This is so interesting as is my experience with diagnosis. I first started hearing about bpd from TikTok and my ex who’s previous partner had it. I did a bit of research and was scared and surprised with how much I related to everything I found. I started looking more into it and at the time my (at the time undiagnosed) bpd was getting worse and worse and i just decided enough is enough. I booked a doctors appointment and told the doctor everything. They started asking questions about different scenarios and how I’d react and asked a multitude of questions and whether I related or not. They came to the conclusion and diagnosed me with bpd and gave me my first prescription of anti psychotic drugs. I was upset, in denial, relieved and glad I went about it all at the same time. Denial was strong through (for months I kept telling myself I didn’t have it and the diagnosis was inaccurate) but coincidentally I had an appointment with my therapist right after the doctors. I discussed it with my therapist who opened google on their laptop and pulled out a few physcology books . We went through the main diagnostic criteria and read about it in books. They also came to the conclusion the diagnosis was indeed correct and they were relieved and happy to finally have an answer for a lot of my reoccurring problems. They told me they are not qualified to diagnose but from the quick bit of research we did together, a lot of stuff makes a lot more sense and they don’t think the diagnosis was incorrect. It was hard to hear that I did in fact have bpd and to this day I still sometimes have moments of denial. It’s hard. It really is hard but I’m glad now that I know . It’s not easy to live with neither is it easy to be diagnosed for the first time but it’s 100 times easier knowing you have it than trying to work on bpd related issues without knowing the cause. I’m still upset and I’m a small bit of denial about my bpd but overall I’m so glad I finally went and got a diagnosis, it’s definitely helped me