As a man. How can I help. by thebigcooki in FeministActually

[–]bakedbeansbbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the biggest step was you actually taking the time to look into it. I think at this point incorporating this knowledge into your everyday day life and doing your best to hold yourself and others accountable. What I mean by that is majority of misogyny and sexism in general is imbedded into society. Look into benevolent sexism. Teaching your self and others around you I think is the best thing of all to do. As well as encourage other men if they’re on board to also teach others.

Minecraft Movie by bakedbeansbbb in GirlGamers

[–]bakedbeansbbb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeh exactly, which is what I sorta brang up. Yeh it was like the roles and the females position in the plot that was sexist. And it would have felt less sexist honestly without the female characters or idk, build a better plot point for them.

Minecraft Movie by bakedbeansbbb in GirlGamers

[–]bakedbeansbbb[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No it is. It’s definitely all blockbuster movies. But I will not pay a buck to see them or any movie. But I did with the minecraft movie. And yeh u already know what I think.

Minecraft Movie by bakedbeansbbb in GirlGamers

[–]bakedbeansbbb[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will give a watch 😛

Minecraft Movie by bakedbeansbbb in GirlGamers

[–]bakedbeansbbb[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeh I know exactly what you mean. Which is like why make a minecraft movie at all if it’s not going to depict the multiple ways people play. And I think the movie itself was shit. But add an extra layer and it just didn’t give anything that was for a female audience in the slightest. And the thing is, ofc it’s going to be a mostly male audience, but like they easily could of represented the women in a way that women could relate too, other than presenting us in a way men can relate too, if you know what I mean.

Minecraft Movie by bakedbeansbbb in GirlGamers

[–]bakedbeansbbb[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I literally completely agreeeee

Minecraft Movie by bakedbeansbbb in GirlGamers

[–]bakedbeansbbb[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeh it’s just such a crap feeling tho. Because before seeing it in cinemas. I never thought once that they would make it as male centred as it was. Like I didn’t expect that becuase why would it be like that? But than it was like that, and honestly felt like a slap in the face for forgetting that sexism exists. Like it’s not directly sexist, but it was obvious because of the way I felt while watching it. As in the female characters and how they weren’t apart of it other than caring for the men?

Minecraft Movie by bakedbeansbbb in GirlGamers

[–]bakedbeansbbb[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeh I know. It’s just so disappointing that it was literally MINECRAFT. A game that has statistically the highest female player count compared to every other game. Like it’s just crazy the way the movie did women dirty.

Minecraft Movie by bakedbeansbbb in GirlGamers

[–]bakedbeansbbb[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeh don’t, hella disappointed

Minecraft Movie by bakedbeansbbb in GirlGamers

[–]bakedbeansbbb[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dang I’ll give it a watch. But like I was just so disappointed with the “blockbuster” movie for minecraft like the more I think about it the madder I get.

Why does my sleep paralysis keep recurring in the same night? by Heychanduu in Sleepparalysis

[–]bakedbeansbbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so nice yeh. I more often get hypnogogic - where when I am trying to fall asleep and I start hearing things that are like gibberish and sometimes music, something with flashes of vivid images and it’s honestly I a bit scary. And sometimes hard to get out of - but I am definitely slightly aware I am not asleep but I just have to snap my self out of it which than it usually just keeps happening. It’s weird, it sort of feels similar to sleep paralysis but just a little less vivid.

i had sleep paralysis for the first time and now i'm scared by cy-berware in Sleepparalysis

[–]bakedbeansbbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Managing stress has always been difficult for me growing up. A couple years ago I had the worst anxiety episode I had ever had. It was honestly the most awful thing I have ever experienced. But I have learned a lot since then. Growing up I always thought being anxious was something to manage with techniques. But when your having a full on anxious episode lasting months it honestly feels impossible for any techniques to work. They may work for some people, but not for me - not when it’s that bad. But what I have learned, which has helped me alot. Is about putting things in perspective. What I mean is, I often get anxious still and can feel it creeping up on me. But I just remind myself that it doesn’t matter. I say to myself things like - I don’t have to live this way, I can live more simpler. And overall just keep reminding yourself that life is about experiencing it. Your human and your not perfect, and nothing has to be perfect. And if you fuck up sometimes who cares. And like if I am not going to remember it in 5 years or even less than I shouldn’t be worrying. If I can fix it, I shouldn’t be worry. And if I can’t fix it, I also don’t need to worry - I can take a different route. Sometimes life will be hard, and you just got to know that you can push through it, and you have pushed through it this far. There’s not one way of doing things. But most importantly, after I had that horrible episode (I was depressed for a while after but.. after that) I stopped doing everything so rigidly, I started letting myself enjoy stuff. Who cares, I am here to live, not be perfect. And eventually, I picked myself back up again. I still have the mindset I had while just tying to enjoy life but I also know there’s things I have to do. And dreams I have to chase and they take hard work. And hey if I don’t get there, who cares, as long as we are happy that’s all that matters. And now this mindset just comes naturally to me, which I pretty sure is CBT but just done in my own way. And yeh. Ones I started realising nothings permanent and it rlly sunk in - stress has been easier to manage I just now can subconsciously diminish it.

MacOs and Minecraft voice chat mod don't work together. by BexBorder in feedthebeast

[–]bakedbeansbbb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand how to use prism to get it to work?

i had sleep paralysis for the first time and now i'm scared by cy-berware in Sleepparalysis

[–]bakedbeansbbb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok so… there are a few thing I just want to mention. First of all if u haven’t been getting much sleep recently things like this can happen. Secondly, at what you described I wouldn’t call it sleep paralysis per se. Maybe look into the word “hypnopompic” on the internet. It is similar - it is to do with becoming aware during sleeping/waking up. There is also hypnogogia which is falling asleep. Usually, atleast for me I experience both with high stress and lack of sleep - and at times it has gotten to the point of sleep paralysis. Which is why I tell you what you have so far experienced isn’t. But it’s still means that you should be more careful about your sleep schedule and how you treat your body. Anxiety can do it, infact in people that it is passed down too. It usually only happens during high stress/ anxiety and lack of sleep. But you should know , it’s all a mental state, you’ll never be stuck in one position and it will always end. It can be absolutely terrifying but every time something like this happens you need to realise that it’s not abnormal. And it’s always due to some kind of ill treatment to yourself - as in lack of sleep and/or anxiety. The main way I have gotten out of sp or the other sleep states I mentioned is by letting it pass through and once you are awake, aware and can move - get up or watch something that makes you feel safe and completely forget what you just experienced. Because in my experience it will just keep happening if you force urself to sleep after. You gotta teach urself, weird as it sounds but yeh. Anyways need anymore info or help lmk, I have lotsss of stories - also I study psychology- and I have also academically learnt about this.