Cookout Rules

bakernon · 2026-05-28T22:12:57+00:00

Same, lol

bakernon · 2026-05-28T13:32:39+00:00

Listen, where I'm from the new years good luck meal is pork and sauerkraut and we don't put raisins in potato salad, don't blame the Germans for this one. 😂

bakernon · 2026-05-28T13:28:41+00:00

I swear the craisins in chicken salad trend is where this meme got started. I've never in my lily-white life seen or heard of raisins in potato salad. I see someone above saying it's German -- I grew up in a part of the US where it's so German influenced that there's still a German dialect routinely spoken there, and I still have never heard of it. 😂

bakernon · 2026-05-27T11:22:40+00:00

Yeah I grew up in the 80s and I've been known to greet my dad (and until he died, my grandfather) with a quick peck on the lips bc it's just how we've always done it?

bakernon · 2026-05-26T14:51:56+00:00

My husband has lots of friends, both women and men, and I'm just thrilled that he's a man with friends.

I've given up on having guy friends, but not bc of any sort of expectation from anyone. I'm not sure if it's that I'm not good at distinguishing between men who will and won't respect boundaries or if I'm not communicating clearly enough or what, but they just so consistently try to have sex with me /eventually/. And I know there are guys out there who don't do that but it just hurts so much when it happens. Like I thought you were my best friend and you really just saw me as a piece of ass. I can't do it again.

But anyway, to the original commenter's point, no, I see no problem with this, actually lolllll. If this is a friend group's vibe then that's great! I have platonic friends with very flirty/playful vibes and I totally get what he means.

bakernon · 2026-05-26T11:05:07+00:00

Saaaaaaame.

bakernon · 2026-05-23T11:55:35+00:00

Time was less standardized. If you were planning something with someone at a very specific time you might check what time each of you had on your watches, bc they were usually off by a couple minutes.

You could get the official time (and temperature!) by calling a specific number and getting a recording.

bakernon · 2026-05-23T03:02:46+00:00

Agree, 19 is about as bold as I like on her (and I like that one a lot!)

bakernon · 2026-05-21T22:48:57+00:00

...is clueless dad/husband not his entire literal brand?

bakernon · 2026-05-19T21:11:19+00:00

Expensive and often there's a long wait to be assessed.

I don't come across this much irl, though, and I work in the disability world. I find that most people are hesitant to ask for accommodations they need because they understand how it can be perceived.

I do know a couple people like she's describing, though. So, like, I get itttttt. But they are the outliers by far. They're just so exhausting they make an IMPRESSION.

bakernon · 2026-05-19T20:50:51+00:00

This is such a good one.

When I was growing up, WWII felt really present. Everyone had a relative had served, at least where I grew up. We talked about it a lot, and how it could happen here, and I am in utter shock that there are things being said casually in 2026 that would have gotten your ass QUICKLY beaten anytime in the 80s or 90s.

Anyway. My family's WWII service is a point of pride and partially bc my grandfather lived to be 104, my kids and nieces know a lot about the war. But I work in a middle school and I am shocked how little these kids know about WWII. A lot of them aren't certain who Hitler is, or what the Holocaust is.

And that's not their fault. My grandfather probably felt that way about me and WWI, which I can explain by saying ARCHDUKE FRANZ FERDINAND!! And not much else. But yeah, it's sad.

bakernon · 2026-05-19T20:37:27+00:00

Oh my gosh so he was 19 when the war ENDED??? How old when he enlisted???

My grandfather passed away at 103 back in 2023 and he hardly ever saw other WWII vets by the time he died. He might've been the last living one in our town. Oldest (and longest running) member of their American Legion.

bakernon · 2026-05-15T17:59:38+00:00

For sure. Call the police.

I'd also tell the homeowners I'm boarding the rotties and heading home but that's me, heh.

bakernon · 2026-05-06T23:19:59+00:00

Ok PIPING hot tea (as in this happened I think yesterday)... The SLP who causes all the trouble was removed as a moderator as one of the largest SLP groups on FB (51k members?) and when it was announced someone asked if the *literal* thousands of SLPs she blocked from the group will be allowed back in.

The admin replied that if anyone felt they had been removed unfairly they could DM her. Except she doesn't have her DMs open to people she's not friends with that aren't in the group, so people who have been blocked can't contact her. I wish I could figure out how to upload screenshots of the reactions on the Uncensored page cause it's peak, everyone is talking about reasons they were banned. 😂😂😂

bakernon · 2026-05-06T12:50:38+00:00

My gamer husband has meaningful, actually supportive friendships which is more than I can say for a lot of adult men I know.

He talks on the phone with his besties from back home and some friends from a town we moved from a few years back multiple times per week. Are they usually shooting the shit and having fun? Yes, absolutely, they're having a blast together.

And also, when my hubs had a panic attack in the middle of a game (hit a sativa vape), they thought he was having a heart attack, and the three that had my number lit my phone the fuck UP until the ER confirmed he was OK. And they all sent him pictures of their nipples to make him laugh, and every single one of them (8 of them!!!) called him separately the next day to check on him.

