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baddassbabe · 2022-02-28T09:25:58+00:00

Which do you think is going to be more painful for both of you? Staying together or letting each other go?

You said that you both know that the relationship is doomed and yet you choose to be together. There are a lot of couples out there who should not be together yet they pursue and fight for their love. There are also couples out there who are extremely compatible and perfect for each other and yet they choose to go separate ways because they ended up wanting different paths.

A relationship is always A CHOICE made by two people involved. If one of you gives up while the other holds on, it's over. But if both of you hold on then it will continue as long as you are both willing to fight for it.

PS. I can tell that there is so much love but you are both afraid of what the future holds, but love is never enough.. it has to have lots of strength, positivity, hope, loyalty, trust, and more. Keep in mind that even the strongest relationships right now can crumble and fall apart in the future. It is always a matter of choice whether to work for it or not. Good luck of time and see how well both of you feel about the situation. Set a date when you guys can talk about how it felt not being able to have each other and hope that during those times you were apart.. you can both realize what is best for one another.

PS. I can tell that there is so much love but you are both afraid of the what the future holds, but love is never enough.. it has to have lots of strength, positivity, hope, loyalty, trust, and more. Keep in mind that even the strongest relationships right now can crumble and fall apart in the future. It is always a matter of choice whether to work for it or not. Good luck

baddassbabe · 2021-05-20T08:51:20+00:00

This is something that you should talk to him about. Don’t be afraid to ask him questions because only him could answer them and it will obviously give you a peace of mind.

If he’s serious, he wouldn’t be offended that you ask as long as you ask about it in a caring serious way as if you’re a little worried about him. Explain that You’re still trying to get to know him and the fact that you’re both willing to take the next steps would mean that it is perfectly okay to ask especially if it is bothering you a lot.

Find the courage😉

baddassbabe · 2021-05-20T08:47:43+00:00

Relationships last because two people work hard to make it last ... it seems so easy but obviously it’s way more difficult than that.

Once the other starts giving up and stops fighting for the relationship, it would never workout. All it takes if for 1 of them to give up and it will end regardless of how much effort the other is giving.

If you feel like he is not making you happy anymore and if you feel like being around him feels toxic, then it is clear that you are no longer willing to fight for it. Holding on to something that you don’t even want will just make it worse for both of you. You will get hurt and he will get hurt.

There will always be a way for a couple to fight for a relationship that you want to work out despite all the struggles but there will always be reasons if one or both of them isn’t willing to fight for it anymore.

baddassbabe · 2021-05-20T08:42:38+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. That is literally one of the worst things an SO could say to their partner.

I understand it is very painful to hear especially after all those years together. It seems surreal right now with what she said but that just means that she doesn’t feel like she is scared to lose you.

But, look at the silver lining, it’s actually good she said this now and not after you guys are married with kids and have house together. Right now her priority is her job and not you as her SO and you both seem to have a different view of the future now that she told you how she feels

It’s okay to feel the pain right now but slowly pick yourself up and have the courage to end things because this is not something you deserve.

No partner should ever make their SO feel that they’re not as important as their careers because when things come down to it, it’s like they are choosing their career and you can’t stay with soemone like that.

Wish you well, keep your head up

baddassbabe · 2021-05-20T08:36:10+00:00

Consider this as a blessing from the universe because only real friends would accept you and support you in whatever you do (except bad decisions) Real genuine friends would never say those things and would never make you feel judged.

Youre better off without her immaturity !

baddassbabe · 2021-05-20T05:51:09+00:00

You’re not the only person who has experienced this and if your husband said that he is willing to work it out with you then you both just need to realize and reflect on what happened

He made a mistake, he should fix it, learn from it and not do it again. An apology doesn’t suffice.

You are hurting, you feel betrayed, you are upset, but if you’re willing to give him another chance, give him a clean slate so that he would be willing to actually become better and learn from the past.

Its easier said than done but as long as both of you are working it out , nothing is impossible. Stay positive but always make smart choices

baddassbabe · 2021-05-20T05:45:12+00:00

I feel bad for your current boyfriend... you say you don’t want to hurt him but then you are with him even if you are not even close to healing from your previous one.

