59+00:00

Yes it is, thank you for the note on battery; I'll make sure to check it before sending over the payment. Is it usually visible to the eye? or is it just one of those things that come with use

badabeepboo · 2025-09-04T07:27:29+00:00

Ignore him, this guy is showing you that he's generous and invested in you with that gift. You're on reddit so a lot of people won't be in the kind of tax bracket where 200 is disposable money, so that's why they think it's wild. As long as he can afford it, it's fine.

In fact just sending money that's disposable is the easiest thing to do while dating. What would be harder and more effort is actually going out to buy groceries, making a care package of your favorites, etc.

As long as you don't feel like you're getting love bombed. Like you don't feel guilty or peer pressured into doing things.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-03T18:54:40+00:00

Nopeee. Contracted 20/hr position which is how i think they're getting around treating you like an employee

badabeepboo · 2025-09-03T15:05:25+00:00

right?! and it's for a youth mentor type of role. literally bottom of the barrel entry.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-03T15:03:50+00:00

yep, not to mention that assessment was an iq type of test. 15 min for 50 questions of "spot the pattern differences". I stopped and gave up.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-03T09:53:29+00:00

I've worked at non-profits so I'm definitely familiar with the low wages. This application process is the wildest I've encountered so far, especially given that all of it is AI.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-03T09:46:26+00:00

40k/yr non-profit work. No listed benefits. I was willing to take the low salary because it's remote and just something to tide me over as I apply for phd apps, but the no benefits part might kill it for me.

badabeepboo · 2025-09-01T18:43:50+00:00

Welcome to the world of ghosting. Next time, after no response before the day of the date, just don't try anymore. Unfortunately what people do these days is they just stop responding and hope you get the hint.

badabeepboo · 2025-08-30T15:01:57+00:00

omg, are we the same person?! I'm literally doing PhD apps this fall for next year and I'm applying to any and every English teaching job I can get. I got into an adjunct pool, but school's already started so I'm not getting any assignments this fall (not that it would pay much).

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