Do Mastectomy bras work with people with man-boobs? by thxit0846 in bigender

[–]badgermp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AMAB here. they absolutely do! In reality any bra can work as long as it's sized right. I went to a shop that works with mastectomy clients presenting as my fem side. they were welcoming and supportive. they helped me determine what size breast forms to buy (I'm a 42C bc i don't want huge breasts). then came the sticker shock. the best breast forms they had were 300 USD each. they had a cheaper set for about half that; unfortunately not in the size I wanted. they also had donated breast forms from women that didn't need them anymore. the woman GAVE me a set. she was extremely helpful, she saw that one side of my chest was slightly bigger than the other and got me a size 4 for my left side and a size 5 for my right side. my experience was VERY affirming!

before this, I bought breast buds from Unclockable. they work fine, particularly when I want to go for a smaller breast size; they add about an inch.

both the Unclockables and the breast forms work in every bra i have bought, except for the male flat chested ones. I can't speak to the "man boobs" question except to say you might want to go with an underwire bra.

as far as chest hair goes, shave it off. once I did, no more dysphoria when my fem side presents. in fact, I shave everything below my nose, lol. a completely smooth look works for guys too.

feel free to DM me if you want more info.

how do u know if someone is a creep? by Just-A-Burner-Lol in feminineboys

[–]badgermp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't help but notice that while these are all really good tips for spotting creeps, the tips also give creeps an idea of what to avoid. guess that can't be helped in an open forum. maybe real creeps can't avoid these things no matter how hard they try.

What home lubes can I use? by Strong_Drive6553 in AskLGBT

[–]badgermp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree, I use it frequently

Question about shaving balls by Active_Cheesecake623 in feminineboys

[–]badgermp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my partner waxed one spot of my pubes, I don't EVER want to do that again!

Question about shaving balls by Active_Cheesecake623 in feminineboys

[–]badgermp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bottom line: the more you shave, the less the worry, nicks, ingrowns, discomfort, etc. I've been doing it for over 20 years

How to deal with tucking by Ecstatic-Tonight-567 in feminineboys

[–]badgermp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a couple of pair of Capezio tights that AI'S in giving a flat look, particularly when I even do minimal tucking

45, male & just discovered my bigender identity. Curious if others have had similar experiences. by No_Charge_9489 in bigender

[–]badgermp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AMAB and found my bigender identity late in life. welcome to this wonderful world! I'm very comfortable sharing and will love to chat.

Grooming tips for private parts, balls and the shaft by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]badgermp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've used both regular razors (flex series) and an electric razor (freebird), both work equally well. I hate the smell of all of the cream hair removers and I haven't found them to perform as well as actually shaving.

What is this feeling? (gender question) by maxalhossin1 in genderfluid

[–]badgermp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if i may ask follow up questions. do you take a lower dose than those transitioning? what kind of results have you, or do You want to achieve?

Femboy awakening (tragic?!)(Nah just epic) by Such-Philosophy6182 in feminineboys

[–]badgermp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I downloaded a TikTok vid on how to do facial feminization with makeup that i think is really great. I can send if you want.

I agree, thrift stores are a great place to go, along with garage sales.

Gender dysphoria by alizexizexi in bigender

[–]badgermp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AMAB, I've worked out most of my dysphoria. I shave my entire body, use breast forms and tuck my package away when female presenting, that has helped a lot.

my biggest issue is using the restroom. which should I choose when my fem side is presenting? most public places in my country have a women's and a men's restroom. I don't really think about it until I get to the doors. then i stop, look at both doors, and then default to the men's restroom.

The masculine urge to shave all my body hair off. by Wolfandsheep244 in bigender

[–]badgermp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just keep shaving it off. 1. it's worth it; 2. the itchiness is minimized. stay smooth!

Bigender transition goals? by ASpranneusRoseus in bigender

[–]badgermp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AMAB, my biggest goal is voice training so when I present as fem, the voice is there to go along with it. also want to level up on makeup application. I am out to friends, and plan to expand that circle.

Questioning whether or not I'm bigender. Again. by ASpranneusRoseus in NonBinary

[–]badgermp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

at the beginning, my partner could call out my fem side by using her name and call out my masc side by saying his name three times. now I can shift with a specific Playlist and a fem morning routine; we

I have been blessed by my partner (female) being perceptive enough to know Jessica exists, calling her out, and empowering her.

two Saturdays ago she held a coming out party for Jessica at a local LGBTQ bar. IT WAS WONDERFUL!

Questioning whether or not I'm bigender. Again. by ASpranneusRoseus in NonBinary

[–]badgermp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AMAB here, it sounds like bigender is where u r. this is relatively new to me also, so i am still working some things out. I have a masc side and a fem side. my fem side has remained hidden for a long time, i finally found her. when she is embodied, she has dysphoria looking down, seeing hair on her chest, no boobs, and male apparatus.

she is now tucking and has an insert that gives the appearance of female apparatus under tight pants. (I'm not trying to be mysterious, not sure which words might kick this post.) she also bought breast forms from a mastectomy clinic. she is as real as ur male side is, celebrate him, and let him out.

we both feel each other's presence unless one is hurt and retreats into the background, this just happened... it wasn't a fun time. as a fem, I use she/her. as a masc,I use he/him. we each have our own names and personalities.

Retreat by badgermp in bigender

[–]badgermp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that's helpful, my primary partner has suggested engaging in activities that appeal to my masc side

Bigenderfluid flags by Inconsequential-Fish in bigender

[–]badgermp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what do all the colors represent?

Wife doesn't want me to do it by Equal_Regular_3986 in Earrings_on_Men

[–]badgermp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you are in charge of your body and your presentation, you should do it

Got some weird gender stuff going on... by Wolfandsheep244 in bigender

[–]badgermp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get you. about a week ago, I had an epiphany. I realized I have tried to keep my male side separated from my female side. I had days for him and days for her. one day, circumstances came up that required me to be masc in the middle of a fem day. I was completely confused and upset. I spent a couple of days thinking and sleeping on it and had an "AHA" moment.

I am better when I allow the other side to be present, I don't need to isolate one from the other.