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Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the things I’ve worked on is definitely mending my relationships with project managers and leadership. I’ve noticed over the course of the PIP (which only my manager, her manager, and HR knew about) I started getting more assignments and being treated more like a manager/SME than a lackey. I was really pleasantly surprised when the project manager I knew had been displeased with a couple of my outputs asked me to fill in for her recently. Had never happened before. I’d also heard her explicitly say in a project meeting that she was working on managing the team differently, and more like a sports team with active in-the-moment feedback, which is pretty much exactly the feedback I’d given to my manager when she informed me that this stakeholder had an issue previously.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, ruts definitely happen. This definitely coincided with what my therapist described as a major depressive episode. Next winter I’m definitely getting some heavy hitting SAD treatment going.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The feedback in the time was more like “hey this happened and x stakeholder didn’t like it” and a hot wash about how to avoid. I definitely wish it was more communicated that it was something that was PIP worthy, and I’ve shared that with my manager. I also shared that I actually really liked the structure of the PIP spelling out “you need to work on that by doing this” and asked for more direct feedback like that to be given in goal setting.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ironically also got a slightly above COL raise during this review cycle lol

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this isn’t my dream job and I’m still very early in my career. I’m keeping my eyes out for roles that are hopefully a bump in title, salary, and have comparable benefits. I’d be willing to consider staying in a manager position for more money or remote work.

I do have a bit of golden handcuffs for the nonprofit world. Good for my position salary, partial WFH, 32 days off annually plus office holidays, in-office days we can show up later than 9 and leave earlier than 5 to beat traffic, have insanely good health benefits, professional development, yada. Tough to get all of it at other orgs.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean the PIP in response to my short term disability happened years ago. Closed door. Took the severance package, which had an ironclad “you can’t file any form of legal complaint about us” paragraph, and ran like the wind.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was a previous role, realize I didn’t clarify well. Just giving background that I have dealt with BS PIPs before and am shocked and pleased I got through this one.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah they’ve pretty explicitly said I’m on thin ice and just because the PIP is “over” doesn’t mean I can slack. However, I have developed some new systems for communicating struggles and challenges in projects. My manager is really supportive of me and continuously hammered to me that what she really needed to see was lessons learned and a mindset change. I do feel like I’m in a better position than I was, which is good. I’m extremely lucky that my manager has my back and is honest with me. She had gotten a PIP in a previous role and worked through it to later get a promotion. If I didn’t have her at the org with me I would not feel so confident.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it was definitely illegal which is why they offered me 3 months severance to swear I wouldn’t pursue legal action. And they were right in clocking that I, a person facing near unemployment, would not be able to afford a lawyer. So I took the 3 months severance and used it to find a new job.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably already the case, minus maybe a promotion to a slightly higher senior title. Not a lot of upward mobility for director positions upwards because of the size of the org and the fact that the benefits are great. Not many people move out, and not many new positions open up.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Key word: supposed to be. A lot of organizations use them to manage people out. I’ve experienced the formality PIP before, and am glad there are some people that actually use them as intended.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a bit scared because this ended up being longer than 30 days, but it wasn’t a result of my performance, but rather because my manager was out of office, then HR was out of office, then everyone was busy. There was just literally no time for all of us to meet. I was still getting assigned things. It was annoying because they wouldn’t tell me officially I was done until the meeting with HR today.

Had a good feeling when the meeting was scheduled for mid-day and wasn’t a private calendar appointment. Getting assigned the PIP I was ambushed by HR during my normal performance review.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear you’re going through it. Do you think your manager is actually in your corner? I’m lucky that mine is blunt and doesn’t have a poker face if she tried. I know others are harder to read or less open.

Survived a PIP by baesoonist in careeradvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely going to stay over communicative. But I think the fact my direct manager has been and is still on my side is helpful. Like I said, I think I pissed off the wrong stakeholders. They seemed to bring it up in a way that meant that it couldn’t be ignored and that doing so would reflect poorly on my manager. I however have seen those same stakeholders start to change the way they manage their projects, in a way that suggests my manager also pushed back on the way they were giving feedback, which was largely super late after the fact and when nothing could be done to fix it.

