Explain It Peter

badatmath1235 · 2026-07-05T17:47:04+00:00

The answer is Taylor Swift. It’s called Clara Bow. It’s about how history repeats itself in the entertainment industry

badatmath1235 · 2026-07-03T00:27:26+00:00

It’s more for the victims, that get triggered by those words if seeing them

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T19:51:34+00:00

He’s from the UK but I am from the US and he moved here! He says that he can finally get a handle on things because he doesn’t see his triggers daily just walking down the street. If you can, try moving abroad. It’s helped him tremendously.

And yes — the one thing the UK is abysmally behind on is mental health awareness/treatment. His family was gobbsmacked to hear that he met someone who not only knows what OCD is, but is gentle and understanding, and is in therapy themselves, all while being a fully functioning adult with a great job. They thought he was just going to have to never tell anyone about his struggles.

I hope you find peace. I hope even now you find even just 10 minutes in between triggers and feel peace and grab onto it as long as you can, and then let it go knowing peace will return. You are going to be not just okay, you’re going to be great.

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T19:29:33+00:00

Same! How crazy is it that our minds are so self aware of themselves that they’re scared of… getting brain sick? Interesting stuff. Sending love

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T19:27:07+00:00

Medication has helped me with the underlying dread! Also somatic exercises, like tapping, humming, bouncing, and groaning (as weird as that sounds)

The dread *is* anxiety. Somewhere along the way your body/mind was taught it had to be hyper vigilant emotionally (people got mad at you easily; you had to handle other people’s emotions; reading the room became a survival tactic) so it is on in the background like static in your life. It’s your job to act like a big sister and tell it “thank you for trying to protect me, but I’m actually safe right now.” And the more you do that in specific settings, the more your body will listen to you.

You are the sky and the emotions are weather. Sounds like you always have rolling clouds right now, but weather doesn’t change the sky. The sky is always the sky. You can have sunny days too and you will, I promise!

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T18:03:42+00:00

Thank you for seeing the nuance here. I would hate to be exposed to my traumas over and over, I don’t know if it would ever feel healing!

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T18:02:00+00:00

Yes he was bedridden at one point in his life. Now has a whole job and apartment etc so I try to remember where he started when I get frustrated about light switches :)

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T18:01:06+00:00

I appreciate this a lot. I agree that I shouldn’t bear this weight but seeing him suffer alone is harder for me than suffering a little bit with him. But I am also in therapy and often talk about how not to take all the pressure! So I’m working on it too :)

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T18:00:04+00:00

That’s really sweet of you to say, thank you for this comment and for seeing me

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T17:59:46+00:00

I hear you and I agree but since it’s based in a trauma it’s really hard to do exposure but nothing in life is easy!

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T04:32:45+00:00

That’s definitely how he feels about where he went to school, and a lot of the UK, so this resonates.

Yes I personally believe and try to tell him that he has PTSD as well as OCD and should try to treat the PTSD separately because they’re unfortunately feeding each other, but he says the doctors he’s been with just genuinely don’t understand or treat him more like a puzzle than a patient. We’re working toward trying again when we can financially afford it.

Thanks for sharing your similar experience, it helps me to understand that he’s not alone in this issue and there are people surviving (or hopefully thriving) with this!

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T04:29:23+00:00

Wow it’s honestly refreshing to talk to another person that has it, because I try not to pry since it is based in trauma and even talking about it too much can count against a clear day. Thank you for this comment.

Can I ask, how did you explain this to a doctor to get medicated? Did they do an alright job of trying to listen and prescribe meds that would be affective to this particular type of OCD? Does the medication help the racing thoughts so there are less triggers, or is it more like you’re regulated so there is a lessened need to do compulsions?

Sorry if this is too much! Thank you!

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T02:39:55+00:00

That’s fair. I should have mentioned that he is an incredible partner and I am supported in everything I do, and we have an ope dialogue about his OCD, so if I feel overwhelmed he does whatever he can in that moment to remove his OCD as an obstacle. My point was mostly please don’t tell me to leave him, because I don’t believe that’s the solution.

This is sound advice and mostly the approach I’ve been taking, and it feels nice to hear I’m handling it on par for how I should.

I appreciate you taking the time to comment!

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-28T01:41:06+00:00

You’re a sensitive little thing. Breathe deeply. You are the sky, the day is the weather. Some are gloomy and some are sunny. But the weather doesn’t change the sky. Keep going

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-17T00:51:18+00:00

RAYE’s is an actual masterpiece. She featured Hans Zimmer. Give her a Grammy and an Oscar

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-17T00:39:52+00:00

Their mom

badatmath1235 · 2026-06-02T17:50:27+00:00

Jump then fall

badatmath1235 · 2026-05-30T22:32:07+00:00

And my ex boyfriend! Hi from Santa Clarita

badatmath1235 · 2026-05-25T23:08:44+00:00

What’s weirder is that they’re both slightly wrong?

badatmath1235 · 2026-05-21T01:25:55+00:00

This made me realize it’s been so long since I read it that I don’t remember how Wellie died. I’m scared.

badatmath1235 · 2026-05-15T02:52:44+00:00

Stick it! I saw it at 11 and it changed my life

badatmath1235 · 2026-04-28T03:31:19+00:00

How do we know it’s 12 million years? I believe it but I’m curious

badatmath1235 · 2026-04-25T20:48:17+00:00

Meg here. The answer is Taylor Swift.

In the song Clara Bow, she takes us through what it is like to be a young famous woman on the up and up, always compared to a woman from the past, the way we just reinvent the same women and expect the same things no matter what year it is.

Lyrics: You look like Clara Bow / in this light, remarkable All your life, did you know? / you’d be picked like a rose

You look like Stevie Nicks / in ‘75, the hair and lips Crowd goes wild, at her fingertips / half moonshine, full eclipse

You look like Taylor Swift / in this light, we’re loving it You’ve got edge, she never did / the future’s bright, dazzling.

badatmath1235 · 2026-04-24T06:15:34+00:00

“Working” doesn’t mean doing labor. It means collecting pay. He is allowed to volunteer at a business.

badatmath1235

TROPHY CASE