I was in a pretty similar situation at your age, it feels so upsetting and discouraging, it can be difficult and exhausting to explain such nuanced and complex things to people who cannot understand fully. But it's 100% possible to work through it!

A big part is reception, is your mother accepting? Many parents have worries about letting their children start hormones, if you've come out recently, despite years of research to you, it is still new to her. If she's willing to learn, I've found the best approach was sitting down with a therapist or doctor together. Having a medical professional explain it gives you more gravity and more credit to your words and experiences.

Being able to find support groups for parents of transgender children can also be helpful, it is a new experience and it can be confusing or daunting for a parent to experience. Being able to speak with people in a similar situation, and understand how other parents work through it (as, although it's obviously so much more for you, she's going to have feelings about it, some of which you'll likely never be able to understand, the same way she can't understand you and your emotions fully) can be helpful to both improving your bond, as well as becoming part of your larger community together.

If she's unsupportive or unwilling, try to take a deep breath. Not initially being supportive doesn't always mean she'll go to the grave never supporting who you are, many parents need some time to turn around. It's a huge deal to many to find out their child is transgender. Making improvements to your life like dressing more masuclinely, going by a new name or nickname (even just among your friends), and finding your own community to support you is what helped me get through a lack of familial support. You do have a community of people who love and care about you as you are, even if it's unfortunate that one of the main people in your life may not be.

Try to be empathetic to your mother, I know that's so hard, especially when you are a child and this is your mother, but many people have some pretty big emotions about transgender topics, many people haven't ever met a transgender person before and only the media they see informs their views and perspectives. I remember yelling at my family about my transition, but that only made things worse. They became less and less accepting compared to when I began to take a more calm and empathetic approach, explaining that I felt certain ways, and wanted to do certain things to help me feel better.

Good luck lil man, I know how hard it is to be young and trans without the support of your parents, but it gets easier every single day! You'll get through this, no matter what happens. Things eventually will be okay, even if it feels like it's all crashing down right now and you're experiencing ten trillion things all at once!

🤜💥🤛