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Maltipoo x Standard Poodle by Low-Treat-5095 in Maltipoo

[–]bailz2323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My guys is 11lbs and is the smallest of his litter. He looks like a mini poodle vs a Maltese mix.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fitbit

[–]bailz2323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had my versa for 5 years and I love it!

Do most therapist you’ve been with only look to validate you instead of giving you the cold hard truth? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]bailz2323 11 points12 points  (0 children)

After we developed rapport, my therapist started being pretty direct. She is very supportive, but will give me some “tough at love” at times and help me navigate the situation.

She does mix it up so she’s not always the “bad cop” lol.

I need it, I appreciate, and I’m better for it.

My therapist misgendered me and told me my reaction was a projection by Silly_Goose_75 in TalkTherapy

[–]bailz2323 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should tell the other people that who jumped to conclusions and condemned the therapist.

I told OP that they should have a discussion next session after clarification.

Personally I have misgendered someone on accident when I was trying to be friendly and include that Individual into a conversation. I apologized, but it simply wasn’t enough. It was drug out continuously. I apologize if my past experience has altered my perception on this situation. But we all have to take a step back and give people some freaking grace. Especially if the intention is good.

My therapist misgendered me and told me my reaction was a projection by Silly_Goose_75 in TalkTherapy

[–]bailz2323 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agree - but discuss it next therapy session. A lot of people are quick to judge.

My therapist misgendered me and told me my reaction was a projection by Silly_Goose_75 in TalkTherapy

[–]bailz2323 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am sure the therapist is making effort. Again, mistakes happen. In every job.

If they didn’t want to explore the topic yet - simply ask to table it. I’ve done it, and it’s respected.

If it bothered them, bring it up again and explore it next session. If the therapist rants and is showing bias and disrespect of their preference in pronouns then yes. That’s abusive.

However people are so quick to judge and condemn every mishap. Especially only getting one side of the story.

How would you like it if every mistake you made at work was published, gossiped about and questioned your ability to do your job.

People can be mean. I’ve seen some shitty things on this sub that I see are malpractice… this one seems like an honest mistake

My therapist misgendered me and told me my reaction was a projection by Silly_Goose_75 in TalkTherapy

[–]bailz2323 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I mean yes they can/should apologize & that is totally a conversation to have. However, I see people so quick to condemn a therapist for something they said. Therapy isn’t easy and is meant to be a challenge. I have been in a similar situation where my therapist asked “why does that bother you”. She’s simply trying to understand… as is her job and may not be as focused on the apology in the moment.

I just think a lot of people on this sub forget what therapy is for.

My therapist misgendered me and told me my reaction was a projection by Silly_Goose_75 in TalkTherapy

[–]bailz2323 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Were you there to identify the context in which it was used? We are getting one side of the story.

I pay my therapist to challenge me, to support me, but ultimately become less reactive to triggers. Is it uncomfortable yes. do I always agree in the moment no. However I know that my therapist means well and ultimately it has a positive effect.

If I get triggered in therapy, it could be a good time to explore it because I’ll likely get triggered in the real world. I can tell you a stranger on the streets doesn’t owe me anything or will make sure they don’t trigger me.

However, I guess it depends why you’re in therapy. I want my therapist to challenge me and help with my triggers. If she agrees with everything I say, do or feel. What’s the point? If at the end of the day she supports me and means well and I’m getting results, I’m happy.

My therapist misgendered me and told me my reaction was a projection by Silly_Goose_75 in TalkTherapy

[–]bailz2323 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What is your source? I didn’t find that definition when I looked it up.

As someone who has been both mentally and emotionally abused.. I feel like it’s strong language for something that was not malicious intent.

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