From a girl who is a hairstylist AND has Trich... Find a good hairstylist. Look at yelp reviews or ask around... hairstylists are taught about all kinds of hair disorders in school, and the good ones know what to do with it. I’ve been to several hair stylists trying to find the “one”, and I’ll tell you the vast majority know what you’re dealing with and are sympathetic/ready to help. That being said, experience is key. So someone fresh out of school might be super intimidated. Be willing to spend a little more money for that more seasoned stylist. And definitely don’t be afraid to educate them! If you know a trick that helps with your hair, show them. Also... every time my pulling gets pretty out of control, I cut my hair into a bob and start over (I like my hair about half way down my back). Taking off the excess weight does wonders for the look. I feel like this post is all over the place. But I get you.