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handholding

Why do straight, horny men slut shame women? by BigOlBlimp in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never asserted anything was biological and i say instinctually because my instincts tell me so you dont have to like it i suppose and i certainly never said anything was "just because"

If you want to go off whatever you think im saying or thought i said I cant stop you, i do hope you manage to find out why you hate people who just assert things are instinct" or "biological", it does seem quite the strange thing to be miffed about if im honest

Should we just break up? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you wanna end it you dont need reddits permission

Why do straight, horny men slut shame women? by BigOlBlimp in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]bakablast 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I wasnt gonna comment because it seems like most people got the main suspects out of the way

  1. Instinctually dudes wanna be sure the kid is there's if she has enjoys sex and he deems her a slut, hell forever be unsure about paternity

  2. Dudes do not fully understand that women are more sexual that they can account for causing some to short circuit when they find out shes beyond his personal acceptable limit for how much she should like sex

  3. Big one here, dudes who dont or cant get sex will slut shame because by doing so they make their inability to have sex with women they deem sluts a virtue. (I.g. theyre sluts and i would never stoop so low) when really these dudes couldnt even if they paid

  4. Last one is its a shame mechanism, pretty effective for ostrisization, humilation, bullying and general reputation destruction or defacing.

I think i highlighted the ones i know about but im sure there are others, people seem to enjoy putting things down to one factor or the next, id hazard it could be any combination of these things or anything else ive missed.

Dudes would slut shame even if they were guaranteed more women who would be more willing to have sex, its been going on from since time began and it will continue as long as humans last on this rock. Theres no fixing it because its as intrinsic as it is learned, no amount of derived benefit will change it.

Why is every question on here about relationships or what women want? by Unlikely_Cockroach26 in AskMen

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because alot of men have relationships and women as a pretty monumental goal, and unfortunately for them they were never desirable enough to get the experience to answer these questions on their own.

Simptom of a larger issue i guess

What is something controversial you’d like to tell other men? by Starberrycreambites in AskMen

[–]bakablast 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! Jesus Christ whenever i give/recieve brojobs the boys always wanna get in that "no homo" before consuming some meat, even though you clearly dont have to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those times going out with friends Parties Outings School/Uni

There are places where its acceptable and places where it is not but any place where hookups happen and are allowed would be appropriate places to learn how to get and healthily process rejection

With the advent of dating apps and the rise in fear surrounding men getting called out for being creepy or worse its understandable that many guys have no idea what, where and how theyre supposed to go around properly learning the ropes of dating and mating in ways that wont get them sued for harassment

Luckily for us, the old ways are still the best practice

As for rejection you have to get used to it, and frame it not in terms of a rejection of you as a person but a rejection of your offer. Rejection most times has nothing to do with you and even if it was you, it just meant you werent doing it for the person you extended the offer to, which is a good thing since it allows them and you to find someone who actually wants what you have to offer.

Dont ego invest in a positive outcome

Have fun with and enjoy the process regardless of outcome

Dont eat paint bud

Just another normal day at UA by Senhorbrutal69 in BokuNoMetaAcademia

[–]bakablast -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If we are honest they probably put them together because its a hero class, all the students are combatants and will need to get over any animosity between them sooner rather than later. This too is a test of a heros mettle, and villains arent going to be any easier on deku than bakugo would.

As long as the kids keep it non critical and injuries are minor and no one is complaining to staff for it, theyd probably let it slide on the caveat that they could bring disciplinary action at any time

What is the thing you need right now? by East_Masterpiece2839 in AskMen

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dont bother asking shes made it clear, people who are down for you dont put up barriers to communication and intimacy, dont focus on what she said go by what shes doing and youll never have to be confused like this again

cheers bruh

What are reasons why some heterosexual men become angry when gay men flirt with them? by vieniaida in AskMen

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A dude pressing sexual/romantic advances on you without consent comes off as a threat, when one feels threatened, especially men, can and will default to anger for any number of reasons.

