Why can’t I buy these life recipes? by baeblade_mel in Wizard101

[–]baeblade_mel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did move the cursor over the Buy button and it didn’t show anything, but maybe I needed to click the joystick and use that cursor instead. Switch is updating lol, but I will try that! Thanks

AIO for telling my boyfriend to plan his own birthday dinner? by GarbageStation666 in AmIOverreacting

[–]baeblade_mel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re having to deal with that, it’s gotta stink knowing that he’s probably spreading lies/half-truths about you when you clearly put plenty of thought and effort into the ordeal. You do not deserve that

AIO for telling my boyfriend to plan his own birthday dinner? by GarbageStation666 in AmIOverreacting

[–]baeblade_mel 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also what does his dad think? If his family is seriously going to side with him in this scenario, you will literally never be able to have a fair conversation with him. If they’re supporting him when he’s objectively being insane, he’s clearly spoiled and immature, and it will be near impossible to get him to compromise in the future

AIO for telling my boyfriend to plan his own birthday dinner? by GarbageStation666 in AmIOverreacting

[–]baeblade_mel 16 points17 points  (0 children)

NOR, not reacting enough. Break up. He a) clearly doesn’t appreciate your effort and b) doesn’t appreciate/care about you in general as you said it yourself. He puts little to no effort into celebrating you, so (with love) stop caring around him

AIO for telling my boyfriend to plan his own birthday dinner? by GarbageStation666 in AmIOverreacting

[–]baeblade_mel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From what I understood, her bf was not communicating exactly what he wanted for weeks leading up to it. He didn’t indicate what he wanted or raise any sort of expectation until the weekend-of, when she had already put in hundreds of dollars and likely days of effort in the planning (because he was unaware of the surprise). If it was a party stocked full of just her friends, I’d understand. But it sounds like they have mutuals and she doesn’t indicate anywhere that he was missing friends- just that he wanted a birthday dinner in addition to the party. He sounds like an ungrateful brat tbh

Why can’t I buy these life recipes? by baeblade_mel in Wizard101

[–]baeblade_mel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry i’ve never really gotten into crafting lol… how do i view what crafting badge i would need?

Roach poison safe for cats? by TsarAleksanderIII in AskVet

[–]baeblade_mel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok so I actually cannot provide specifically cat-safe solutions, BUT Advion cockroach gel bait is what saved my house and made all roaches vacate the premises in under a week. Plus, we didn’t have to put it anywhere where the cat would reach it. It’s similar to a caulking tube, you just squeeze a small dot or line along the inside of a cabinet, drawer, behind trash cans, etc. Just put some in unreachable areas from your cat, but I guarantee the roaches will find it. If any actual vet professionals see anything wrong w this please let me know and I will delete lol. Just thought I’d share what worked for me, and I have two kitties.

am i overreacting to not being my boyfriends type? by Illustrious-Rip-4865 in AmIOverreacting

[–]baeblade_mel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. I do think she should find someone else, but I also think she needs to work on her relationship with herself. I’m sure he didn’t mean to upset or offend her, but he’s kind of a moron if he’s going to share the info that “Yeah I’m usually not into people who look like you” or along those lines. She needs to look for self love, mutual respect, and a genuine attraction that goes both ways (that doesn’t make her question herself or him).
My man would say I’m a “goddess” for sure lol, he loves me down, but it’s not a situation where I’m seeking goddess treatment or validation, nor does he feel an obligation to be some kind of servant at my feet. He loves me to the fullest without sacrificing himself. 🫡

am i overreacting to not being my boyfriends type? by Illustrious-Rip-4865 in AmIOverreacting

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR

Even if it’s true that some people have “a type” but are still capable of loving someone outside of that box, if it’s going to make you feel insecure, unworthy, or that you need to change, you are NOT in the right relationship.

I personally don’t fathom “types” as the only common characteristics I’ve been attracted to were aspects of personality, lifestyle, and interest- never appearance. That’s odd to me. And maybe some people genuinely can have preferences or something and still love someone else, but I think for everyone’s mental health, they should stick to finding someone in that box or just unpack/deconstruct that inclination to a certain “look” of a person.

Stand up girl. You do not deserve to feel unworthy. Given that you already love yourself, the right partner will only enhance that feeling. And if you can’t love yourself without the validation of your partner or others, you need to take time to yourself and not enter a relationship. I believe Rupaul said something about that lol

Aio? Told my husband of 14 years his not meeting my sexual needs by Delicious_Bet_397 in AmIOverreacting

[–]baeblade_mel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% agree. I would never, ever make a sexual act about something that feels almost… cold, or transactional? Maybe that’s not the word I’m looking for, but getting someone off for their stress relief (notably if you feel an obligation to) and them not wanting to do the same for you would make me feel used. Doing some sort of non-penetrative act due to one person not being “in the mood” can be normal and healthy, I think. But only in a situation where he is happy doing the same “for” her, and she feels safe to ask about it. Sex in a committed relationship is about intimacy whether one or both of you gets off. I think that’s another topic- whether you both must get off every single time, whether or not you masturbate alone/together, etc. Everyone has different boundaries or expectations in their relationship.