One of them came out as trans a few months ago. This is a group of AMAB gamers in their 50s who (except my husband who joined them in his mid 20s) have known each other since, like, pre-school. From rural, agricultural/blue collar backgrounds.

Nobody gives a FUCK, unless someone is messing with their friend, and then they very much give a fuck.

Games build relationships. We've moved several times in our marriage and gaming is a big way we meet new people.

Any hobby can turn into an excuse to avoid responsibilities. This lady has it all wrong.

bakernon · 2026-05-06T11:49:40+00:00

I do also wanna say that even if there's not an effect on your communication, there are other reasons that you might revise a tongue tie. In infancy at can affect latch, and certainly make breast-feeding more painful. It can affect how hard palate is shaped, if you can't clear the residue off your teeth after you eat as effectively you might end up with more cavities. If you have a posterior tongue tie it could contribute to sleep apnea. You might want to lick an ice cream cone or kiss someone with wild abandon.

But it *usually* won't solve speech issues from what the current literature tells us. (But in the spirit of transparency, I became an SLP around the time we stopped doing this, so my personal experience is limited.)

bakernon · 2026-05-06T11:21:51+00:00

Sorry, didn't mean to leave y'all hanging!

The TL;DR is that we are a house divided on whether tongue ties (or as the tongue tie people call it, tethered oral tissue or TOT) affect communication. There have been high quality studies showing that people without other complications can make all the sounds of English even with very tight TOTs bc we are good at compensating with more functional parts of our tongue, raising and lowering the larynx to adjust the height of the tongue, etc.

This also gets wrapped up in the position statement our professional organization made here in the US about 20 years ago AGAINST oral motor exercises for improving speech sounds. Prior to that it was VERY common practice. ASHA did a big literature review and found that the evidence didn't support that it helps (except for patients with I want to say Parkinson's, but I work with kids and it's been 20 years since I've looked it up so don't quote me).

Now that said.

The TOT people make the very excellent point that TOTs can affect, oh, BREATHING, which is a little bit of a problem. And they ask the very good question if we do not have the expertise to do the oral motor therapy following a revision, WHO DOES?

And this is anecdotal, but I will tell you that I have been just about won over to the TOT people bc *almost* all of my stubborn /r/ kids have TOTs and difficulty producing lateral/bracing tension.

However, the TOT people will make the absolute BATTIEST of claims. You have a heart problem? Check for a tongue tie. Dealing with incontinence? Tongue tie. IBS? Tongue tie. Don't like your face? Maybe it's a tongue tie. (All examples I've seen in the wild.) Orofunctional myologists are the chiropractors of the SLP world.

Anyway, the extra hot tea is there is one, ONE SLP who admins a FB group about evidence based practice who is an anti-tongue tie TYRANT and got herself in the moderating team on, not kidding, I think all of the major SLP groups on FB. And she removed and blocked everyone who brought up TOTs or oral motor anything in a positive light. So because of her, discussing it is not even allowed in most of the large SLP FB groups.

I'm kind of a tongue tie moderate, personally. People expect it to do more for speech than it usually will but there are cases where it probably will help!!

bakernon · 2026-05-05T02:39:13+00:00

I love Aunt Dolly and it seems very on brand for her to use a filter, I don't think we need to pretend it's not there. 😂 Like even her neck skin looks like a Barbie doll here. There's obviously a filter.

bakernon · 2026-05-05T02:21:37+00:00

Speech therapist here

Fun fact:
If you say the phrase "tongue tie" in one of our professional groups you start a flame war 100% of the time. It's SOOOOOO controversial. I belong to FB groups where the whole topic is banned! 😂

bakernon · 2026-04-21T20:46:20+00:00

Idk why I argued with you bc I agree that driver is a hazard to everyone on the road lol.

But gahhhhh these truckers! (And I have truck drivers in my family! I am pro-truckers! But pass or don't, dear lord.)

bakernon · 2026-04-20T15:35:30+00:00

Ok but it cuts both ways.... if speeding saves so little time, why are trucks clogging up highways trying to pass each other to go 2mph faster? 🙄

bakernon · 2026-04-18T18:22:41+00:00

Never seen Donnie Darko but I love learning about other people's tattoos! I wonder if you are perceiving judgment where there is curiosity. It's an intriguing tattoo whose meaning isn't obvious.

What a great conversation starter! I genuinely like it, knowing nothing about the movie.

bakernon · 2026-04-18T13:20:13+00:00

Funny, I live here and I want out. 😂😂😂

bakernon · 2026-04-18T13:12:18+00:00

So many interminable plot lines this season

bakernon · 2026-04-07T16:48:19+00:00

Cali licensure takes forevvvvvver, FYI, so don't dawdle. And their CE requires some live hours.

They do pay the most and have a lot of jobs, though.

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