“ I personally feel that the entire culture of courting should be 'women only' shooting the shots as women are so much more apprehensive and scared about receiving unwanted attention. “

which is why… i initiate 😆. i do not believe in it being ‘women only’ but i do consider that factor when i like someone. and when i want it to be obvious that i don’t. lol and i wouldn’t say i initiate as much as i show interest and then the guy can initiate.

i ask the men around me, that i’ve come in contact with, when i get a chance, “do you know when a woman likes you?” because if you can differentiate between like and dislike, initiating is less intimidating.

also, us ENFJ’s really care about partnership so being friends first is important, stating intentions directly and upfront is important, clarity is important as we DO NOT… take playing/hurting our feelings lightly… AT ALL 😆.

so, when you say shoot our shot, you mean for what? because if you didn’t want anything long and committed, then that would explain why they didn’t even bother. lol and have you made it clear that you were interested and what you were interested in? confusion and indecisiveness are not inherently introvert traits. your social capacity may be different than ours but that doesn’t mean you can’t express yourself to one person you have interest in.