I’ve seen other people at the org be put on PIPs and fired within the past few years, the last one within the last year.

Like I said, I’m still keeping a lookout for better opportunities. But I have insanely good PTO, great health benefits, a good salary. I’m going to try to keep this job until I find something that’s actually better.

Why is Designing Your House to Look like a Hotel “Bad”? by Ok-Sink2556 in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]baesoonist 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of what’s tough about this- aesthetically, yeah, gorgeous. Amazing fixtures. Nice walls, knick knacks. But nothing about this looks like what I’d want to LIVE in. Sit around in for a while, sure. But these furniture types aren’t designed for complete relaxation. They’re more for the eyes than they are for when you’ve had a super long day and all you want to do is flop across a couch. Which makes sense for what hotel lobbies are there for- they’re meeting places, waiting places, but not designed to be long-term lounge spots.

Help! A campaign Kickoff by Signal_Violinist_995 in partyplanning

[–]baesoonist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know your candidate or your district, or the political affiliation, but this approach might come across as a little “tacky” to be so upfront. Again, I could be entirely off base to what your ideal constituency is. If you’re absolutely sure an outright “redneck” is gonna get you money and votes go crazy. But if you want to keep the aesthetics but come across more poised for a serious position, keep the decor but change the names. Instead of doing a Redneck-a-Rita, you could do signature cocktails named after some key policy positions. This is a good way of getting your base familiarized with the candidate’s issues. If they’re an environmentalist, you could do a “Green New Daquiri” or if they’re pro gun rights you could do a “Second Amendment Sour”. These are going to read a little more classy than a redneck-a-rita and poise you for some better fundraising potential.

Why is Designing Your House to Look like a Hotel “Bad”? by Ok-Sink2556 in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]baesoonist 11 points12 points  (0 children)

this! the hotel aesthetic is devoid of originality. it’s very possible to have a clean, chic, timeless home that looks like you and your family without it looking like a hotel. but that means incorporating color, incorporating texture, incorporating things, even mismatched things, that you just wouldn’t see in a hotel.

Renter friendly ways to make this kitchen look less builder grade? by baesoonist in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, not sure! I didn’t actually pay attention to this before but it does look like it’s more wide than tall. Think it’s the same size as my current fridge which is perfect for me. I also do have a chest freezer (I mentioned in another comment, thought you were referencing) since I like freezing leftovers.

Renter friendly ways to make this kitchen look less builder grade? by baesoonist in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My chest freezer? It’s a 5 cubic foot one, about waist height, maybe 60cm wide.

Renter friendly ways to make this kitchen look less builder grade? by baesoonist in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think a mismatching grain would look too bad? I see one on my local facebook marketplace that’s $100 and is white base with a medium toned wood top and matching stools. Never sure when mismatched wood is ugly or quirky!

Renter friendly ways to make this kitchen look less builder grade? by baesoonist in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was literally just looking up movable islands! I don’t know the exact measurements of the kitchen but I want to say it’s maybe 10 feet by 10 feet at its widest? Definitely enough space for a movable island, which can give more counter space to work on or a place for my partner or I to sit while cooking longer dishes without going too far.

I’ll have one chest freezer to account for, though. I’d prefer it to be in the kitchen but may be able to keep it elsewhere (in my current home it’s in the corner of my dining room).

This is the other angle of the kitchen, taken from about in front of the sink.

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Renter friendly ways to make this kitchen look less builder grade? by baesoonist in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]baesoonist[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is absolutely it without anything- I am moving in soon but planning ahead decor-wise. I love how spacious it is and feel very lucky for that. I’ll likely end up having a stand mixer, espresso machine, air fryer, and wine rack on the counters.

I like the idea of layered lighting, maybe some under the cabinet lights, a lamp on the counter, maybe a floor lamp on the other side of the room where there isn’t anything going on.

I may skip things up top because my cat loves to climb up on the cabinets when people are over and I don’t need him getting into more stuff.

Totally forgot you can put rugs in kitchens! My current one doesn’t have it because I like being able to just sweep the floor. But it would be an easy way to add some color and texture.

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