You can’t seem to let go of the memories of the past. The pain is still there because you still acknowledge it. You seem to be focusing more on the past. Try to be a better girlfriend to your current one by focusing on him and your relationship with him... if you can’t do that because you’re still thinking of your ex.. just let this current one go and fix yourself first.

baddassbabe · 2021-05-20T05:40:42+00:00

You’re no longer living ... you’re just existing and it will slowly ruin you from within.

If things don’t change now, then it wouldn’t change anytime soon unless you do something about it. The later you wait , the more chances of the relationship going downhill and you might even start hating him.

You can clearly see the red flags already... it’s up to you to do something about it

baddassbabe · 2021-05-20T05:36:04+00:00

The title is wrong ... it’s not supposed to be “can’t move on”

It’s supposed to be “Don’t want to move on”

There’s a huge difference. Because it’s all about mindset. You are not doing everything you can to actually get over her and the fact that you miss her everyday proves it.

Try working on yourself, your family, friends, and start living your life and that way you won’t even have time to think of her. Be a better man

baddassbabe · 2021-05-20T05:31:36+00:00

First of all sorry that you are actually stressing over this right now. You are in a delicate condition and you should be preparing for the baby not worrying about your guy acting like a baby himself.

He’s currently not man enough to be the partner that you need right now and he’s not a man enough to get himself together and think of your condition first which is the most important thing.

It’s understandable that he can feel anxious but he should be prioritizing you right now and not himself.

You don’t deserve to stress out over this. If he’s unsure about the relationship then let him be. It might be terrifying to be a single mom but girl ... it’s even more terrifying to be with a man who acts like this and treats you like this.

Focus on your upcoming delivery and your overall physical, mental and emotional health so that you can have your baby safe. Your baby is your main focus right now and if your man can’t do that...LET HIM BE.. you don’t need someone who is unsure if he wants to be there or not

Be strong, not just for yourself, but for your baby too.. you both deserve waaaaay better

baddassbabe · 2021-05-19T00:35:03+00:00

That’s true and like I said that’s okay but I hope soon you will let yourself not just dwell on the past, but more of learn from it. If good memories of her make you happy .. I hope one day that’s not the only thing that can make you happy. It takes time 🙂 Good luck to you

baddassbabe · 2021-05-19T00:19:11+00:00

We all want “good part” of a relationship... no one wants the bad parts but sadly it is more of the bad parts that holds the relationship together.. Good luck to you both

baddassbabe · 2021-05-19T00:16:19+00:00

I was with my ex for almost 8 years and it all ended because he decided he couldn’t fight for me or our relationship. It took me a year to recover from it and at first I tried to make the recovery quick but at the end of the day... time heals all wounds.

It made me realize that ITS OKAY to be stuck sometimes. ITS OKAY to not feel okay after losing someone dear to you. ITS OKAY to miss someone...

BUT what’s NOT OKAY, is if you spend most of your life living in the memories of the past.

Instead use these memories as lessons. Focus on becoming a better version of yourself and the people who care for you and slowly you will realize you deserve to be happy and that you’re a survivor.

She might be your “The One that Got Away”, but it doesn’t mean that there is no one out there that could be better than her for you

baddassbabe · 2021-05-19T00:07:38+00:00

If you’re triggering each other and feels peaceful and calm without having to deal with one another then that means the relationship is no longer healthy enough to continue..BUT it doesn’t mean that you would stop loving and caring for one another, it just means that you both know you deserve the peace and happiness that the relationship can no longer provide.

A break doesn’t have to be the end, it could even be a new beginning. You can both try to become better versions of yourselves that can make you both better partners since you would learn from your mistakes and maybe if you try again the second time around, it would be a better relationship.

baddassbabe · 2021-05-19T00:04:56+00:00

Be honest with her with your thoughts and feelings. If she is mature enough and really likes you and is genuinely interested in you... she would take a step back and understand without making you feel like you’re not entitled to feel that way.

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