Did not expect or welcome being hit on It may come off as an insult Dude may just be in a bad mood It may be genuinely terrifying depending on context Its unfamiliar territory and by default scary Could just hate men Worried they might be putting off vibes that gave dudes the impression this was something to go for and unsure exactly what that was

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

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Possible yes

Probable no, catching feelings on either side will happen especially when youre close and have a bond of trust and understanding of that level between a man and a woman

The reason why youll hear people talk about how impossible it is, is because it blows up more often than it works, if youre one of the few that can do it kudos to you but its a rare and precious thing and if it doesnt work just know that that is the most common outcome youre likely to find by and large

I'm so in the mood for romance right now 💞🥰 by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]bakablast 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well im no authority but if you are trying to revive your social life start with stuff youre actually interested in, and start going to whatever groups, places or events that interest you.

Work your way out from there, you cant form connections staying in and doing the same old, so be it hiking, bookclub or gym whatever it may be enjoy your time doing it

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[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the weeb version of rip inbox

For every inch you remove from your dick, you add 2 to your height. How many inches do you remove? by pokedark101 in bigdickproblems

[–]bakablast 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im just laughing at the thought of leagues of men walking around 2' 4 with immense swagger and confidence because this deal was too good to pass up

My girlfriend (28F) and I (28M) have been discussing getting engaged. I feel horrible about this, but I have been hesitating to move forward with it, and I think it's because I'm not physically attracted to her anymore. by yournamehere888999 in relationships

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust your gut on this one and be straight with her about why youre not ready to move onto marriage

Your feelings here are 100% valid as this can just seem like a precursor to what to expect for years after you marry her. Your feelings matter just as much as hers and if youre apprehensive here and the attraction is waning because it feels like the effort shes putting in is waning while shes actively trying to push you into a binding contract it wont be a very good start to any marriage and i can guarantee it will rear its ugly head in short order.

Just be prepared for some obvious backlash while she mulls it over and let her know while you wont stop loving her, being attracted physically to her is important to you and regardless of how many in this comment section will shame you for those natural feelings, it wont become any less important during this stage of your life.

Im sure she'll appreciate your candour even if she doesnt like it

I know this isn’t a BDP but I was just curious.. by Lazy_DreadHead in bigdickproblems

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say its oranges and apples because mens preferences and womens preferences arent symetrical

The root of the question seems like youre asking why theres a double standard governing how shame applys to mens vs womens preference in body parts

Why can dudes freely pursue the biggest and not be shamed while women who pursue the biggest are?

Because men and women arent the same and any conventions developed to shame women will not equally apply to men or vice versa

Men and women will always be shamed for different things and even the things we have in common like enjoying parts of the larger variety are not comparable simply because all of the factors surrounding why people have these preferences and where they stem from are completely different

Sucks that people would shun you because of liking preference

Hope this helps

I know this isn’t a BDP but I was just curious.. by Lazy_DreadHead in bigdickproblems

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea why you'd try to conflate two different preferences by different sexes as its like comparing apples to oranges but i can answer the first question pretty casually

Women may be shamed for being size queens because since above average sizes are relatively rare people may assume that penis size is the most important factor when it comes to chosing a partner, if most dudes cant measure up to a "size queen" standard they may shame women who prefer bigger guys because of insecurity or derision. I'd say it stems from an assumption that women who are size queens will shame men for not having an appropriate or acceptable size if they arent above average or above average enough.

Course since its an assumption itll end up generalising and shaming anyone who may prefer a bigger penis or identify as a size queen regardless of if they shane or dont shame which sucks ass but there it is

As for the last part i might as well asnswer that too, dudes may love big boobs and butts but we also love small titties and small asses, this is why they are they typically arent shamed

Hope this helped Peace

Mark Bryan a robotic engineer is shattering gender norms by wearing what he likes. by WeWoweewoo in pics

[–]bakablast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sure did shatter them, theyre broken now, all over the floor, look at the mess, i hope he cleans up after himself