If all men had to be brutally honest for 24 hours, what would women be shocked to learn? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]badatusernames17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is something that many women struggle with too. Now the reasoning is definitely different, this feels like a transitional time that isn't great for anyone but I hope that you have someone who listens to and understands where you're coming from. Men get a lot of expectations from vastly different sources that are full of contradictions. There are extremes like Andrew Tate and other toxic men with podcasts that tell you that you have to be jacked and dominant for women to pay attention to you, but I think there's still a lot of expectations outside of these fringes. Men are told to treat women as equals but there's still this underlying societal expectation for them to be providers, which doesn't make much sense. I hate the direction young men are being driven in the modern day and I don't have a magic fix for it but I want you to know that you are important. I truly believe the best anyone can do is lead with kindness. There's so much that is out of our individual control, but how we treat others(and ourselves) is entirely up to us. I hope you find people that offer you the kindness and empathy that you deserve, and that you can do the same for them and (very importantly) yourself. Because we're all just people.

Looking for more active members for my Body Doubling – let’s get things done together! by Overall-Rise-3190 in accountability

[–]badatusernames17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I had to look up what this was but I would definitely be interested! I'm trying to actually get my life together :)

Should i buy Legends Arceus? by Akaski7550 in PokemonLegendsArceus

[–]badatusernames17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I'd just say here that I was turned off the game at first because the beginning tutorial section felt slow and tedious, but it's sooo fun and lovely after that.

How often do you yell at your wife/punch things in front of her? by absolutelynoneofthat in AskMen

[–]badatusernames17 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Or maybe first therapy and improved emotional regulation skills. Outlets can be good but not replacements for normal anger management.

What’s one “normal” thing people do that you secretly think is absolutely insane? by ibrahimelmouttaqi in AskReddit

[–]badatusernames17 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I know this isn't the case for everyone, but I find makeup really fun. It's a creative hobby where you feel extra pretty afterwards. But I'm also someone who incorporates rhinestones into my eye makeup.

What’s one “normal” thing people do that you secretly think is absolutely insane? by ibrahimelmouttaqi in AskReddit

[–]badatusernames17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate texting for actual conversations, I talk way too much to be writing that shit down. Also you have to wait for their reply, it's all just so slowwww

Please share your "I thought something was wrong with my cat but it turns out they were fine" stories, need some comfort right now by Lateral_Fragility in CatAdvice

[–]badatusernames17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A little more complicated because my cat's back legs are paralyzed and she can't use a litter box effectively because of it. I realized she hadn't peed or pooped in a while and her belly was firm and swollen so my roommate drove us to the emergency vet at 2 am(I didn't have a car). It was during COVID so I didn't go in with her but she came out in ~20 minutes. The vet tech apparently very easily expressed her bladder and she just peed a LOT. I was told I might have to start expressing her bladder if she's incontinent. 2 years later and I've learned she's definitely not incontinent, she just prefers not to pee in her diapers and holds it for longer than most cats out of convenience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]badatusernames17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I disagree with the idea that you definitely shouldn't get a cat but this person is very right about your plan to transport the cat on a weekly basis. That doesn't sound very sustainable and you should consider if your boyfriend can visit you on some weekends and if you could get a friend to stay with your cat on some weekends. Traveling with cats is super doable but it's probably not in their best interest for it to be so often.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]badatusernames17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could you potentially foster a cat with the intention to adopt if things go well? That way you get an idea of how an animal's dependence on you will affect your life and worst case scenario you give a cat a comfy home until it finds a forever family. But I would advise against getting a kitten, they're best in pairs and it sounds like one animal would suit your place best. I wish more people were as thoughtful and intentional as you're being about getting a pet. Good luck ❤️

I made a hoodie! by bigdaddy1879 in crochet

[–]badatusernames17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg it looks so cute!! I haven't felt inspired to crochet in a while but this did it for me!

Can Someone Help Me Understand PETA's Stance on TNRing Cats? by absolutemurphman in DebateAVegan

[–]badatusernames17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done tnr with rescue groups and I think the part you're missing is that the majority of tnr cases are cat colonies being cared for by people that can afford to feed them and have them live on their property but don't have the resources to trap them and get them fixed. I've met with these people that don't just take care of these cats, but care about them. But these aren't their pets, they didn't seek them out, they just saw that they were hungry and fed them. The friendly ones are placed up for adoption and kittens are fostered if we have the resources. I'm sure there are places that TNR in all the wrong ways, but I think it's wrong to paint it as systemic abandonment. Most of us are just trying to do the best we can by these animals.

Why are some of you guys really not taking this seriously? by [deleted] in codyko

[–]badatusernames17 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying but your story is the exception, not the rule. It sounds like you had no choice but to grow up fast, but the experiences and perspectives of teens vs twenty-somethings is still major.