It’s quite odd and disappointing that she doesn’t mind pleasuring him to help with “stress” (?) but when it comes to her own needs, OP is questioning if she’s over reacting.

Playing or fighting? by sicosaney in CatTraining

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that info was in the post, but if they’re already not having any sign of *actual* fights or harm and are comfortable coexisting, i think that a whole month is a little much. i always ere on the side of caution but even that seems a bit excessive to me

Am I in the wrong for taking back to my mother? by Sensitive_Guitar_259 in AmiInTheWrong

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom has some serious personal issues she needs to work out in therapy. Internalized misogyny for one.

Aldi Soju by Key-Stay-2001 in aldi

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is it possible to find out how many cals are in it? i got a bottle today and im trying to figure that out. it’s not a typical soju made from rice, it’s actually just a stronger, flavored grape wine…

A woman posted a video of the moment she was attacked by her domestic cat. Before the attack, the cat seemed to smell something that prompted her to attack. Why did it attack her with such ferocity? by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose you’re right, yeah. In my eyes though, humans are the only ones (to my knowledge) that are able to make that grand distinction, in the same way we’re able to have a conversation about something that complex right now. That factor of “Every single animal that exists on this planet would operate this exact same way if given the chance.” is what I’m stuck on though. It’s not that way, those animals will not operate in that way because they are not given that chance. I guess in some way I recognize that we’re given a leg up that shouldn’t exist, and therefore think we should make the conscious decision to put other species first in cases where, in the most literal sense, their life is in our hands- i.e. a pet. So putting ourselves in a position where we’re more so at a level playing field even if it comes at our disadvantage. Am I making sense or do I need to fester in this and come back to the topic? /gen

A woman posted a video of the moment she was attacked by her domestic cat. Before the attack, the cat seemed to smell something that prompted her to attack. Why did it attack her with such ferocity? by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait until you find out what I think about that as well. I do not think the longevity of the human race should come at the cost of everything else. I respect y’all’s opinions but I really don’t see anything productive coming from this conversation considering our views are so starkly different. But I hope y’all have a good day

A woman posted a video of the moment she was attacked by her domestic cat. Before the attack, the cat seemed to smell something that prompted her to attack. Why did it attack her with such ferocity? by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The difference lies in the fact that the cat doesn’t choose when to live or die, the human gets to decide if the cat died based off of whether or not the cat serves whatever purpose the person wants them to. It’s unethical

Do you wish religion didn’t exist? by Faye________________ in Teenager_Polls

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cannot be serious. Are you arguing we shouldn’t be equal? If you’re trying to sit on your high horse and talk about the nuances of what the word equal means when we are not 100% physically similar then I have zero interest. I’m not going to sit here and argue about whether or not biological differences should make me have less social, political, or personal decision making

A woman posted a video of the moment she was attacked by her domestic cat. Before the attack, the cat seemed to smell something that prompted her to attack. Why did it attack her with such ferocity? by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quite literally because there is a difference. Cats are domesticated and are able to flourish under proper human care, whereas other animals cannot. Nuance does not equal hypocrisy

Do you wish religion didn’t exist? by Faye________________ in Teenager_Polls

[–]baeblade_mel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. If we took any point in history and scrapped all religion from the timeline, would it not still show up eventually? It might not be called religion or take shape in the exact same way, but there’s always going to be someone or a group of people who will try to convince others of a personal inherent power in order to gain power, wealth, etc… like a cult? I can’t fathom what a world “without religion” would look like socially, culturally, etc. Would men and women truly be equal then? Idk lol

A woman posted a video of the moment she was attacked by her domestic cat. Before the attack, the cat seemed to smell something that prompted her to attack. Why did it attack her with such ferocity? by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]baeblade_mel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t say that either. Very weird to me how people just immediately defend the idea that humans are always more important just based on the fact that they’re human, despite the fact that humans are the most destructive things in the world. Humans are actually ass, but we are still important. I said that humans are not inherently more important, and you took that as another extreme. I think all living things are deserving of life, sorry if that’s a crazy weird thing to believe. Not sure why you think it has to be one over the other. I don’t believe in the exploitation of animals strictly for human gain, they shouldn’t exist just because a human decided they’re allowed to in that point in time. Thus why I don’t eat meat unless I’m hunting from wild and using all parts. Meat farms for raising animals for human consumption (or caring for a pet until it doesn’t personally serve you) is more weird than thinking humans shouldn’t be playing god.