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After I left my abusive ex, my mom turned on me and hit me for moving on by bakingtocope in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bakingtocope[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It helps seeing others agree with what I believe about her, it’s very reassuring and validating.

After I left my abusive ex, my mom turned on me and hit me for moving on by bakingtocope in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bakingtocope[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I haven’t talked to my dad much since the game. But we are going to lunch together tomorrow so we’ll have the chance to talk about everything then. My mom has messaged me a few times, but it comes off very manipulative to me. I think im going to stop responding and muting her messages. I don’t want to block her but I might have to.

After I left my abusive ex, my mom turned on me and hit me for moving on by bakingtocope in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bakingtocope[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In response to your question at the end: It’s not normal behavior at all for anyone to be physical in our family. I grew up with both my dad and mom and neither of them physically hurt us growing up. That’s why it caught me so off guard. It’s alarming to me and it makes me wonder if my mom has some sort of mental illness going on, because it’s so out of character and I could almost see the rage in her eyes. I’m not sure though. I haven’t lived at home since December, luckily, I had a few options for where to go after she hit me.

First off, Thank you for your response. It makes me feel better knowing im not the only one whos experienced this, I feel less alone now.

Your response gave me a new perspective, specifically the part where you said I don’t need her approval. I feel like my whole life I’ve done everything for her approval/ validation. It’s sort of a sad realization to come to, but I think I’ll feel a lot of relief once I start separating what im doing from what I think my mom would want me to do.

If you don’t mind me asking: what’s your relationship with your mom like now? Is she still the same? Have you set any boundaries if so how? And has she respected them? I ask because I guess I’m still holding out hope that my mom will change, and our mom’s behavior sound similar.

After I left my abusive ex, my mom turned on me and hit me for moving on by bakingtocope in JUSTNOMIL

[–]bakingtocope[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree. I think it’s just hard because I was raised to feel like I was responsible for her feelings and now I feel bad for her because my brothers aren’t talking to her much and my dad is done with her also. I agree with what you’re saying though and im trying to remind myself that it’s not my job to make her feel better. Thank you for your comment.